Re: Married Grandchildren and Their Spouses

buyornot · ‎03-10-2010

@KathyM23 wrote:
We gave made gift giving easy and much decreased than we did when our grandchildren were young. We now get together with our son and daughter and their spouses on their birthdays and take them out to dinner and give a card. Same for their spouses. Son and daughter-in-law's birthdays are just a couple days apart, so one dinner cerebrated during that week. Card to each. Daughter and Son-in-Law one dinner including both week of daughter's birthday with a card. Son-in-law card only on his birthday which is several months later. He is lucky he even gets a card as he is not the best husband to our daughter.

Grandchildren we send a birthday card (no money or gifts anymore) and also to their spouses on their birthdays.

We give son and daughter who now host our Christmas get together a family gift or gift card for a dinner and one present each. Grandchildren have wanted money instead of gifts since their teens and we still give money with a card to them at Christmas to spend as they please as they are young just getting settled with houses, car loans, etc. and can use the extra cash I am sure rather than a gift. Also do the same for their spouses. I do put the money in a nice card and put the card in a Christmas gift bag. To me that is more like a present under the tree!

Used to buy lots of gifts for them when they were young and it was so much fun at that time. We had Christmas dinner at our house with everyone and I do so miss that but age plays a big part and the family dinner celebration has been taken on by our son and daughter-in-law who do a fantastic job of it,

Gosh, you sound like such a pleasant person!

buyornot · ‎03-10-2010

Personally, I think that everyone, young and old appreciate a card and a $10 gift card(coffee, fast food, bookstore, amazon...) -with a heartfelt little note about how much they are loved!

Patlv · ‎08-08-2013

When I was growing up, many moons ago, the family rule was once you reached the age of 16, the gifts and birthday parties stopped. That was fine by me, as I hated to sit on the floor, surrounded by everyone opening the gifts (I was never one for attention or the fanfare). We also were taught to send a proper thank you note for the gift. To this day I believe in thank you notes, as if the person took their time to give you something, then I can take the time to mail a note of thanks.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

@Oznell wrote:
You worked it out and came to a good conclusion for you and your family, @jubilant , one that both you and your hubby are happy with! That's maturity and team work right there. Good job.

@Oznell Thank you so much for your kind words.

Oznell · ‎11-08-2014

Not at all, @jubilant . I admire what you did. Also, having read over the thread, I further respect you. It's hard to respond with equanimity to the occasional post that is harsh, judgmental, seemingly uncaring. You are unfailingly an exemplar of restraint, and charity toward others.