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[Porcelain]

All of us become "orphans" at some point in our lives when our parents pass. I dread it. Hasn't happened to me yet, but I absolutely dread it. I understand what you are talking about @Jordan2. Just know that everyone who has experienced it and who will experience it is holding your hand.

[Kachina624]

@Jordan2    Let me tell you what happened on my birthday which was last month.  I was a little down in the dumps because, like you, only one person wished me a happy birthday, my sister.

It was a Friday, my car had been in a body shop most of the week having some repair work done.  The called me about 4pm to say it was ready and they were sending someone to pick me up.  This lovely very young man arrived and we drove to the shop.  He asked me how my day was going and I told him it was my birthday and I'd been sitting a!one at home all day.  We had a nice conversation.

Got the car and drove back home.  About an hour later, the doorbell rang and there was my young man and another mechanic standing there with a small birthday cake in their hands.  I couldn't believe it.  Nothing like that ever happened to me before.  First birthday cake I've had for years and years.  It was so sweet of them,dont you agree?

I don't want you to be forgotten so, happy birthday to you!

[Burnsite]

Condolences, Jordan---My worst birthday was my Mother's initial birthday after her death a month earlier.

Losing parents is like losing a big part of your past; and for me, it was like losing my best friends.  It does lighten over time, but it's a deep sadness.

[spumoni99]

There really isn't anything like the unconditional love of a mother, mine has been gone for 22 years and I still miss her.  I know all of us can't replace your mother but sending you birthday love and wishes for a happy birthday.

My daughter always remembers my birthday and makes it special thank goodness because my husband isn't good about it!

[on the bay]

@Jordan2,

I told my daughters the other day, no one tells us how hard it will be to lose your mother. We talk about it often. It is so unbelivable that she is not here with us like they were all our lives.

Then it makes me think of all our own passing from this life. How could we not think of this? So it can be many sad times.

I'm still between crying all of a sudden at something that reminds me of her in good or times of her suffering.

I'm still trying to "feel" her in heaven and wherever she is. And to try to feel with all my heart that she is "here" with me. Maybe not physically but with all her love and spirit.

And I hope my children feel the same when I'm not here on earth too.

It really makes us feel like there are 2 lives-those here and those in heaven or wherever we believe.And I want so much to find her.Sometimes I do-a sign or something from esp nature.

My mother did not believe in any sort of heaven or afterlife but I still feel like she is there!

I think she must be with you. Maybe encouraged you to write about her and to share your sorrow with others, just thinking about her,

even though we may not meet in person. 

[Imaoldhippie]

@Jordan2 ...........Happy Birthday!

You are very fortunate to have had a mother as you described.  Lots of good memories for you to look back on.

[meallen616]

@Jordan2,

[Redsoxmom1]

Jordan, your post brought me to tears.  I had my first birthday without my mom in June.  It was the hardest thing.  She passed away right before Christmas.  I know how you feel.  I am sending you a birthday hug.  Your mom is all around you.  

[on the bay]

@Redsoxmom1, @Jordan2,

both your posts and I'm crying along with you. Maybe all our mothers are here with us especially now!

[QVCkitty1]

I understand. If we are very lucky we had the kind of mom who made everything special. We can learn to adjust and make do, but it will never be the same.  🌺🌷🌺