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07-14-2016 03:43 PM
@Pqfan wrote:They are not married yet or combined anything.
I am so worried for the guy but I can't say anything to him.
She is a shark to the tenth power!
The makings of a future episode of SNAPPED!, Who The did I Marry & a Lifetime movie.
"Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference."
07-14-2016 03:49 PM
It sounds like the poor guy in tangled in her web. Perhaps we could all get together for an intervention.
Seriously though, you sound like a good friend/relative and I hope things work out before it's too late.
07-14-2016 03:57 PM - edited 07-14-2016 03:59 PM
Lawyer
Make sure the house is in his name only
Pre-Nup by all means
He's going to need to protect his 401K as well
He's your friend? By ALL MEANS but in.
07-14-2016 05:41 PM
I live in Virginia. A friend's daughter is getting a divorce. Her soon to be ex husband owned the house they lived in prior to their marriage. She was never on the deed. During the separation he sold the house. She is not entitled to any of the proceeds of the sale. I agree with this.
07-14-2016 06:25 PM
@PhilaLady1 wrote:Maybe there is something that I do not understand, but it seems to me that alimony is so unfair. Like a relic from the days that the the man in the family worked and the woman stayed home. Why should a man getting a divorce continue to pay for a woman's livliehood (sp?) when there is no reason that the woman couldnt put on her big-girl pants and get a job.
It's not just men who pay alimony. Women can also be assessed alimony.
07-14-2016 06:39 PM
If it's someone you really care about, maybe you should be frank about your misgivings even if it ends your friendship. I think we owe our friends that.
As for women and alimony, I think there are many times when it's necessary and appropriate. A woman who WORKS INSIDE THE HOME RAISING CHILDREN, COOKING AND CLEANING IS IN FACT WORKING. Therefore, she is definitely owed alimony if the marriage breaks up and she finds herself without her husband's income to support her. Even a woman who had no children (this is rare) but who stayed home deserves alimony. If her husband was supporting her, she can't be expected to be totally impoverished because they are divorcing and she can't make a lot of money on her own. Mothers and homemakers contribute a lot to the home and marriage, IMO. If their husbands take a powder or the marriage breaks down when they are older, they deserve spousal support until they retire. Perhaps they should have to get a job, but their former husband should have to supplement that with alimony.
07-14-2016 07:09 PM
It also depends on whether NJ is a community property state.
It must be a significant piece of property.
07-14-2016 07:50 PM - edited 07-14-2016 07:55 PM
If he bought the house during the marriage, she would get half.
If the house was bought before they got married, it would be his after the divorce.
However, if she can prove she made payments toward the house, she may get that money back.
(general rule)
07-14-2016 07:55 PM
@Pqfan wrote:Two people get married.
The man owns a home.
If there is a divorce in NJ and there is no prenup what happens?
Does the woman automatically get money from the guy?
I am watching a possible train wreck right now.
The guy is very naieve. (spelling)?
As a paralegal for over 30 years, ask an attorney, not a shopping forum. As long as the PROPERTY is located in NJ, contact the NJ Bar for a referral to an attorney in the town where the property is located. Good luck.
07-14-2016 08:21 PM
Divisible Property
Generally, the court has the authority to divide assets acquired during the marriage -- marital assets -- but not assets acquired before marriage or by gift or inheritance. These are considered the separate property of the spouse who acquired them. Marital property may include real estate, vehicles, bank accounts, investment accounts, certain life insurance policies, household furnishings and other personal property. Marital property may also include IRAs, pension plans and 401(k) plans.
New Jersey is an Equitable Distribution State and the above applies in most cases. Still, talk to a lawyer, always.
@Pqfan wrote:Two people get married.
The man owns a home.
If there is a divorce in NJ and there is no prenup what happens?
Does the woman automatically get money from the guy?
I am watching a possible train wreck right now.
The guy is very naieve. (spelling)?
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