Well, I went by airplane to see my nephew and his wife in another state. I was only going to stay two nights, but I didn't even make it one night.
About six months ago, my nephew and my niece (his wife), had her grandparents visiting. They have 3 dogs and the grandmother said she was allergic to dogs and had to stay in a motel. Well, my niece had a huge fit about how someone doesn't like dogs and if you want to come and visit she wants her visitors to stay with her. To make a long story short she is sort of a drama queen and she even posted about it on facebook how if you don't like her dogs then please just don't visit.
Well, I love dogs. So, I trotted off to visit them and picked up my 2 young nieces on the way. I got to their house and the house is filthy. I mean this is the worst filth I have ever seen. There was mud all over the floors, there were dog nose prints all over the windows you could not even see out of them. I could see black mold growing on parts of the living room wall. The dogs came in from outside and jumped all over us, muddy from being outside, and she just laughed and thought it was funny. She gave us a pillow to put over our legs because she knew the dogs were going to do this. I guess this is a normal occurance in their household.
Then, she took me and my 2 nieces, ages 11 and 13 to our room. In the basement. Dark, dirty, moldy, cold, damp. There was a queen size bed and a couch. The bed had a huge hole in the middle of it. She put some blankets in the middle of the bed and put a sheet over it.
They just had a baby, and she was adorable as could be at 5 months old. I love children very, very much and their 2 1/2 year old, screamed for 3 hours nonstop. My niece and nephew are fighting and screaming at each other the whole time. I started to feel a panic attack coming on. I am thinking to myself that I cannot stay here. I am thinking that if I stay in this filthy house I am going to be very sick, and my 13 year old niece uses an inhaler for asthma.
My dilemma was that I didn't want to hurt my nephews wife's feelings because I know from first hand knowledge that she gets upset about this. I called my husband and he told me to tell them how I felt about the dog hair all over (there were piles up it everywhere), and that I was allergic etc... and to go to a motel. Well, I didnt want to upset this girl. I just had a panic attack.
The next thing I knew I was telling my nephew and his wife that my husband was sick back home and he was taken to the hospital from work and that I needed to get back there. Then my 2 nieces and myself were in the car and I went to the nearest hotel. I called my brother(their dad) from there and told him the same lie and that I was going to be dropping the girls off in the morning instead of 2 days later like I had originally planned.
That night I called my husband and told him what I did. He is a little upset about my lying but I told him that I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. He keeps saying he would have just told them the truth from the beginning, but he understood why I did it. So, that night I booked a one way ticket home for the next day. So, here I sit, feeling guilty about lying to my family and guilty for spending extra money a plane ticket. What a whirlwind trip.
What would you have done? Would you have told them the truth about the dogs and the house and risk being criticized by her and hurting her feelings. My husband says I always worry too much about other peoples feelings instead of taking care of myself first.
Then I had to tell everyone my husband is fine and out of the hospital and I am taking care of him. I am such a liar.
What would you have done in this situation?
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