Community Chat

[AuntG]

Both were middle aged females (one married, one divorced) who find ways to gain sympathy for their lack of money, when in fact they are reckless with their spending. With the advent of Facebook, one lady basically publishes her wish list. A kindly person just offered to buy her an expensive birthday gift. I know when I return from our vacation, she'll call and tell me she never expected him to go shopping for her, but since she is such a good friend, he insisted and she didn't want to hurt his feelings. Yeah, right!

[ECBG]

I've never known anyone like this thankfully.  I do have a few, whom life has truly given a hard time, bless them!

I don't know how I would even react to people like you describe.  Hopefully, they're in short supply!

[chrystaltree]

Well, since you aren't the one buying her gifts, it's none of your concern.  It apears the "him" you referred to cares for her and is generous.  She's a lucky woman.

[lovesrecess]

I have always thought it was a no-no to talk about how much money you do or don’t have....a sign of ill-breeding as my mother would have said...if someone is truly in dire straights there are several ways to get help...but a birthday gift because they have already shot their money? No thanks. I don’t have friends like that and hope I never have any like that either.

[NYC Susan]

I don't know anyone like this, but I also think that "reckless spending" is a matter of opinion. 

I have a good friend who spends a lot of money on things that don't seem worth it to me, but it's her choice.  I'm sure that some of my spending habits aren't understandable to other people.  And that's okay.  I don't feel that I'm in a position to judge what's reckless spending and what isn't.  And I certainly wouldn't want anyone - especially a friend - to be judging me.

[AngelPuppy1]

I have sympathy for people who truly do have lack of funds, but have found in my life that usually the people who complain the most are the ones who have the most money!  It bugs me when people I know and are close to, spend foolishly on unecessary things and then expect those that are close to them to constantly help them out.  I used to fall for this all the time but now I do not.  

I have to be frugal -- not cheap --- in my own life.  I can't put my financial life in jeopardy for people who refuse to accept responsibility for their own financial wellbeing.  If someone has a genunine need and are trying their best, then that is another story entirely.  

[CalminHeart]

It's easy to judge.  I prefer not to.  

One never knows the other person's struggles, emotionally, psychologically, and physically.

[Yahooey]

If it bothers you so much, drop them as friends.

And friends wouldn't judge one another like this.

Did she buy the $8.00 spaghetti sauce?

[Imaoldhippie]

Wow, putting your wants on FB really works!?  Who knew?

[cherry]

As far as I am concerned that is between them. I would say it is no one elses business

I have bought a gift or two in my time for people, and I always felt better when I did