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[Shanus]

Thank you @CareBears.  It brought tears (happy ones) to me, too.

[NicksmomESQ]

   @Shanus Congrats to you!! It sounds like you did a great job raising him.I can relate to your great sense of pride!! My son, my only child is 25 .I too have been going down memory lane.As hard as we worked to raise them right they deserve credit too.They made the right choices & did the work!!

  My son is working hard & attending law school.I think back to all the times he could have made different choices but always with a level head made the right ones.

   We are very blessed!!  

   You,Shanus are also a shinning example of what a true mother is.She is not always the one that gave birth to her child but she is the one that raised & loved him!!

[Sweet_Serenity]

[hoosieroriginal]

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@Shanus wrote:

@hoosieroriginal. I was engaged at 20 & married by 21. My son was born in 1972 & daughter in '73. I feel like I grew up w/ my kids. 

It was like having twins w/ them being a year apart. Oh so hectic while they were growing up, but so peaceful when they went off to school what seems like at the same time...kidding of course!!!!

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@Shanus - you sound just like me - my two were born in 70 and 72 - everyone thought I was their sister for years. 

[Shanus]

@NicksmomESQ. Thank you. Congrats on your son's achievements, as well. Not as easy to raise a child 20 yrs. younger than my son. Not as much drinking, drugs and crime way back then to keep us up worrying at night.

I didn't have tears until the end of your post. When my son had his girls, he wanted to find his birth mother (health backgrounds, etc.). We supported his decision & were not given any info at birth to help w/ his search. After a year with a PI's help, he found her and they met. 

Never knowing who she was, she had to be special enough to carry him and give him up for a better life. I thought of her (& thanked her) at every birthday & milestone knowing she knew his age & when he'd be graduating college, etc. I haven't met her yet, but my son will arrange it one day when she feels ready. 😁

[Shanus]

@hoosieroriginal. Aren't we lucky to grow up w/ our kids? My daughter (44)  and I do like sisters today...fair skin, dark wavy hair and bluish green eyes and 5' tall. My son, oddly enough since we never expressed an interest in physical characteristics be similar to ours, has olive skin, brown eyes and dark hair and 6' tall like hubby. Some things are planned by God and not in our control, right?

[NicksmomESQ]

   @Shanus  When you do meet your son's birth mother I'm sure she will thank you for giving her son the life she couldn't!! You are both heroes!! She for having the courage to give up her child & you for taking him in!! Your son is a very lucky man to be loved that much.I'm sure if given the chance to do it again he wouldn't change a thing!!!

[skuggles]

And bless the mom who made him and had the courage to hand him over so that her son could grow up in such a loving family.

[Shanus]

@NicksmomESQ. Thanks for kind words. I look forward to meeting his birth mother. She must be quite "giving". In the same situation, I don't think I could carry a child for 9 months, deliver and leave the hospital without him. I do hope she asked to see him & know he was healthy & handsome and then gave him a kiss goodbye before sending him on his way to his new life with us.