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[Puzzle Piece]

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@151949 wrote:

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

I know what the OP is referring to.  I have good hearing.  In the past, the actions she is annoyed with was called bad manners and not having any 'class'.  You removed yourself from a room/crowd if you were coughing AND you ALWAYS covered your mouth/nose when you sneezed or yawned.  You didn't chew or snap your gum, in fact, after you were a child you didn't need to chew gum.  I still remember the lessons dealing with all the bad manners that are so openly expressed today.  Some very small but large ways that let others know you are educated, mannered, and have some CLASS. 

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I don't think you are understanding correctly. These people aren't annoyed because others have bad habits they are just bothered by normal , polite noises. For instance if a person would bite a raw carrot it would snap and then as they chew it, it would make a crunch noise. Not impolite at all but the noises make some people very annoyed, or nauseous or irritated.

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I understand what the OP wrote.  Other 'polite noises' are noises that folks just impose on others and call them 'polite' - like cracking their knuckles.  No class.  As for the carrot that is also done with some human dignity - not snobbery.  A person is taught at an early age (if they had good parenting/schooling) that you don't just gobble at the table and you place appropriate portions on your fork/spoon so that you don't make noises like an animal.  That's why we consider ourselves at the top of the food chain and removed from animals.  If you are referring to an outside bar-b-que/picnic, then the chrunching might be acceptable.  However, never be careless at any event where there are business associates and your boss or professionals.  No class.   

[151949]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

I know what the OP is referring to.  I have good hearing.  In the past, the actions she is annoyed with was called bad manners and not having any 'class'.  You removed yourself from a room/crowd if you were coughing AND you ALWAYS covered your mouth/nose when you sneezed or yawned.  You didn't chew or snap your gum, in fact, after you were a child you didn't need to chew gum.  I still remember the lessons dealing with all the bad manners that are so openly expressed today.  Some very small but large ways that let others know you are educated, mannered, and have some CLASS. 

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I don't think you are understanding correctly. These people aren't annoyed because others have bad habits they are just bothered by normal , polite noises. For instance if a person would bite a raw carrot it would snap and then as they chew it, it would make a crunch noise. Not impolite at all but the noises make some people very annoyed, or nauseous or irritated.

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I understand what the OP wrote.  Other 'polite noises' are noises that folks just impose on others and call them 'polite' - like cracking their knuckles.  No class.  As for the carrot that is also done with some human dignity - not snobbery.  A person is taught at an early age (if they had good parenting/schooling) that you don't just gobble at the table and you place appropriate portions on your fork/spoon so that you don't make noises like an animal.  That's why we consider ourselves at the top of the food chain and removed from animals.  If you are referring to an outside bar-b-que/picnic, then the chrunching might be acceptable.  However, never be careless at any event where there are business associates and your boss or professionals.  No class.   

It sounds from what you are writing here that you may have this disorder. Clearly, the sounds of normal, polite people eating  normal food is repulsive to you.

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[MyShadowLove]

Sounds like more money for the Pharmaceutical Industry!

Has anyone also seen the commercials regarding people who laugh or cry uncontrollably at times?...Is there anyone here who hasn't?...These actions are also now diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder...I wonder what the "normal" time limit for laughing or crying is?

If this keeps up, any sound, movement or activity will be diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder!

Sorry, this is all getting a little scary!...Oops, I wonder what my diagnosis is?

[151949]

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@MyShadowLove wrote:

Sounds like more money for the Pharmaceutical Industry!

Has anyone also seen the commercials regarding people who laugh or cry uncontrollably at times?...Is there anyone here who hasn't?...These actions are also now diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder...I wonder what the "normal" time limit for laughing or crying is?

If this keeps up, any sound, movement or activity will be diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder!

Sorry, this is all getting a little scary!...Oops, I wonder what my diagnosis is?

