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[SportyShorty07]

@SandySparkles  You're very welcome, Sandy Sparkles .  It takes strength to cry and show emotions and you are so strong thorugh good times and bad times! Always be true to yourself, your feelings and matters of the heart and mind . 

[SandySparkles]

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@Franklinbell wrote:

@SandySparkles Oh gosh!  Just let me say this.  I am thinking about you and praying for you.  I like to think our moms met and are smiling down on us daily!  You mommy did a PHENOMENAL job with you my friend!  To Sandy's mom, I say job well done!  

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 @Franklinbell Welcome!🥰 Your post made me smile!😁 All prayers are so appreciated!😊

THANK you SO much for caring to share such a sweet compliment regarding my mother this evening!🤗🤗 

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

[Greeneyedlady21]

@SandySparkles I'm so sorry you lost your Mom to covid. I know what it feels like to miss your Mom so much, I lost my Mom six years ago to cancer.

The number of years doesn't diminish the pain and how much I miss her. She was my best friend and hero. The entire week leading up to Mother's Day is so difficult, as is the day.

Two years after I lost my Mom I lost my Dad. It was 2020 so I had to wear all the protective stuff. It was so strange but I was so grateful to be able to see him and just sit and hold his hand. He passed away the next day.

I miss both of them so much.

[DSD2]

@lynnie61 what a heartbreaking story.

I just said some prayers for your coworkers. Their hearts are surely broken; may God support and comfort them in their grief.

[Puggywuggy]

My heart goes out to you @SandySparkles, and I know this holiday must be so very difficult for those who have lost their mothers! I hope you all remember all the good times with your precious Mothers! ❤️

[SandySparkles]

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@msgb wrote:

Sorry for your loss.

I lost my mother coming on three years in June.

She had been in the hospital and called me to get two siblings who also were in the area. As it was covid, I called the hospital re:visiting early. They were nasty in their replies.

I was upset. We had promised my father that when time came my mother would not be alone. She was the mother of 7 and the grandmother of 12 and no one was able to be there with her.

I feel that hurt to this day.

She had always been there for all her kids and grandchildren and we were unable to be there for her.

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@msgb Welcome!🥰 {{{{{{{ 🤗🤗 }}}}}}  I am SO, so very sorry for YOUR loss, and the indelible hole it leaves not having  been able to be with her!💝 SO many of us unfortunately SHARE that frustration!😐 I am sending heartfelt prayers of COMFORT, and emotional healing to you with hopes🤞 the pain lessens as time goes by.🙏🙏

You did EVERYTHING you  could possibly DO, and your mother knows💝, but COVID robbed SO many of us of proper goodbyes!😔 May your loving❤ memories of your dear mother help sustain you as you process your understandable grief!❤ She sounds like she was an AMAZING mother and grandmother!🥰

THANK you SO much for caring to share your story this evening!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

[mrshckynut]

my mother died in 2016 exactly 1 month before her 91 birthday       many don't recognize the importance of having their mothers in their lives until they don't 

mrshckynut 

[SandySparkles]

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@Greeneyedlady21 wrote:

@SandySparkles I'm so sorry you lost your Mom to covid. I know what it feels like to miss your Mom so much, I lost my Mom six years ago to cancer.

The number of years doesn't diminish the pain and how much I miss her. She was my best friend and hero. The entire week leading up to Mother's Day is so difficult, as is the day.

Two years after I lost my Mom I lost my Dad. It was 2020 so I had to wear all the protective stuff. It was so strange but I was so grateful to be able to see him and just sit and hold his hand. He passed away the next day.

I miss both of them so much.

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@Greeneyedlady21 Welcome!🥰 I am SO, so sorry for YOUR losses!❤❤ 🤗 I thought it would be easier for me as it has been several years, but it is NOT! They say time heals all wounds!🙏😐

You received such a BLESSING to be able to TOUCH your dear father!❤❤ I think I would be more at peace had I been able to touch my mother, but am most grateful for the actions of the hospital staff.🥰 Nothing can replace the comfort of direct human interaction (touch)!😊 If I could have been granted one wish that day, that would have been it!👍

THANK you SO much for caring to share your LOVING❤ memory of your mother and father this evening!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

[SandySparkles]

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@Lakelife62 wrote:

@SandySparkles I can relate. I lost mine a year and a half ago. It was sudden, though I knew she was in decline. It doesn't take much to trigger the tears. Some nights I dream of her and talk to her and wake up crying. I can't tell you how many times I've gone to the phone to call her number to tell her something or ask her a question.

It's never an easy heal after losing your mom- regardless of the relationship. As women, we have so much of our identities wrapped up in our mothers, whether we realize it or not. When they pass, we lose a part of ourselves.

If you believe in the spirit world, as one poster said, you can talk to her at any time. If you remain open to it, you will get signs from her. If you do not believe in spirits, her memory and the love you shared takes up huge space in your heart and mind. Either way, she is always with you. Always accessible.

Wishing you peace through this difficult moment.

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@Lakelife62 I am SO sorry for the sudden loss of YOUR dear mother!💝 Your BEAUTIFUL post sums up how I feel, and what I am praying for; peace!!🙏🙏 Being half asleep and waking up to the realization she was gone in that moment this morning and yesterday, was heartbreaking!💔 I was hoping I could wake from the "dream".😐

I believe she has guided me to find several important things I needed, and an OLD handwritten recipe by her!❤❤ They were buried among the piles of papers, boxes, and miscellaneous items when scouring through her storeroom. I HAD to have been led by her to find them! I will ALWAYS believe that!🥰 

I am sending heartfelt prayers of PEACE, and comfort for you!🙏🙏❤

THANK you SO much for caring to share your memory this evening!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

[SandySparkles]

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@Burnsite wrote:

Sandy, The loss of beloved parents is something one feels forever, but with increasing appreciation and less bitter grief. Your loss is still only a few years, an acute phase of mourning. 

Both parents died, of different ailments (neither was old) after their divorce, in my late 30s. It was torture.

I am thankful everyday for having had their support and advice for as long as I did.

They had divorced, but both were focused on our large family. I am so grateful I drew them in the "parent lotto."  I think of both every day, but with less sorrow now, and deeper appreciation of their care and help over so many years.   In this sense, we never "lose" our parents.

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@Burnsite I am SO sorry for YOUR losses!!❤❤ I enjoyed reading the reverence of which you speak regarding BOTH parents!!!🥰 That is a BEAUTIFUL sight to behold!❤

THANK you SO much for caring to share your insightful, uplifting post this evening, and offering a different perspective. I had not thought of it as the acute phase of grief!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