Missing My Mother Today... - Page 3

msgb · ‎08-30-2010

Sorry for your loss.

I lost my mother coming on three years in June.

She had been in the hospital (for a minor surgery)and called me to get two siblings who also were in the area. As it was covid time. She did not have COVID, I called the hospital re:visiting early. They were nasty in their replies.

I was upset. We had promised my father that when time came my mother would not be alone. She was the mother of 7 and the grandmother of 12 and no one was able to be there with her.

I feel that hurt to this day.

She had always been there for all her kids and grandchildren and we were unable to be there for her.

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@Alsace Gal wrote:
@SandySparkles

I am o very sorry for the loss of your dear mother and the way you weren't able to hold her hand, it leaves an emptiness.
Have peace knowing she knew you loved her and was as close as allowed.

@Alsace Gal Welcome!🥰 Thank you!❤ What helps get me by, is knowing she knew I was THERE when I visited the day before when she was awake and could see me!💝 I cling to that memory!😊

THANK you SO much for caring to share your support!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@AuntG wrote:
I send you hugs @SandySparkles. How quickly I forgot that so many people had to watch their loved ones pass away through the lense of a camera. Covid decimated everything for way too long.

@AuntG Welcome!🥰 It was a BRUTAL time; one that I am STILL processing!😐

THANK you SO much for your hugs of support!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

Lakelife62 · ‎05-09-2023

@SandySparkles I can relate. I lost mine a year and a half ago. It was sudden, though I knew she was in decline. It doesn't take much to trigger the tears. Some nights I dream of her and talk to her and wake up crying. I can't tell you how many times I've gone to the phone to call her number to tell her something or ask her a question.

It's never an easy heal after losing your mom- regardless of the relationship. As women, we have so much of our identities wrapped up in our mothers, whether we realize it or not. When they pass, we lose a part of ourselves.

If you believe in the spirit world, as one poster said, you can talk to her at any time. If you remain open to it, you will get signs from her. If you do not believe in spirits, her memory and the love you shared takes up huge space in your heart and mind. Either way, she is always with you. Always accessible.

Wishing you peace through this difficult moment.

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@sugarbee wrote:
@SandySparklesThe memories of our Moms grow more precious each and every year. My Mom passed 21 years ago and is seems like yesterday. I catch myself doing things like she used to or saying words as she did. My grandmother had this poem on a plaque her son had given her. I know it always brings me comfort and I hope it brings a peace to you as you think of your Mom.

M is for the many things she gave me
O means only she is getting old
T is for the tears she shed for me
H is for her heart of pure gold
E is for her eyes with love light shing
R is for right and right she will always be

Put them together and they spell Mother, the dearest word to me

@sugarbee Welcome!🥰 I cried happy tears as I read your touching post!😢 The poem is BEAUTIFUL, and was such a joy to read!❤ I am going to save it and refer to it when I need a smile as I reminisce!🥰 It is amazing just how much like our mother's we truly are without even realizing it!💝 I sometimes find myself stirring pots with one hand on my hip as she and my dear grandmother once did!😁

THANK you SO much for caring to share such a TOUCHING poem today!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@Puppy Lips wrote:
I am sorry for your loss. You spoke of your troubled relationship with your Mom on another thread. My mom passed almost 4 years ago and I miss her everyday, more than I thought I would. I am still dealing with some of her STUFF left behind. Though I have 3 kids, Mother’s Day just makes me sad as I feel like an orphan. So just know that you are not alone. Bake some treats for your family and friends as a tribute to your mom.

@Puppy Lips Welcome!🥰 GREAT observation! It was that thread that got me to thinking this way!😁 She could be quite mean, and uncaring at times, but I LOVED her dearly, and hold on to the good times!👍 I like your idea of baking treats, and think I will do just that!❤

I am sorry for the loss of YOUR dear mother!💝

THANK you SO much for caring to share such thoughtful words of support and suggestion today!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@GinaV24 wrote:
@SandySparkles I'm so very sorry for your loss. Losing anyone is so terribly difficult and I cannot imagine how difficult it was to lose a loved one during the Covid restrictions when none of us could be close to them.

I lost my mom many years ago. It's a loss that aches in my heart every day.

Wishing you well and sending love to you.

@GinaV24 Welcome!🥰 My heart aches as well when I think of the many others that experienced the same anguish I did during that time! There are just so MANY stories of that heartache!😔

I am sorry for the loss of your dear mother!💝

THANK you SO much for the LOVE ❤! I am sending love and hugs of support YOUR way!💝🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

Burnsite · ‎03-10-2010

Sandy, The loss of beloved parents is something one feels forever, but with increasing appreciation and less bitter grief. Your loss is still only a few years, an acute phase of mourning.

Both parents died, of different ailments (neither was old) after their divorce, in my late 30s. It was torture.

I am thankful everyday for having had their support and advice for as long as I did.

They had divorced, but both were focused on our large family. I am so grateful I drew them in the "parent lotto." I think of both every day, but with less sorrow now, and deeper appreciation of their care and help over so many years. In this sense, we never "lose" our parents.

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@mildoo wrote:
My mother passed away 27 years ago and I still think of her everyday. My mother had a great sense of humor and there are so many times something will strike me as comic and I wish I could share it with her and hear her laugh again. My mother was tough and a hard working lady and she didn't let you get away with too much and she was always there for us. She used to tell me your mother is your best friend and in time I found that to be true. God Bless all mothers.

@mildoo Welcome!🥰 I enjoyed reading of your reverence for your dear mother!❤ It gave me such a warm smile!🥰 She sounds like she was an AMAZING person!❤ My dear mother definitely believed in spare the rod, spoil the child! I can attest that she did not SPARE the rod!😁

THANK you SO much for caring to share such pleasant memories today!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