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Actually, misophonia can be seriously disturbing to ones life. Imagine if you can't stand to feed your own children. Or to eat in a public place like a restaurant. You would never be able to stand to be in the room when another person is eating. We are kinda taking it lightly here but it can be very serious.

[NoelSeven]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

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I understand what the OP wrote.  Other 'polite noises' are noises that folks just impose on others and call them 'polite' - like cracking their knuckles.  No class.  As for the carrot that is also done with some human dignity - not snobbery.  A person is taught at an early age (if they had good parenting/schooling) that you don't just gobble at the table and you place appropriate portions on your fork/spoon so that you don't make noises like an animal.  That's why we consider ourselves at the top of the food chain and removed from animals.  If you are referring to an outside bar-b-que/picnic, then the chrunching might be acceptable.  However, never be careless at any event where there are business associates and your boss or professionals.  No class.   

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LR, I am totally with you on this! 

There are businesses in this area that send their new professional hires to manners class, especially table manners.  They say it's totally needed. 

What's the deal with some people not teaching kids table manners anymore?   We used to have a professional woman who'd join a group of us for dinner once in awhile.  She ate with her hands and her son did the same thing.  I could not stand watching her.

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[Moonchilde]

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@151949 wrote:

Unfortunately, some people use diagnosis like "highly sensitive person" or Misophonia  as an excuse for being rude to or manipulative to others because polite people try to be understanding of other folks' disabilities.

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Unfortunately, some people are well known for insulting and snarking in the guise of "interesting" discussions and "being polite."

[MyShadowLove]

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@151949 wrote:

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@MyShadowLove wrote:

Sounds like more money for the Pharmaceutical Industry!

Has anyone also seen the commercials regarding people who laugh or cry uncontrollably at times?...Is there anyone here who hasn't?...These actions are also now diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder...I wonder what the "normal" time limit for laughing or crying is?

If this keeps up, any sound, movement or activity will be diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder!

Sorry, this is all getting a little scary!...Oops, I wonder what my diagnosis is?

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Actually, misophonia can be seriously disturbing to ones life. Imagine if you can't stand to feed your own children. Or to eat in a public place like a restaurant. You would never be able to stand to be in the room when another person is eating. We are kinda taking it lightly here but it can be very serious.

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@151949...Please do not misunderstand my post...I certainly do not take lightly any serious, debillitating psychiatric disorders...I am just concerned and questioning the diagnoses of and placing labels on all behaviors or annoyances that are perfectly normal.

I would advise anyone to tread carefully before being prescribed a drug, which could prove to be dangerous, for something which may be perfectly normal for them.

[Moonchilde]

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@MyShadowLove wrote:

Sounds like more money for the Pharmaceutical Industry!

Has anyone also seen the commercials regarding people who laugh or cry uncontrollably at times?...Is there anyone here who hasn't?...These actions are also now diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder...I wonder what the "normal" time limit for laughing or crying is?

If this keeps up, any sound, movement or activity will be diagnosed as a Psychiatric Disorder!

Sorry, this is all getting a little scary!...Oops, I wonder what my diagnosis is?

LOL! Here, here! Or in this thread I guess it should be "Hear, hear!" 😉

[Puzzle Piece]

@151949 You are trying to do some armchair psychology here.  No, the ordinary chewing/eating  like a mannered person is not what I am referring to at all.  Those that masticate like a cow or slurp their liquids up like an animal at a stream are just not mannered. 

If the OP has a disorder, then maybe there is a certain sensitivity but it may not be classified as a phobia or sorts.  It's just a way to get the social scientists a job or pay or even a drug company or two some money.  We do have a society that is completely unaware they are offensive in their lack of manners to others while out in public. 

[RoughDraft]

How did this thread go from Mysphonia, which may be a neurological disorder involving sound, to bad table manners?  From what I read, it's an extreme sensitivity to "sounds" that disturb, upset or annoy the sufferer that doesn't ordinarily upset a person who is not affected with the disorder.