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[UpNorthGorgy]

I was a full time Stepmother for 10 years. Full custody. I had alot of the responsibility and few perks.  Mother was still around for the fun times.  Due to this fact we did not have children. I did a great job  of parenting.  Both girls doing well as adults. I am often ignored or an after thought.

Even more estranged now as divorced from Dad 23 years, who  has ignored his daughters. I think his  poor mental health, addiction  and a jealous overbearing  4th wife is large part of the problem.

[Regal Bee]

@SandySparkles   This is not a happy day for me...I had a very poor relationship with my mother...makes me sad to this day. I do have a wonderful husband and feel unbelievably blessed by that. 

[qvcfreak]

Sending you hugs @udc and I know your daughter is watching over you. 

[gidgetgh]

I never ever tell someone else how to feel when I am not walking in their shoes. 

[ThinkingOutLoud]

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@gidgetgh wrote:

I never ever tell someone else how to feel when I am not walking in their shoes. 

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I haven't read a single post in this thread that is doing that. 

[DottieBlue]

Not every "special day" that is recognized in our society applies to everyone.  I think we all know that.

Not everyone is a Christian yet Easter is a big deal in our country, too.  Accordingly, should there be Hallmark Cards recognizing this?  Our society tried to be all-inclusive for the winter holidays by wishing others "Happy Holidays!" Then that was loudly criticized as a "war on Christmas." 

Can't officially recognize everyone's personal circumstance,  can't please everyone -- darned if you do and darned if you don't.

[JoyFilled Warrior]

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@udc wrote:

Thank you so much for your post.  My mother is passed and my only daughter just passed on April 2nd at 48 years old.  It is a sad day for me but your post helps others understand that it is not happy for everyone.  Thank you for helping make other understand.

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@udc   Im sad to hear about the recent passing of  your only daughter. 

May the peace as a result of your love, your daughter's love, & the love of many others, all  comfort you at this very delicate time @udc 

                  

[JoyFilled Warrior]

And @udc 

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[Sapphiregal]

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@Carolina925 wrote:

I'm not a mother due to health issues when I was just into my 20s. It's something I always wanted to be, even ahead of wanting to be a fairy princess! It's difficult for me but I try to remember that everything has a reason and I believe my story was written way before I came along. I think the most difficult thing would be to lose a child, so I try to think of things that would be worse than never having one at all. Wishing a very happy day to all the mothers.

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@Carolina925 

Getting to be a mother and watching that child grow and change year by year is the greatest gift ever. I am so sorry you didn't get to have that experience. And, you are right that losing a child is the very worst. I lost my son in 1999 - he had just turned 27 after a 6 year battle with cancer. I have never known such a deep unending sadness, even still, after all these years.

[Desertdi]

My mother denied that she was related to me...