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[GingerPeach]

You've all probably noticed this already, but I still see that many people assume (and not just here) that if someone doesn't write or say every detail about something they add to a post (or in conversation), that somehow this means they don't know the thing they "left out."

I know this is a futile request, but it would be nice to have folks say something like, "You probably know this already" before they proceed to tell you what they think you need to know.

How does that sound to everybody?  :-)

[surfk]

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@GingerPeach wrote:

You've all probably noticed this already, but I still see that many people assume (and not just here) that if someone doesn't write or say every detail about something they add to a post (or in conversation), that somehow this means they don't know the thing they "left out."

I know this is a futile request, but it would be nice to have folks say something like, "You probably know this already" before they proceed to tell you what they think you need to know.

How does that sound to everybody?  :-)

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You probably know this already, @GingerPeach but I tend to agree with you.

(Ohmygosh it works!). lol

[Adelina]

@GingerPeach, I've read the opening post over and over and I am still not sure what you mean. Maybe I am having an off day, but could you clarify?

[GingerPeach]

@Adelina For example, if someone posts, "I bought a new book and love it," someone else will say, "Oh, it's not new.  It came out six months ago," when all the time you've just bought the paperback version, knowing full well that the hardback was issued earlier.

Or, someone will say, "My kitchen drain is plugged and the disposal won't start.  I've tried everything."  And they will say, "Use the little tool that unsticks it," when that is probably the first thing you did and included, by reference, in your "everything" statement.

I could go on.  Hope that helps a bit.  This is not earthshaking - just one of my pet peeves.

[Adelina]

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@GingerPeach wrote:

@Adelina For example, if someone posts, "I bought a new book and love it," someone else will say, "Oh, it's not new.  It came out six months ago," when all the time you've just bought the paperback version, knowing full well that the hardback was issued earlier.

Or, someone will say, "My kitchen drain is plugged and the disposal won't start.  I've tried everything."  And they will say, "Use the little tool that unsticks it," when that is probably the first thing you did and included, by reference, in your "everything" statement.

I could go on.  Hope that helps a bit.  This is not earthshaking - just one of my pet peeves.

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NOW, I get it. Thanks! I have found, however, at times the most obvious solution/answer had indeed escaped the poster. But, I recognize that your suggestion is one way not to annoy the poster if that was not the case...

[GingerPeach]

@Adelina

It's all about trying not to annoy the other person.  And also recognizing that someone may not have the full story/picture.  And we all know the story of "assume."  Anyway, enough said.

I'm beginning to annoy myself! 

[AuntG]

There does seem to be a need to constantly correct others. I'll use weight loss as an example. If I would talk about it in terms of weight loss being a struggle, someone might chime in and say all you have to do is eat less and exercise more. However, there can be factors that make those things much more difficult than they sound. Therefore, I try to take into account that people don't feel the need to give the obvious details when they post out here.

[surfk]

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@AuntG wrote:
There does seem to be a need to constantly correct others. I'll use weight loss as an example. If I would talk about it in terms of weight loss being a struggle, someone might chime in and say all you have to do is eat less and exercise more. However, there can be factors that make those things much more difficult than they sound. Therefore, I try to take into account that people don't feel the need to give the obvious details when they post out here.

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I always love it when people send an SOS (after five days of capitivity and finally being able to bore a hole into a cement wall)  from a locked basement and it reads, "HELP! I'M LOCKED INTO THE NOTORIOUS DIRTY BASEMENT KILLER'S BASEMENT AND I CAN'T GET OUT!!!"

And someone invariably replies, "Why don't you just use a key?"

lol

[hckynutjohn]

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@GingerPeach wrote:

You've all probably noticed this already, but I still see that many people assume (and not just here) that if someone doesn't write or say every detail about something they add to a post (or in conversation), that somehow this means they don't know the thing they "left out."

I know this is a futile request, but it would be nice to have folks say something like, "You probably know this already" before they proceed to tell you what they think you need to know.

How does that sound to everybody?  :-)

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Not many here have ever accused me of saying too little or leaving things unsaid, quite the opposite. If I leave something out?  Brain *art.

[Adelina]

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@AuntG wrote:
There does seem to be a need to constantly correct others. I'll use weight loss as an example. If I would talk about it in terms of weight loss being a struggle, someone might chime in and say all you have to do is eat less and exercise more. However, there can be factors that make those things much more difficult than they sound. Therefore, I try to take into account that people don't feel the need to give the obvious details when they post out here.

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@AuntG, this is a prime example where not enough information about "the struggle", what was done in the past and why it hasn't worked, is the responsibility of the poster who made the statement.

Often, people start threads and make very general statements, ask for advice, and yet give little to no background information.  I would bet that a response along the lines you gave as an example would be meant to be snarky or out of frustration.

If generic commiseration is what the poster wants, then they should say so. I think for the most part, posters really want to help.....