Missing My Mother Today... - Page 5

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@I am still oxox wrote:
It was a beautiful Friday in October 2014 when I got a call that my Mom had fallen out of before.My brother and I both rushed to the hospital. She was unresponsive most of the day but no one would say much about her condition. I left to go home in the early afternoon and returned with my husband to see her before our evening plans.She had been moved to a cardiac unit and there were no visiting hours when we got there. Till this day I regret going to the concert that we did. The next morning we planned on seeing her and I called my brother only to find out that she had passed away late the night before.The hardest thing was telling my dad that his partner of over 60 years was going.It seems that fate intervened since on the way to see my dad we ran into my Cousin who is a Rabbi and was sin to visit her grandmother who lived in the same building. It turn out she was able to do the graveside service which was lovely since my mother introduced her grandparents. I think about her every day, for some reason any thought of her this week is bringing me to tears

@I am still oxox I am So SORRY for YOUR loss!! {{{{{{{{{🤗🤗🤗💝💝💝}}}}}}}}} I struggled through tears to read your touching post!😢 I too am struggling with some unresolved regret, but am taking it day by day. How WONDERFUL it is that you were able to have a graveside service for her!❤ I am glad you have that comforting memory to help ease the sadness when it visits!🥰 The week of Mother's Day makes it SO difficult for many of us sometimes! I completely EMPATHIZE with you today!❤

I know it was tough❤, so THANK you for caring to share your heartfelt story today!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

conlt · ‎03-16-2010

My mother has been gone for 5 years and I was a little melancholy today missing her. I told my friend that I would close my eyes and let mothers day pass. I do not have children.

My mother was a wonderful mother and would not want me to cry. I do miss her and thought I would write her a little love note this weekend.

amyb · ‎04-05-2010

@SandySparkles Aw, I feel you so much.

My experience was very similar. April 8th 2020, her fight of 15 days in the hospital I guess had to end. So much shrouded in mystery and fear during those times, and families who had to say goodbye as we had to. I'll never know what really went on, what was done or not done to try to save her. It's a devastating memory of mine to this day, and will effect me forever when I think of it. I too wanted to be there, to comfort her, and hold her hand as she deserved. I had to say goodbye over Facetime, as she lay sedated and I was only hoping and wishing she heard me.

I'm an only child and mom and I had a wonderful and close relationship. She was 91...but before Covid was a very vibrant 91 year old still. Still loved to get her hair done, go for manicures and out to lunch with me. But she was compromised with seasonal bronchial issues we had under control and she used a nebulizer daily. But...she caught Covid in her assisted living. My last visit with her was the day before she went to hospital...one of those window visits. She said to me sadly..."I wonder how long THIS is going to last" (meaning lockdown.) That was the only saving grace I keep telling myself...she'd have HATED being shut in for over a year, with no visits.

I too Facetimed when I could...once she was conscious and waved to me. The nurse told me that day the call seemed to do her good. We really thought at that point she was going to pull through. On days I Facetimed when they had her sedated, I played her music, and talked to her.

I had a priest give her last rights that last day....even he had to do it over the phone. He was so sweet. He called me first to ask me all about mom and our relationship, and he made personal comments with those last rights...I was on Facetime as he did it.

What crazy times.

I'm glad that we did make the most of our time together and in the last 5 years of her life I was only working part-time, and her sole care giver (outside of assisted living), so I made her a priority. We said all our things to each other over our lifetime, and shared fun times. Still, I miss her everyday and will forever. I was blessed to have her as long as I did, it's just that ending was so terrible.

Anyway, my dear....I didn't mean to make your sweet post "all about me"....only to let you know...as you say....MANY can relate. And Mother's Day is coming up. I send you much love. Thank you for sharing. xo🩷

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@LadybugDG wrote:
I miss my mom also 😔. She passed away 11 years ago. We always went summer flower 🌷🌸 shopping on Mother's Day. Absolutely loved that time with her. I took off work most of the week and today went to do my flower shopping and even now it isn't easy. My mom's favorite was tulips, and when I saw them I teared up. Sad because she wasn't there with me and happy because of the memories. I miss her everyday ❤

@LadybugDG Welcome!🥰 Awwwww❤! She was there with you as you shopped for the flowers!😊👍 I LOVE💝 flowers, and am HAPPY you have such a BEAUTIFUL way of paying homage to her every year! That is something truly special.😊

THANK you SO much for caring to share such a SPECIAL memory today.🤗 It made me smile!😁

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

cheriere · ‎12-01-2023

@SandySparkles

Beautiful post.❤️❤️❤️

Lately, my mom has been very ill and I'm so concerned for her health. I can't imagine life without her.

