Community Chat

[OKPrincess]

After being in the work force for 30+ years I can believe anything. The company can be great to work for and have great benefits but you can’t always trust everyone. I worked for a woman supervisor who smiled and joked to your face all the while sticking a knife in your back. Oh yes I have stories but it serves no purpose now. It’s basically bullying in the workplace instead of the schools.

[Nightowlz]

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@Snowpuppy wrote:

Where I work we hold "courtesy" interviews with people who don't have a  snowball's chance of landing the job.

They meet the basic requirements and we are required to interview 5 candidates. That means 4 outsiders and the bosses brother in law.

This tactic isn't any better.

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@Snowpuppy One place I worked the Boss told the girl at the front desk he was only interviewing women with big boobs????????????? She would throw away applications she knew the boss did not want to interview.

I could not believe it when I heard him say that to her.

I also took applications during the lunch hour & was asked if they had big boobs. I said I have no idea. I said if they are qualified for the position it does not matter.

[occasionalrain]

We don't know what this position involved. Perhaps it was her way of finding out how this man would handle an uncomfortable, challenging situation. Too bad he wasn't up to turning a negative into a positive.

[libbyannE]

You have no way of knowing what really happened since you were not there. Why dredge that up now? Sorry for my impatience, but is this your business? I may be bringing too much to this discussion, but I have an aunt-in-law who is always talking about this person or that person or what happened or who said what and it's very strange. And she is always annoyed with someone for something. When my mother and I get together we talk about ideas and plans and, yes, our cats! But  in my entire life, we have never talked about or been interested in gossiping about other people, and we don't seem to have the daily issues with others that my aunt expresses. I guess it's "different strokes," but I get very bored with that so maybe that's what I'm hearing in you and it probably isn't fair but I had to explain. 

[JBKO]

Why dredge this up now? Is this my business? Well there are several reasons. Because I cared about my coworker when he personally expressed how he felt to me. Because I like to learn from other people's experiences. Because I didn't have access to a desktop computer for months until now. Because I'm following all the guidelines when posting on this forum.

I will never understand those who post on a thread that they have somesort of issue with. I avoid those because I don't look for problems; I already have enough coming to me. 

[JBKO]

I was reminded of an Eleanor Roosevelt quote:

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

I tend to agree with it. Discussing people can and does turn into discussing events and ideas.

[Peaches McPhee]

I had a job interview in the next city over, to which I traveled through a snow storm for an early AM appointment.  At the group interview, which was with me and about 6 interviewers, the first thing they said was "Did you know this was an evening positon?  We neglected to write that in the ad or job description.  We just noticed this yesterday."  Ugh, no, I did not know.

This is a deal-breaker.  So, you just wasted my time, the interviewers' time, and your own time.  I have always thought that this was such a stupid thing to do, that it must have been some sort of purposeful test or something.  (Which I guess I failed).  But, what the heck?

[chrystaltree]

I've never heard of anything so unprofessional and mean.  I'm speechless.  When I was supervisor and manager, I interviewed hundreds of people and if I refused to interview someone because there was a grammatical or spelling error in their resume; I certainly wouldn't have interviewed may people or hired many people.  My guess is that she didn't want that man for the position but he was qualified so she needed a reason to exclude him.  Yes, he could have complained to HR but that wouldn't have accomlished anything except to antagonize her.  He'd have made any enemy.  HR might have forced her to interview him but she wasn't going to give him the job.

[CrazyDaisy]

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@JBKO wrote:

I was reminded of an Eleanor Roosevelt quote:

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

I tend to agree with it. Discussing people can and does turn into discussing events and ideas.

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I think you may have misunderstood the meaning of the quote.  The point she was making is that those who talk about other people have small minds, thus not able to discuss more important subjects.