My DH Handed in Wedding List without My Input

perryp · ‎03-20-2010

I need feedback. My son gave us a form for who we'd like to invite to his wedding. I have no family and DH has a big family.

We stared to talk it over & he didn't like my thought to not include some of the people we never contact except at funerals & wedding and really have no relationship with.

Yesterday I asked if we could go over the list & he told me he already did it and gave it to my son.

Now I'm upset...help me get some perspective please. ${#emotions_dlg.sad}$

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

I don't blame you for being upset. I would be too.

~What a terrible era in which idiots govern the blind.~ William Shakespeare

ID2 · ‎06-25-2012

Ask your son if you can see the list. Take off the names of those you don't want coming to the wedding. Your dh doesn't have to know now does he.

"Pure Michigan"

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

He was rude. Ask for the list.

perryp · ‎03-20-2010

Thanks I was barely speaking to him yesterday and don't want to carry this negativity all week end.

Preds · ‎12-17-2012

The negativity will go away when you get to whittle down his list.

Fate whispers to her, "You cannot withstand the storm." She whispers back, "I am the storm."

perryp · ‎03-20-2010

On 3/14/2015 Preds said:
The negativity will go away when you get to whittle down his list.

Hi Preds-great point I think that's right. Thanks!

betteb · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/14/2015 ID2 said:
Ask your son if you can see the list. Take off the names of those you don't want coming to the wedding. Your dh doesn't have to know now does he. ${#emotions_dlg.devil2}$

This ${#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}$

Disclaimer-I'm a big believer in honesty in a relationship, but in this case, I think what he doesn't know wont hurt him.

It's God's job to judge the terrorists. It's our mission to arrange the meeting. U.S. Marines

adelle38 · ‎03-09-2010

I agree with you that your husband was inconsiderate but it may be his family tradition to invite all relatives to weddings. Unless you son and his fiance have a problem with it, let it go.

It's always a victory for me when I remember why I entered a room.

CardinalGirl · ‎03-09-2010

Did your husband include everyone from YOUR side that you wanted to invite? If so, then you need to let it go. Why should you get to mark off family/friends that your husband would like to have at the wedding?