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[JJsMom]

If this girl has had a pattern of bullying, why is she only now thinking of taking away the iPod? She thought grounding and manual labor would solve the problem rather than taking away the source of the bullying? Along with selling the iPod, an apology to the people she bullied and maybe some community service would have been better consequences. It sounds like the mom has issues too.

[Lipstickdiva]

JJsmom that's why I'd like to know how old this girl is. She looks young to me. IMO young enough that she had no business being on social media to begin with.

I have very strong opinions about parents who allow young kids on FB and other social media sites, especially unsupervised. If this has been going on this long, IMO the girl shouldn't have been allowed on social media period.

I wonder if this child is only a bully on social media or in everyday life as well.

[JJsMom]

On 1/15/2014 LipstickDiva said:

JJsmom that's why I'd like to know how old this girl is. She looks young to me. IMO young enough that she had no business being on social media to being with.

I have very strong opinions about parents who allow young kids on FB and other social media sites, especially unsupervised. If this has been going on this long, IMO the girl shouldn't have been allowed on social media period.

I wonder if this child is only a bully on social media or in everyday life as well.

I can't find her age. I agree that many kids who are on social media are too young to be there.

The irony of this story is that mom doesn't realize the power of social media herself. Now her daughter will be labelled a bully and in turn could be bullied because of the media attention. This could affect her ability to get into college or land a job in the future. That photo will forever be associated with her daughter when people google her. Great job, mom!

[foundinlv]

Why does a kid that young need access to social media in the first place? How dumb is that! The mother should have taken away the Ipod and smartphone immediately.

[Sushismom]

On 1/15/2014 LipstickDiva said:

And if you read some of previous posts, it has been pointed out this woman tried other forms of punishment like grounding, manual labor, etc. The mom said "you name it, I've done it." None of that helped. So all of a sudden making her sell her I-Pod and donating the money is going to do the trick?

I guess it's worth a shot but what if that doesn't work?

And what if humiliating her daughter doesn't work?

[foundinlv]

On 1/15/2014 LipstickDiva said:

JJsmom that's why I'd like to know how old this girl is. She looks young to me. IMO young enough that she had no business being on social media to begin with.

I have very strong opinions about parents who allow young kids on FB and other social media sites, especially unsupervised. If this has been going on this long, IMO the girl shouldn't have been allowed on social media period.

I wonder if this child is only a bully on social media or in everyday life as well.

You're right!

[JJsMom]

This just appeared in m FB feed. I'm posting only part of it...

How to Destroy Your Child's Heart and Trust -- One Facebook Post at a Time

Public shaming is awful and is nothing less than societally sanctioned parental bullying. Especially harmful to the young people against whom it is used as a weapon, the ramifications will resonate throughout their lives. They aren't as tough as we pretend we are.

Friends, this is not funny or classy. It is brutal and base.

Not even a little bit funny.

It's not laughable when they are the tiny ones with lisps and shiny smiles blissfully unaware of the sign that just announced, to the ENTIRE world, they pooped in the tub. Someday they won’t be four-years-old, and someday they might care.

That's a genie that can not go back in the bottle.

Frankly, this kind of behavior is as enjoyable as watching a hunched over man, his hands in the stocks, a tattered shirt blowing in the rain of a smoke-filled Middle Ages afternoon while raw sores and stiff muscles covered in rotting food attempt to shield a broken spirit.

Imagine that is an image of the heart of your child.

So, what could it cost you to post a picture of your kids in the “Get Along” shirt?

• Bully your kids and they will learn to fear you. As in be afraid of you. Cringing in your presence and hiding their lives from you.

• Publicly shame your kids and they will learn the only important character development is to be found in a good public persona and the fool’s gold of value based solely upon outward perception and public approval.

• Mock your children as they struggle and they will learn to never share their struggles with you.

• Share their weaknesses with the world and they will find the world to be cruel and will put you in the role of the cruelest of all.

• They will think they are a joke, not to be taken seriously. Their pain the only commodity to sell.

• They will treat you as you have treated them.

Think I’m over-reacting?

What if the red faced person was you with the sign, standing on the street corner, and your sign broadcast:

“Forgot to pay the cell phone bill and we got cut off and have to pay the late fee.”

“Yelled at a co-worker and lost my job. Now we are losing our house.”

“Went out and got drunk with my girlfriends and now I have a DUI.”

What if you and your spouse are in one of those Yelling Seasons and your kids posted a picture of you in the “Get Along” shirt?

Wouldn’t that be funny!? I mean, everyone fights, so it’s hysterical!

Wait… You aren’t laughing?

Maybe you don’t like being humiliated in public.

Why do you think your kids can handle it any better than you could?

http://www.blogher.com/destroying-your-childs-heart-one-fb-post-time

[Marp2]

Dear mom and dad,

I am so thankful I was raised as I was. In today's society I fully believe I would not be half the woman I am. I certainly did not like your "don't do the crime if you can't do the time" approach but I did learn to think first and to think beyond the immediate.

You did good.

With love and appreciation,

Me.

[Sushismom]

I don't think anyone here is disagreeing about punishment for this girl. The disagreement is about the humiliation.

In today's society, there are many well-behaved children. And in yesterday's society, there were misbehaved children. The when isn't relevant.

[raven-blackbird]

to understand humiliation...........and bulling does cause humiliation to the person receiving it.............you have to have expedience it.............to prevent bulling there has to be empathy and that is a learned trait......................good for the mom.................................raven