Re: My Childhood Home

wilma · ‎03-13-2010

I thought I would feel sad when my parents moved out of their house because that was my only childhood home. I lived there until I moved into my first apartment at age 26. I have a lot of memories and photos from those years.

It was a bit weird not celebrating the holidays in my childhood home that first year, but as long as we could get together the location wasn't that important. We've all hosted holidays and other events at our own homes since then.

Neither my parents nor my in-laws felt it was fair to leave their houses to just one of their children. They sold their homes to "strangers" before their deaths, and the profit went into their estates and was divided equally between the adult children with the grandchildren getting smaller amounts.

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

@wilma My sister lived 20/25 minutes from mom and dad. When dad died my sister was at mom's everyday. Sis worked full time and had young teenagers.

Mom didn't drive anymore so my sister got her groceries, prescriptions, took her to appointments.

It made sense for sis and her family to just move in plus mom would have company.

Mom called me and asked me if I was okay with my sister getting the house. I said it was a great idea and I had no problem. I couldn't be there all the time and it was good for mom.

Bella8888 · ‎08-25-2025

@FranandZoe

// The house is only about 5 miles away - my brother and I will occasionally take a ride past the house - big mistake. The yard is an unkempt jungle and the house is not well cared for either. It's sad. How I wish my hubby and I had bought the house - we could have easily turned it into a duplex and rented it out. //

By using a real estate agent as a go-between, you could make an offer to the current occupants anyway. Happens all the time in our area. We've received unsolicited offers for our house a couple of times.

~ Be brave as a bear and have a heart like an ocean ~

shoekitty · ‎03-10-2010

@wilma wrote:
I thought I would feel sad when my parents moved out of their house because that was my only childhood home. I lived there until I moved into my first apartment at age 26. I have a lot of memories and photos from those years.

It was a bit weird not celebrating the holidays in my childhood home that first year, but as long as we could get together the location wasn't that important. We've all hosted holidays and other events at our own homes since then.

Neither my parents nor my in-laws felt it was fair to leave their houses to just one of their children. They sold their homes to "strangers" before their deaths, and the profit went into their estates and was divided equally between the adult children with the grandchildren getting smaller amounts.

@wilma My mom did the same with her properties she always had her properties in a trust with our names on it. When she passed all was divided She would have been upset if any person other than her children got it. I have seen this done. Then because of unexpected deaths and circumstances the property or money winds up in the hands of a total stranger. I mean total stranger. In one case property and money wound up in probate. Because in the long run, that house the OP, BILinherited , will wind up in his family. Then either sold, or passed on. But you could say, in the end maybe that's what's meant to be.

“sometimes you have to bite your upper lip and put sunglasses on”….Bob Dylan

bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

Your BIL sounds unhappy, withdrawn and depressed?

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

@bikerbabe He has been this way ever since I have known him.

jlkz · ‎12-02-2013

@CrazyKittyLvr2

Insomnia is very draining and the next day can be hard to get through. Went through a bout of it a few years ago...

Sorry to hear you have been dealing with it for a while....

We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.
Sir Winston Churchill

SamBrown · ‎03-10-2010

@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
@Janey2 My sister took Mom to her appointments, got per meds etc. I went down a lot to do what I could. Sometimes I took a day off work and went to visit.

I do know if my husband were in the house he would have never, ever made my sister feel unwelcome. My sister was like everyone else, they loved my husband. He loved my sister too. Heck, I used to joke that my parents loved my DH more than they did me.

My BIL's life revolves around his huge TV in the family room. He goes from the recliner to the bathroom and the kitchen during the day. Period. He doesn't like anything that takes away from his TV viewing.

@CrazyKittyLvr2 Maybe he is depressed.

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

@SamBrown He has loved being planted in front of the TV as long as I have known him, 1973.

When my sister retired in 2019, (I believe) she complained to me about him and his TV. She thought when they were retired he would suddenly change. He didn't.

It is what it is.