Mom's Punishment for Cyber Bully Daughter - Page 5

brii · ‎06-20-2010

On 1/14/2014 rondell said:
Everybody and anybody can tell another parent how to do the job. This mother did what she thought was right for her daughter. I have no problem teaching a child by example. Now she can get a good idea what it feels like to be punished for a wrong. It may keep her out of jail someday, who knows? I don't, and nobody else does either. All I know for sure, there will be someone who has to better answer.

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stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

If it was there I didn't see it, but it would be interesting to know what kind of 'cyber-bullying' the girl participated in. I also can't fathom the woman knew enough about the subject to feel so strongly about it but never thought the results of her 'discipline', posted on FB, would spread far and wide, as she claims... I might have forced the girl to give up her devices, and privately express her regrets to some of those she might have bullied, but I don't personally think public shaming was the way to go. Then again, as the mother points out, I don't know the specifics.

In my pantry with my cupcakes...

Luv2Decorate · ‎03-12-2010

I have not walked a mile in this mom's shoes. I have no idea what she has gone thru with this child. I don't think humiliation is a good thing, however humility is what is needed.

All I do know is that being proactive is better than not.

Topaz Gem · ‎03-10-2010

So what if the child is humiliated? We're raising a mamby pamby generation that cannot accept responsiblity, always blames someone/something else, and we're shielding our kids from learning about life. Life is tough sometimes! Many schools refuse to publish honor roll students' names now because the others may get their feelings hurt? Can you imagine what these shielded kids will be like when they're adults?

If the mother has tried various forms of punishment to no avail, then I applaud her for doing this. We've all been humiliated at some point in our early lives and we got over it and this child will too. This is something that she will never forget and I'm predicting that she will never be guilty of cyber-bullying again. Humiliation can work wonders if it's done properly.

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RINGER · ‎03-10-2010

I couldn't disagree more!!!

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

I commend the mother for disciplining her daughter. So sick of parents who are in denial about their children's behavior.

straykatz · ‎03-09-2010

On 1/14/2014 LucyGoose said:
I don't see anything wrong with what the mother did. I think back in the day, kids would get their butts whooped. Something's got to be done. Or else we'll have a world full of lazy, mean, or lazy and mean kids.

I somewhat agree...we are raising a generation of hyper-sensitive kids who feel little to no shame when they should and taking responsibilty for their actions is almost non-exisitent......there is a happy balance to discipline while teaching our children right from wrong but unfortunately that balance is not being met with many of todays parents who tend to shun disciplining their children.

EmmaBunting · ‎01-19-2013

On 1/15/2014 straykatz said:
On 1/14/2014 LucyGoose said:
I don't see anything wrong with what the mother did. I think back in the day, kids would get their butts whooped. Something's got to be done. Or else we'll have a world full of lazy, mean, or lazy and mean kids.

I somewhat agree...we are raising a generation of hyper-sensitive kids who feel little to no shame when they should and taking responsibilty for their actions is almost non-exisitent......there is a happy balance to discipline while teaching our children right from wrong but unfortunately that balance is not being met with many of todays parents who tend to shun disciplining their children.

no one here is saying that the child should not be disciplined. The disagreement is with the way the mother did it. I happen to believe that the best way to teach our children is by our own examples. What the mother did was shame and ridicule her daughter publicly. How does that show her not to bully and shame others publicly? There are better, more respectful ways to teach our children, in my opinion. If your child punches another......do you punch her back so she can "see what it feels like"? Of course not! And you don't shame your child so she can see what that feels like either.

Two wrongs never make a right.

shorelady · ‎03-10-2010

Too much time is spent deciding how NOT to offend the offender when dealing out punishment. Much too often, no consideration is given to those who suffered at the hands of a bully (cyber or otherwise). The bully is treated with kid gloves and told "that wasn't nice". Same said bully will turn around and do the same thing again and again. After all, there is no punishment for such behavior so why not continue.

The mother in this particular case had tried other variations of punishment, which didn't seem to work. I highly doubt this child will be scarred for life. Maybe she now understands how hurtful her actions were and that thankfully her mother won't tolerate this behavior in the future.

Sushismom · ‎03-09-2010

I don't think humiliating ANYONE is the right thing to do. Punishment? Yes. Selling off her iPod? Yes. Having her donate that money? Yes. Humiliate her? No.