Community Chat

[LTT1]

Something in my memory banks tells me that one response to a person’s determination to commit is to say, “That is one option, but let’s see if there is another way to solve these issues.”

cannot remember if I read this in a book or not.

My teen students consulted me on the rare occasion of a friend needing help, and I do remember having to either say it or tell one of them to say it.

And I remember why it worked, it just seemed to work because I had nothing else to offer and I was in a bind trying to get them out of panic mode.

Feeling awful for that family.🙏🏻

[dooBdoo]

              @goldensrbest, @beach-mom, @panda1234, @Laura14, @Merciful One, and @Tweetybrd,  Thank you for your gracious gifts of kindness.   I also am grateful for each of the hearts…   they are a special connection and a contact from person to person, and meaningful.   We have a wealth of generous spirits in this community, and I appreciate each of you.

              @LTT1,  Maggie Nolia posted the full text (now missing) of the inspirational “When Someone Takes His Own Life" from Norman Vincent Peale’s book “The Healing of Sorrow.”    

              I want to extend my gratitude to all who shared experiences and information, and I’m so profoundly sorry for the pain and anguish.   By sharing, you send a quiet but radiant beam of grace out into the world, with the potential to change a life and letting others know they’re not alone.   

             “I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in the darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.” (Hafiz)    

❤️

[LTT1]

@dooBdoo

Thank you for this information.

[Isobel Archer]

Just  for the record, despite my having questions about Spade's husband's statement, I certainly no NOT blame him - or her - for her suicide.

I certainly get that mental illness is complicated and even unbearable - not only for the person suffering personally, but also for those close to them.

If he, in fact, did want a divorce, I certainly do not judge him for that  or blame him in any way.  I do think, however, that making a statement that is then subject to more questions is not the way to squelch the press speculation or make life easier for his daughter.

[Qshopper1991]

@dooBdoo

I don't think I've ever read a more accurate description of what depression truly feels like.  Thank you.  And I understand.

[Allegheny]

@dooBdoo  I didn't want to quote your reply.  But want to tell you I understand.  At times I have been there. The mind goes to a different place.  It is very hard to explain to those who have not experienced it.

[goldensrbest]

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@dooBdoo wrote:

              @goldensrbest, @beach-mom, @panda1234, @Laura14, @Merciful One, and @Tweetybrd,  Thank you for your gracious gifts of kindness.   I also am grateful for each of the hearts…   they are a special connection and a contact from person to person, and meaningful.   We have a wealth of generous spirits in this community, and I appreciate each of you.

              @LTT1,  Maggie Nolia posted the full text (now missing) of the inspirational “When Someone Takes His Own Life" from Normal Vincent Peale’s book “The Healing of Sorrow.”    

              I want to extend my gratitude to all who shared experiences and information, and I’m so profoundly sorry for the pain and anguish.   By sharing, you send a quiet but radiant beam of grace out into the world, with the potential to change a life and letting others know they’re not alone.   

             “I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in the darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.” (Hafiz)    

❤️

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Thank you for posting ,there are some that really understand what i call the darkness that is inside some of us.

[Tweetybrd]

@goldensrbest
I agree with your statement about dooBdoos description. My husband might understand more once he reads this information. Thank you all so much! dooBdoo your kindness overflows😘

[dooBdoo]

           @Qshopper1991, @LTT1, @Allegheny, @goldensrbest, @Tweetybrd, sending you (((gentle hugs))) and love.❤️

[MariotaMurielle]

understanding how or why someone would do this is very difficult for those of us who have never personally experienced severe depression. when I was young my mother had profound depression. it was well hidden, a family secret. none of us could truly understand what she was going through. it was confusing to me and my siblings because she was a beautiful, intelligent, accomplished professional woman who was admired by so many.  when I was 12 she attempted suicide. I remember feeling so sad and angry that she would want to leave us. I didn't understand that she was in pain and wasn't thinking clearly. to this day, some 55 years later, it's a dark, sad memory that I suppress.

we don't know what Kate was thinking. we don't know what pain she was feeling. we don't know what she was dealing with that she could no longer bear.

I pray for peace for her soul, peace for her daughter, her husband and all of those who knew and loved her.