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[Noel7]

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

I understand the protective instincts from some here who recommend calling child protective services or a non-emergency police number, but please don't do this. Either way, such action can end up ruining the lives of innocent people.

If you are worried, talk to the mother of the neighbor girl.

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@suzyQ3

I agree, and strongly feel this is something for the parents to handle, not a neighbor.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

@fortuneThank God for people like you.

[woman63]

@fortune. There are a great many opinions expressed here. Please don't overthink what you should do. The quickest way to get the ball rolling to be sure the child is not in harm's way is to tell the parents. They might know this is going on and have no problem with it. But if they do not know, you have assured that they are informed. What they choose to do is up to them. You can continue to observe the man's behavior. You seem like the type of observant neighbor I'd like to have. Please tell the parents now. 

[blablablogger]

Tell the girls parents, that is all. Let them be the judge. 

[ladyroxanne]

i've been kissing my boys and dad always on the lips.  a neighbor or a non-family member i think is quite different.

it could be quite harmless, but in this day and age it is very questionable.  i would have to say it probably is worrisome.

my spellcheck is not working re worrisome? 

[sidsmom]

Maybe the neighbor man IS the biological father.

Would explain the close living & visits.

Anything is possible, yes?

[Plaid Pants2]

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@ladyroxanne wrote:

i've been kissing my boys and dad always on the lips.  a neighbor or a non-family member i think is quite different.

it could be quite harmless, but in this day and age it is very questionable.  i would have to say it probably is worrisome.

my spellcheck is not working re worrisome? 

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That's how you correctly spell "worrisome".

You change the "Y" to "i".

[Goldengate8361]

That's a big red flag! It's really gross and unnatural.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@MickD wrote:

@fortune - If you have been "interested" enough to witness this on more than one occasion then you are involved.  You have three choices

1. Contact the police non-emergency # and ask for advice/options.

2. Talk to the girl's parents and let them follow-up with the inappropriate male....might be problems that arise from that.

3.  Best option is to contact your local/county child services.  It is anonymous and they will do a preliminary visit, assessment,etc. That is their job.  This is highly inappropriate behavior. I was a mental health professional for 20+ years...

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@MickD    @fortune

Sorry, but the child's parent should be told FIRST before any calls to authorities are made.    

Can you imagine CPS ringing your doorbell to discuss something inappropriate that MIGHT have happened to your child ... and you are completely in the dark about this situation?   How is this the best option?

[pattypeep]

Not good, IMO. I would not have allowed my daughter to go to her friend's house with just the dad there. I would insist that both girls come to my house and play.