Learning to Let Go

Anonymous032819 · ‎03-29-2019

It's something that we all go through, sooner or later, especially if your family is gone.

It can be a hard, difficult, and painful journey, but it defines us as to who we are.

Today, I went to the storage unit that I have been renting (yes, I know, a big money waster) and went through the things that I want to keep.

Photos and home movies that are on film(!), my mom's report cards, dishes and stuff that my grandmother had, like candlestick holders, my mother's college diploma, etc, I want to keep.

But I can't keep everything.

Am I expected to haul everything around for the rest of my life?

I don't think that either of my parents would want that.

I have about a dozen boxes of stuff that I want to keep.

The rest, I just don't have the room for.

Sometimes I hate being an adult.

The Sky looks different when you have someone you love up there.

rms1954 · ‎06-06-2019

I'm married to someone who can't let go of anything. He even went so far as to make trips to my father's house (without me or my permission) and took things which I later found. Each time I'd find something I let him know how upset I was. He would promise that that's all he took, until I'd find something else. He would lie each time I would find something. He had no business doing that. You should know what you need to hold onto and what to let go of.

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

Nothing is a waste if it helps you through the process. That was tough today I know. ❤️

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

It's hard to let go of the people you love. My mom passed over 20 years ago. A lot of her stuff is in my attic.I can't bring myself to part with all those memories.Go easy on yourself.

twinsister · ‎03-12-2010

I can relate to how you feel. Two years ago, I was forced to leave the home that had been in my family for 70 years (I had lived in it for 64 years). I took some things of my parents, aunts and grandmother, but I couldn't take everything I wanted. I have slowly gotten rid of some of those items, since I am in a much smaller home, but feel bad about doing it. Have to keep reminding myself that I can't hold on to these items forever.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

I let go of almost everything I had collected from 4 closed houses in the last 6 years. It feels so good.

I am not a museum. Nobody else cares about this stuff. It doesn't bring them back or make them closer.

It roots me out of my house. It takes up space, causing chaos and clutter, it has to be dusted, it fills up your attic, it makes it hard for you to have things you love and cherish.

Get rid of most of it and live life unburbened.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

@Sooner wrote:
I let go of almost everything I had collected from 4 closed houses in the last 6 years. It feels so good.

I am not a museum. Nobody else cares about this stuff. It doesn't bring them back or make them closer.

It roots me out of my house. It takes up space, causing chaos and clutter, it has to be dusted, it fills up your attic, it makes it hard for you to have things you love and cherish.

Get rid of most of it and live life unburbened.

I SO agree with what you posted.

Azcowgirl · ‎04-10-2012

Do I ever understand what you are saying.It can take many

years to get to a place where you can finally say, ok I'm ready to let go of that .Especially when you had a dad that saved everything. It drove my Mom crazy. Now when I do purge another item I think my Mom must be smiling down from heaven ☺️.