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@freakygirl wrote:
my relationship with mom wasn't always the best, and when she passed many years ago, i was totally broken. so many things i wish i would've done differently, and i regret it to this day. she did come say goodbye to me one last time. i saw her hazy figure clearly. it's tough to live with regret and sadness.

@freakygirl Welcome!🥰 Your post tugged at my heartstrings!❤ I nodded in agreement as I read your it!❤ I too have some regrets, and HOPE that one day, they will be a DISTANT memory!😊 I believe wholeheartedly that our LOVED💝 ones visit us, and know hers was to help you!❤ I HOPE and PRAY things get easier for you as time goes by, and am sending hugs of love❤, and support {{{{{{{🤗🤗}}}}}}

THANK you SO much for caring to share your story today!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@conlt wrote:
My mother has been gone for 5 years and I was a little melancholy today missing her. I told my friend that I would close my eyes and let mothers day pass. I do not have children.
My mother was a wonderful mother and would not want me to cry. I do miss her and thought I would write her a little love note this weekend.

@conlt Welcome!🥰 I am sorry for YOUR loss!❤ I think writing her a love note is a WONDERFUL idea!!! I had not entertained the idea, but am SO glad I read your post!🥰 I think I am going to write one to my dear mother, as I know how cleansing written word can be!❤ I hope it brings comfort to you!🥰

THANK you SO much for caring to share such a wonderful memory!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@amyb wrote:
@SandySparkles Aw, I feel you so much.
My experience was very similar. April 8th 2020, her fight of 15 days in the hospital I guess had to end. So much shrouded in mystery and fear during those times, and families who had to say goodbye as we had to. I'll never know what really went on, what was done or not done to try to save her. It's a devastating memory of mine to this day, and will effect me forever when I think of it. I too wanted to be there, to comfort her, and hold her hand as she deserved. I had to say goodbye over Facetime, as she lay sedated and I was only hoping and wishing she heard me.

I'm an only child and mom and I had a wonderful and close relationship. She was 91...but before Covid was a very vibrant 91 year old still. Still loved to get her hair done, go for manicures and out to lunch with me. But she was compromised with seasonal bronchial issues we had under control and she used a nebulizer daily. But...she caught Covid in her assisted living. My last visit with her was the day before she went to hospital...one of those window visits. She said to me sadly..."I wonder how long THIS is going to last" (meaning lockdown.) That was the only saving grace I keep telling myself...she'd have HATED being shut in for over a year, with no visits.

I too Facetimed when I could...once she was conscious and waved to me. The nurse told me that day the call seemed to do her good. We really thought at that point she was going to pull through. On days I Facetimed when they had her sedated, I played her music, and talked to her.

I had a priest give her last rights that last day....even he had to do it over the phone. He was so sweet. He called me first to ask me all about mom and our relationship, and he made personal comments with those last rights...I was on Facetime as he did it.

What crazy times.

I'm glad that we did make the most of our time together and in the last 5 years of her life I was only working part-time, and her sole care giver (outside of assisted living), so I made her a priority. We said all our things to each other over our lifetime, and shared fun times. Still, I miss her everyday and will forever. I was blessed to have her as long as I did, it's just that ending was so terrible.

Anyway, my dear....I didn't mean to make your sweet post "all about me"....only to let you know...as you say....MANY can relate. And Mother's Day is coming up. I send you much love. Thank you for sharing. xo🩷

@amyb Welcome!🥰 WOW!❤ My heart aches for you, because I know all too well just how you feel!!!💝 It was however nice to read how dedicated you were to each other!🤗👍 Those memories are such a BLESSING!🙏 She sounds like she was 91 years YOUNG with a BEAUTIFUL spirit, and someone with a true zest for life!✨ I would LOVE❤ to have known such a dynamic lady!!💝

THANK you SO much for caring to share such a warm memory today!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

2sisters · ‎03-09-2010

@SandySparkles my heart is with you! I can't imagine how hard losing your Mom during COVID had to be. But I'm happy you have memories to comfort you💕

I too share your sadness for Mothers Day. My Mom has been gone 32 years and I still miss her and think of her every day. Mothers Day was her favorite because it was all about her. And you better not gift her something that required her to work! There's no one like our Mom!💕

I think your Mom would be proud of you for the loving, caring and positive lady that you are and she knows you love and miss her💖

Thinking of you and everyone else who has an empty place in your hearts this Sunday. They know they are missed and loved💖🌹

DSD2 · ‎01-09-2016

Dear Sandy,

I believe that one of the most grievous losses in life is the death of a woman's mother. To each, the other was everything.

As Tolkien said, "Alas! there are some wounds that cannot be wholly cured..."

My heart goes out to you and I will pray for relief from your pain. Although you were not able to cradle her in your arms one last time, your mother knew that you loved her and that is everything.

God bless.