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09-09-2022 07:17 AM
The pas 4 years, my friend has forgotten my birthday 3 times. She forgot again this year, remembered last year because we talked about it and forgot in 2020 and 2019. When she forgets, there's no card, phone call or text. We've known each other for over 30 years. Haven't lived in the same state for 22 of those years. She is married, no children. The thought that maybe there are so memory issues has crossed my mind but she is in the medical profession and remembers and does so much. What would you say or do at this point? I always send her a card AND call her for her birthday.
09-09-2022 07:24 AM
I would say or do nothing.......
09-09-2022 07:29 AM
As hard as it might be, I would suggest that you try really hard to not take it personally. Some people just don't do whatever it takes to keep up with others birthdays. Yes, I think it is inconsiderate of her, but it may not necessarily reflect her true feelings about you and how much she vales your friendship. Obviously there is much that we (as readers of your post) don't know......my point is that one would be wise to keep in mind that people are just wound up differently and your friend may not realize that her forgetfulness is hurtful. As her longtime friend, maybe you would want to have thus talk with ber...because she probably skips others' birthdays, too (like her family members). For whatever its worth, happy "late" birthday from me!
09-09-2022 07:30 AM
I probably would not say or do anything either. Has she always been forgetful? Maybe she does not put importance on birthdays?
If I acknowledge someone's birthday, I do not expect them to acknowledge mine. I do it because I want to.
09-09-2022 07:30 AM
Might be that after all these years she is more important to you than you are to her.
For her next birthday maybe just send her a text.
09-09-2022 07:31 AM
stop sending a card to her
as adults do we need or expect our peers to remember our Birthdays,
09-09-2022 07:38 AM
I speak only for myself. I do Nothing of a social manner in hopes of reciprocation. Letting others know I think of them makes Me happy. I'm never expecting anyone do the same as me.
09-09-2022 07:47 AM
@candys mine wrote:I speak only for myself. I do Nothing of a social manner in hopes of reciprocation. Letting others know I think of them makes Me happy. I'm never expecting anyone do the same as me.
@candys mine i concur wholehearedly. I say "no expectations; no disappointments." I also am an anonymous gift-giver.
Keep being you Candys Mine.
09-09-2022 07:53 AM
I wouldn't worry about it. if it bothers you, reciprocate by forgetting her birthday.
09-09-2022 07:58 AM
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