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[Noel7]

I'm confused.

Is the the girl's father or a male neighbor who is kissing the child on the lips?

[cherry]

@Noel7  It's a male neighbor

[SoutherngirlNC]

I wonder how the little girl feels about it.  No way would any of my neighbors kiss me on the lips at that age.  She may hate it as well, but does not want to tell anyone.  CALL HER MOTHER NOW.....

[Cakers3]

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@MickD wrote:

@fortune - If you have been "interested" enough to witness this on more than one occasion then you are involved.  You have three choices

1. Contact the police non-emergency # and ask for advice/options.

2. Talk to the girl's parents and let them follow-up with the inappropriate male....might be problems that arise from that.

3.  Best option is to contact your local/county child services.  It is anonymous and they will do a preliminary visit, assessment,etc. That is their job.  This is highly inappropriate behavior. I was a mental health professional for 20+ years...

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@MickDI agree-the dad doesn't have to be reported as a s*x offender; asking for advice from professionals is appropriate and I also posted as such. 

Notifiying the mother, as you said, can open up a host of issues-including violence.

[CareBears]

@Cakers3 I had never thought of that, telling the mother and her confronting him, now a days you just never know how he might react?

[AKgirl2]

This is such a tough call, being its you and 2 neighbors involved, but I would trust my instincts on this one.  As they say, trust your "inner voice."  It's usually right!

[YorkieonmyPillow]

A grown man should NOT be kissing a neighbor's little girl on the lips! I would tell her parents so fast it would make your head spin ~ I would ALSO let him know that I was keeping my eye on him.

Might be a good idea to check his name with the sex offender registry.

[suzyQ3]

I understand the protective instincts from some here who recommend calling child protective services or a non-emergency police number, but please don't do this. Either way, such action can end up ruining the lives of innocent people.

If you are worried, talk to the mother of the neighbor girl.

[Plaid Pants2]

Before we go labeling this guy a pedophile, stop to consider that in some cultures kissing children on the lips is NORMAL.

When I was little, and my Godparents would come over to visit, they would kiss me on the lips, right in front of my mother.

There was nothing "untoward" about the kiss, or "malicious intent" behind the kiss. It was just a simple kiss hello.

[MickD]

If more professionals/the general population were mandated reporters then there wouldn't be an issue. No judgement in mandated reporting...see something, say something...Let the appropriate authorities do their job. Period.