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Re: My DH Handed in Wedding List without My Input

Ford1224: At least you weren't overly stressed (your first marriage) as many brides are now-a-days. (I don't quite understand how they manage to do it. {#emotions_dlg.blink}) In a way, it probably was a blessing for you.

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Folks must have a lot of extra money now-a-days. With all of those wedding/dresses TV shows, etc. Almost looks to be the 'norm'.

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Regardless, let us know how it's going. Updates. This is an interesting thread, BTW.

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Re: My DH Handed in Wedding List without My Input

My perspective other than my thoughts about, as you say DH? Don't you know how to contact your son?
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Re: My DH Handed in Wedding List without My Input

If the invitations have not been sent out yet, call your son and get it straightened out. You and your DH should have filled it out together. I am sure your son will understand.

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On 3/14/2015 hckynut said: My perspective other than my thoughts about, as you say DH? Don't you know how to contact your son?


Ha John! D doesn't alllllways stand for 'Dear'.{#emotions_dlg.laugh}

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Re: My DH Handed in Wedding List without My Input

Life's a dance you learn as you go............

Don't sweat the petty stuff and don't pet the sweaty stuff...

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You must remember, how your actions will reflect on your son, his new wife and anyone else that may be privy to 'this list'.....(son's future in-laws?).

Is this going to be viewed as 'Mother must have final say'.

OR:

Father's input doesn't matter or must be agreed upon with/by you?

Are there issues with you and anyone your husband has on that list?

Your son is just starting off on the marriage adventure. How will he be towards his wife's 'wishes' (invite lists)?

Was your husband being disrespectful or thought he was just trying to move these time sensitive things forward and just wanted to get 'er done?

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I would have called my son and discussed it with him immediately ...and promptly let my DH know how I felt about what he did.

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Re: My DH Handed in Wedding List without My Input

Sorry, I can't relate. I never saw any list for my son's wedding only supplied a list of addresses and they did the rest.

Perhaps you're making more of this than you need to.