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[Puppy Lips]

If it were me, I would politely say "No," but I might offer to help her out financially to buy something new for herself.  I would not want someone else wearing my clothes, and I really try to keep my closet in a state that I want and wear everything that I have.

[Kachina624]

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@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:

The answer is simple - just ask yourself if you want to be a person that is generous or stingy.

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@ThinkingOutLoud.  Give me a break!  Wanting to preserve and take good care of your nice things does not make you stingy.

Your statement does make you judgmental

[Kachina624]

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@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:

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@kaydee50 wrote:

Further thought--since her son is paying for her to attend the wedding, maybe she could ask him for some money so she could buy herself an outfit.

Still think it's a strange request from someone you don't know well.  And it has nothing to do with being "generous or stingy."

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Yes, it does. 

Maybe her son is already using all the money he has for the plane ticket so she doesn't want to ask for more.

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@ThinkingOutLoud.  Then MAYBE she should just stay home and forget the whole thing instead of imposing on others.

[Biftu]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts.  All she said was that it was going to be an outdoor wedding.  Guess I can look through dresses I no longer wear and see if anything would be appropriate and just give it to her.  By the way, she tells me her son is very rich and has a huge home so money for him is not an issue.  In fact he flies her there first class.

[RetRN]

Of course, I would help her if I could. Many of us have more clothes than we need. This is a special day and I'm sure she wants to look nice. Now if she asked for $1000.00 that would be different. 

Can't believe people would not provide an act of kindness to someone in need.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@Biftu wrote:

Thanks everyone for your thoughts.  All she said was that it was going to be an outdoor wedding.  Guess I can look through dresses I no longer wear and see if anything would be appropriate and just give it to her.  By the way, she tells me her son is very rich and has a huge home so money for him is not an issue.  In fact he flies her there first class.

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@Biftu 

WOW.   In my mind, that changes everything.  Shame on her son for not knowing his mother is strugging!   

[LavernLuvsShoes]

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WOW.   In my mind, that changes everything.  Shame on her son for not knowing his mother is strugging!   

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I agree - This is beginning to sound "fishy" to me.

However, if this was a real and legitimate situation, I would be happy to "give" her an outfit (or two) to wear to her son's wedding.

I am blessed to have more dresses than I actually need, and wouldn't mind sharing with someone in dire straits at all.

[Forbidden Fruit]

This reminds me of a time when my family was on hard times and one of my children (2nd grade) did not have a winter coat. We looked everywhere--big box stores, estate sales, 2nd hand, garage sales, asked relatives. Either it was too small, too big, we could not afford it or no one had anything to loan.  One of my co-workers ( at a new job as well) noticed how stressed I was, asked me what was wrong and I told her.  Next day, she brought in a coat that her child could not wear. It was a little big but we made it worked.  I started to cry--and I'm no sap.  She wanted nothing in return.  That was 13 years ago.  Things like this matter and I still get teary over it today.  Help out when you can, you don't have to give her anything sentimental that you can't replace but I bet you can find something. Hope it works out.     

[CelticCrafter]

Only lend it if it's something you are willing to part with.

Kind of like don't lend money unless you're will to take a loss.

[Shop Till you Drop]

@Biftu No good Deed goes unnoticed and I bet you would feel great knowing you helped someone who really needs some help.  It sounds like she thought a lot of you when you worked together and probably admired your wardrobe from afar.  I bet if you check in your closet you could find a couple of really nice options you could gift to her, might save you a trip to the goodwill to donate someday!  Seize this moment to do a really nice deed