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[QueenDanceALot]

On 1/14/2014 JJsMom said:

On 1/14/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

On 1/14/2014 bathina said:

I think there's a big difference in the need for praise and having an ego. Egotistical people like to hear the praise, but don't necessarily need it since they're convinced they're wonderful anyway. Egotistical people believe that things happen as a result of their influence. They are right always and see people around them as extraneous to their successes, but integral in any failures.

I work with people like this. Mainly men.

Interesting perspective. And I like the distinction you draw.

Everyone has an ego to some extent. That doesn't make a person egotistical. Your question asked if men have delicate egos. That is a different issue.

I think it's part of the equation actually. I took "having an ego" to mean being egotistical.

Of course everyone has an ego.

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I thought it had to do with pen!s size, or rather lack of.

[straykatz]

On 1/14/2014 Topaz Gem said:

On 1/14/2014 straykatz said:

IMO....Praise for taking out the trash or thanks for taking out the trash.....there's very little difference between the two.....I don't see it as ego stroking when saying thank you to my husband for things he does around the house.

Just curious, does he thank you for the little things that you do around the house? If so, you're lucky. Many men tend to expect thanks and/or praise for doing daily chores that both people are responsible for and women are rarely, if ever, thanked and are certainly not praised. It's thought of as 'their job'.

Topaz...I guess I'm lucky...do we thank each other all the time and for everything - not really but being married has never stopped us from using the word thank you....for example....last night while I was dishing out my supper I also put his food on his plate for him while he was feeding the cats - he thanked me...it was such a little thing....I expected no thanks for this small gesture....that's just the way he is.

[bathina]

On 1/14/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

On 1/14/2014 bathina said:

I think there's a big difference in the need for praise and having an ego. Egotistical people like to hear the praise, but don't necessarily need it since they're convinced they're wonderful anyway. Egotistical people believe that things happen as a result of their influence. They are right always and see people around them as extraneous to their successes, but integral in any failures.

I work with people like this. Mainly men.

Interesting perspective. And I like the distinction you draw.

I think it's an important distinction since the need for praise can be more insecurity than ego.

[Topaz Gem]

On 1/14/2014 straykatz said:

On 1/14/2014 Topaz Gem said:

On 1/14/2014 straykatz said:

IMO....Praise for taking out the trash or thanks for taking out the trash.....there's very little difference between the two.....I don't see it as ego stroking when saying thank you to my husband for things he does around the house.

Just curious, does he thank you for the little things that you do around the house? If so, you're lucky. Many men tend to expect thanks and/or praise for doing daily chores that both people are responsible for and women are rarely, if ever, thanked and are certainly not praised. It's thought of as 'their job'.

Topaz...I guess I'm lucky...do we thank each other all the time and for everything - not really but being married has never stopped us from using the word thank you....for example....last night while I was dishing out my supper I also put his food on his plate for him while he was feeding the cats - he thanked me...it was such a little thing....I expected no thanks for this small gesture....that's just the way he is.

You have a lot to be grateful for, Straykatz. Your hubby sounds like a keeper. Little things like saying thank you after being together for many years are what makes a relationship stronger.

[JJsMom]

On 1/14/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

I think it's part of the equation actually. I took ""having an ego"" to mean being egotistical.

Of course everyone has an ego.

I don't think having a delicate ego (the original topic) makes one egotistical.

I don't even know what we're talking about anymore. LOL

[QueenDanceALot]

On 1/14/2014 JJsMom said:

On 1/14/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

I think it's part of the equation actually. I took "having an ego" to mean being egotistical.

Of course everyone has an ego.

I don't think having a delicate ego (the original topic) makes one egotistical.

I don't even know what we're talking about anymore. LOL

I don't think I do either, actually.

I don't think having a delicate ego makes one egotistical. Was that the question? Or was it A question?

[Lion]

This reminds me of a co-worker's husband. When he started a new business with his brother, he would get angry at her when she took an interest in and wanted to talk to him about the legal and financial aspects of it.

But, he'd then turn around later and accuse her of not showing interest in his work.

He only wanted her taking interest in the business if it meant *praising* him for his work. Her interest in the "business end" was NOT wanted.

I felt sorry for her being married to him.

[12andcounting]

On 1/14/2014 JJsMom said:

Not any more than women. A lot of women constantly need validation and to have their egos stroked too.

I agree. Gee, just watching some of the QVC hosts proves that.

[Daisy Breeze]

Hmmmmmmm, I think women's egos are much bigger as well as much more fragile.