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RibbonsRosesRainbows · ‎05-12-2014

well I am saving myself for marriage but what means the most to me is hugs and holding and kissing.........so that is important for me..........I am a loving touching person.

RibbonsRosesRainbows · ‎05-12-2014

On 7/21/2014 missyw1 said:
What does your boyfriend do with all his free time..... working (part time) and the mom of his 7 year old son, having him for the summer? Has this younger man told you that you are his girlfriend? Are you dating exclusivlely?

Yes we are dating exclusively and he has talked about marriage for the future but I just listen.

Feline Fine · ‎06-28-2013

Yes, I love when my pet partner reciprocates my affections. ${#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}$

But although I'm a natural hugger, when it comes to some hoomans, I just need my personal space, man.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

On 7/21/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:
Well, relationships have never been easy for me........of course staying home all the time there is not ways to meet people even in church.....they are married are too young or way too old...but no singles except women.......so I hope this relationship is the one for me but only time will tell.....I am ready to be loved the last few years of my life.......it would be very nice. Blessings to all and thank you for your nice posts. I think if a man is INTO a woman she will know it.........but a military man has been reprogramed and they may not feel like a regular man.........who knows............he is probably still feeling things out even though he has talked about us getting married I just listened and did not respond. It is easy to say things but doing it is another.

Seriously?

stilltamn8r · ‎03-14-2010

On 7/21/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:
well I am saving myself for marriage but what means the most to me is hugs and holding and kissing.........so that is important for me..........I am a loving touching person.

See, this is what men call a "tease"- SURE he "talks about marriage and you just listen" RRR you have ben talking marriage about this guy since your very first post about him, WAY back, what? Two months ago?

Come on, grow up! Its not "Paradise by the Dashboard lights" -no one in their 40's and 50's is going to offer to get married because they want to have secks that badly...

Is there something wrong with this guy that he cannot HAVE an "adult" relationship with a woman? Why should he settle for less than a complete relationship?

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

Hi RRR, I have been thinking about you for days and wondering how you are doing. I haven't seen you on here much lately. The last time I saw your post about the man in your life things weren't going too well, are the two of you back together? If so, take it slow and listen very carefully to what he says. I know you like affection but some men just aren't into hugging and kissing while others are overpowering. It would be nice if he would take you out on a date once in awhile, sitting in his apartment watching TV can get old real fast. Take care of yourself, be happy.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

irishmama5 · ‎04-18-2013

RRR, GO SLOW, you say you live in a small town and there is nothing to do and no one to meet. WELL the same goes for your new friend. Soon his young son will me home and that should be his #1 priority. Unless you are going to be a babysitter your time with your BF will change.

Yuban3 · ‎03-10-2010

Okay, so the dude talks about getting hitched, and she just sits there like a bump on a log, saying nothing.

That may be why he isn't all over her like white on rice with hugs and kisses.

Again, she expects everybody around her to have the ability to read her mind.

Nobody can.

If she wants more hugs and kisses, she need to TELL HIM.

As for "Nobody knows where I am, or who I am. Who does it hurt?", that is just plain naivete talking.

With a little digging, and a little computer know-how, anybody can find out anything about anybody.

Was Yuban, then changed to Plaid Pants due to forum upgrade, and apparently, I'm back to being Yuban.

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

On 7/22/2014 Yuban3 said:
Okay, so the dude talks about getting hitched, and she just sits there like a bump on a log, saying nothing.

That may be why he isn't all over her like white on rice with hugs and kisses.

Again, she expects everybody around her to have the ability to read her mind.

Nobody can.

If she wants more hugs and kisses, she need to TELL HIM.

As for "Nobody knows where I am, or who I am. Who does it hurt?", that is just plain naivete talking.

With a little digging, and a little computer know-how, anybody can find out anything about anybody.

Hmm don't you think her behavior tells him she does not want much, or maybe she is a giant tease and leaves him wanting her but not getting her ${#emotions_dlg.lol}$

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

CouponQueen · ‎10-21-2010

On 7/21/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:
well I am saving myself for marriage but what means the most to me is hugs and holding and kissing.........so that is important for me..........I am a loving touching person.

I am sorry to say buti f you were 20 I could totally go with that..but at your age and the age of the man ..he is NOT going to wait to propose and seriously while men his age do not want to marry often a much older woman..especially with age - comes health related problems..Long term marriages people grow old together, the spent all the years together so aging old together is just a progression.

You want this to be the one but you need to be open minded that while it is fun to have male companionship it will most likely not lead to marriage.

Usually when you are a new couple you can't keep your hands off each other..what did I read the other day.."if you do the same things throughout a relationship that you did at the start - it wouldn't end.." or something like that..

That first phyiscal attraction...butterflies in the belly..can't want to be together..not wanting to be apart...calling each other morning, noon and night..that is all mutual and not one sided or forced regardless of the age.

My sister just married for the 2nd time at 45..and you can see those things with them..as relationships become older - you become more settled and another phase starts.

Are you both on the same page here? I mean does he consider you his girlfriend? What does he have to say about this no secks until you are married?

Unless the man grew up with Jim Bob Duggar as his father they are not going to go along with those relationship terms unless he has issue of his own..

absolutely can understand not jumping in bed with him right away but usually in relationships today intimacy is the next step in a healthy relationship.

I think you have in your head this vision of perfectness..Hugs, kisses, hearts and flowers..with all sunshine...all girls want those hearts ...at 16...

If a guy is into you - he will show it. Obviously you want hugs/kisses and he doesn't..does he say no, push you away, not initiate..? If you do..what does he do?

Very often age doesn't matter but with other issues it may be..he has a young son and you have a troubled relationship with yours..you have medical issues..you said he is a military man and programmed differently? How...that military men can't be loving?

I would enjoy the relationship for the companionship but women often read more into these things then are there. The things you say - are huge signals to me.