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I just turned 70 but I'm really just 69+1.Cat LOL  When I was young (when the dinosaurs were roaming the earth), having a child out of wedlock was just about unthinkable.  Girls were sent away to have their babies and then were forced to put them up for adoption.  Weddings were rushed and the baby was 'premature.'  Then, of course, there were the illegal, back alley, often deadly abortions.

 

Times have changed in all areas of society since then, for better and for worse.  While I was blessed with a very wonderful husband (now deceased) and a great marriage, such is not the case for everyone.  Our son grew up in a home filled with love and respect.  Back then, divorce was looked down upon as a failure so many people stayed together.  They weren't happy and neither were the children.  In today's society, it is very common for people to be in committed relationship without that 'piece of paper,' and to create the miracle of children born out of that love and committment.  As long as people are able to support those precious gifts from God and are not living off my tax dollar, God bless them.  It's not my business and not my place to be judgemental as to how people choose to live their lives unless I'm forced to pay for these children.

 

May God bless Liam, Stacy, and all the precious little ones.   docsgirl

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I just turned 70 but I'm really just 69+1.Cat LOL  When I was young (when the dinosaurs were roaming the earth), having a child out of wedlock was just about unthinkable.  Girls were sent away to have their babies and then were forced to put them up for adoption.  Weddings were rushed and the baby was 'premature.'  Then, of course, there were the illegal, back alley, often deadly abortions.

 

Times have changed in all areas of society since then, for better and for worse.  While I was blessed with a very wonderful husband (now deceased) and a great marriage, such is not the case for everyone.  Our son grew up in a home filled with love and respect.  Back then, divorce was looked down upon as a failure so many people stayed together.  They weren't happy and neither were the children.  In today's society, it is very common for people to be in committed relationship without that 'piece of paper,' and to create the miracle of children born out of that love and committment.  As long as people are able to support those precious gifts from God and are not living off my tax dollar, God bless them.  It's not my business and not my place to be judgemental as to how people choose to live their lives unless I'm forced to pay for these children.

 

May God bless Liam, Stacy, and all the precious little ones.   docsgirl


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We are all entitled to our own moral standards. Don't understand why some of you need to get so nasty with others who disagree with you.

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Who was nasty?

 

 

 

 

 

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@Pearlee wrote:

@hyacinth003 wrote:

@Pearlee wrote:

@tropics21 wrote:

They need to get married for the sake of her two children from a previous marriage and because of the two children they will have


IMO each person should determine for himself or herself what he or she needs.  It's really nobody else's business what someone needs or doesn't need to do, esp. someone not in the situation itself.


Oh, heck no.  It's a great idea to have multiple children out of wedlock!

 

How old fashioned!

 

Hyacinth


How very judgemental of you!

Society has changed a lot since the 1950s.  You are imposing your morality on someone else.


What's right and wrong really doesn't change.  Whether it's the 1950's or 2016.

 

My OPINION is that children do better (and social studies bear this out) in a 2 parent, married, family.  They feel more secure, and children raised by 2 parent families are at a great economic advantage. 

 

I know some things just "happen" in life.  But, living together, with one child and making a 2nd while not married isn't just "happening."  I think WOMEN put themselves at a huge disadvantage by making kids without the legality of marriage.

 

We all have an opinion, and that is mine.

 

Hyacinth

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It's a matter of some people who don't like any opinion other than their own object to someone stating a belief/opinion.  It's as simple as that. It's about intolerance.

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it might have been nice to keep this as a congratulatory thread to celebrate the birth of a new baby......to share in the parents and families happiness.

 

a separate thread could have been used to discuss "non-traditional" families.

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@sunshine45 wrote:

it might have been nice to keep this as a congratulatory thread to celebrate the birth of a new baby......to share in the parents and families happiness.

 

a separate thread could have been used to discuss "non-traditional" families.


Anyone who wants to do that is welcome to congratulate the unwed parents on facebook.