Lending money - Page 4

itsmagic · ‎08-08-2011

Do you think your friend was actually joking? We have a couple male friends who like to pull jokes and are very good at it.

BirkiLady · ‎02-22-2015

@Carmie wrote:
My DH just called me. Told him what happened. He said if I said " no" than the answer is no.

He also said he will not be answering the phone for a few days, nor will he take any calls from this guy...what a chicken.

@Carmie

Give your DH some credit for the united front he is putting on with you. Be proud of him for realizing he isn't as strong as you are. If he has to ignore his cell phone, so be it. At least he realizes the other guy is manipulative, obviously in a serious bind financially, and he doesn't want to be caught in the mess.

It doesn't sound like your DH is a "chicken". Sounds like he realizes his strengths and weaknesses. We all have them.

Fortunately, you handled the first call with firm success! If that guy couldn't get a loan for $5,000 you certainly don't want to be lending him anything. Women's intuition is wonderful, isn't it? Nice job!!

Money screams; wealth whispers.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

I would never lend a friend or relative money, if I can't give it as a gift, I tell them I don't have it. My husband and I were in business for ourselves one time and we had friends and relatives not pay us for services rendered. I looked at it as if they were stealing from us, I never felt the same way about them. I never did business with them again either.

kitcat51 · ‎09-15-2016

Aw

@Carmie wrote:
@kitcat51 wrote:
What is the money for?
I don't know...I didn't ask. i just said no.

What? If someone asked me out for money I'd expect them to tell me or I'd ask why. I understand why you don't want to lend it but it doesn't cost a dime to listen & if it's an emergency offer ideas to help him find the needed money.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@kitcat51 wrote:
Aw
@Carmie wrote:
@kitcat51 wrote:
What is the money for?
I don't know...I didn't ask. i just said no.
What? If someone asked me out for money I'd expect them to tell me or I'd ask why. I understand why you don't want to lend it but it doesn't cost a dime to listen & if it's an emergency offer ideas to help him find the needed money.

@kitcat51 @Carmie No, I wouldn't ask why because I am going to say NO.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@itsmagic I don't think he was joking. We met this couple through other friends we hang out with in the summer time. We go to the same beach at the Lake with our boats and have occasionally gone out to dinner with them and a group of friends. We have never really had a one on one relationship with them.

We didn't see them at all this summer and asked about them. We were told they were spending time in upstate NY somewhere.

They have a really nice big expensive boat and drive a Lexus 500 or something car...I know nothing about Lexus cars, but it is a people magnet. Anyway, they are flashy and seem to have money. My DH and I have boats and cars that are nice, but are no longer new or expensive. We are the "poor ones" in our circle. Whenever we are asked when we are going to get new toys, I say "I'd rather have the money in my pocket."

Maybe that is why he thinks we have money. Anyway, the call was a surprise. If he calls back, and he probably will, I will just tell him "no, I'd rather have the money in my pocket."

I am going to call another couple who we are super close with ( very good friends) who also go to the Lake and find out and if they also were contacted and hit up for a loan.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@kitcat51 wrote:
Aw
@Carmie wrote:
@kitcat51 wrote:
What is the money for?
I don't know...I didn't ask. i just said no.
What? If someone asked me out for money I'd expect them to tell me or I'd ask why. I understand why you don't want to lend it but it doesn't cost a dime to listen & if it's an emergency offer ideas to help him find the needed money.

I don't want to sound mean, but they are not my problem. I offered him $200 and he said no. I have never been to their home and don't know where they actually live, but I know they have stuff. They should contact a bank, or sell some of their toys or whatever.

They are in their late 50's and have worked all of their life, they should have an emergency fund.

They are not family or close friends. I don't trust them.

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

@Carmie A few years ago a friend asked me to co-sign on a $10,000 loan.She has bad credit & needed a co-signer. I told her I couldn't afford to make the payments if she defaulted.
She never spoke to me again.No big loss. I heard a few years later that her sister co-signed the loan.And you guessed it, she got stuck making the payments.They are no longer speaking.

dex · ‎03-09-2010

@Carmie @Sounds like someone is desperate.I hope your dh gets your message before this person gets a hold of him.I think he is totally obnoxious to think he will just go to the “higher power“ to get his loan?