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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

Someone may have already posted this...home heath aides/workers would go in teams if a bad hood or difficult patient.
Where have you gone, Joe DiMaggio? A nation turns its lonely eyes to you.... ~ S & G
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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

You report it.

You don't go back.

It's not your job to figure out what this old man's issue is.

And don't sit on any old man's bed when he asks next time.

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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

IMO you did absolutely nothing wrong. I don't care if you brought your dog (which I thought was nice for someone who was lonely) or friendly. He was so inappropriate period. The only pass you could possibly give is dementia. If that is the reason you report it and let the higher pay grades deal with it. If it isn't dementia he is just a dirty old man and you had the back luck to come across him in life. Chalk it up to a learning experience and a life experience and be the strong person your parents raised you to be.

Wrong is still wrong just because you benefited from it.
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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

There are several excellent advisory comments here, probably the best of them are the least you wanted to read.

Take the lesson from this experience: Don't get personal with your clients. As you said yourself, you don't know their medical history therefore you can't know if you are setting them up for an expectation you cannot/should not fulfill.

No more birthday cakes. Leave your dog at home. Keep your service entirely on a professional level, you aren't there to be their friend. You can still be warm, kind and caring. The elderly and anyone who isn't getting sufficient oxygen, he having emphysema, may not always act as they would when they were fully cognitive.

As one poster said, he shouldn't be denied the services he needs. Hopefully, they will assign him to someone who will keep good boundaries from the onset.

Nursing homes are full of people who have lost their sekksual filters. They grope at staff. It's a sad part of aging.

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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

You can type 'sexual'.

Webbie doesn't have a go to pieces when he/she sees it.

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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

P.S. I would not bring my dog into a client's home.

You may think it's a nice thing to do, but you don't know how a client might react. Potentially not fair to the dog.

Just a thought.

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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

On 3/11/2015 Free2be said:

There are several excellent advisory comments here, probably the best of them are the least you wanted to read.

Take the lesson from this experience: Don't get personal with your clients. As you said yourself, you don't know their medical history therefore you can't know if you are setting them up for an expectation you cannot/should not fulfill.

No more birthday cakes. Leave your dog at home. Keep your service entirely on a professional level, you aren't there to be their friend. You can still be warm, kind and caring. The elderly and anyone who isn't getting sufficient oxygen, he having emphysema, may not always act as they would when they were fully cognitive.

As one poster said, he shouldn't be denied the services he needs. Hopefully, they will assign him to someone who will keep good boundaries from the onset.

Nursing homes are full of people who have lost their sekksual filters. They grope at staff. It's a sad part of aging.

I agree with this post, and others that offered advisory comments that OP could (and should) use in the future. However, I disliked the post that took on an unnecessary victim-blaming tone.

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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

On 3/11/2015 KittyLouSoutenu said:

P.S. I would not bring my dog into a client's home.

You may think it's a nice thing to do, but you don't know how a client might react. Potentially not fair to the dog.

Just a thought.

All true. Also, what would have happened if the dog bit Leroy??

I cringed when I saw that she let him rub her leg and tried to hug her. That's when she should have left the room and made the phone call IMO...

Strange story - and that's all it might be - just a story......Wink

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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

I would not have returned after the first incident and notified my supervisor/employer immediately. I am questioning how you know Leroy drinks? If you had definitive proof, again, your supervisor should have been notified since we all know alcohol/meds do not mix.

While dementia may be playing a part in this, (or it may not), his actions are obviously not something to tolerate.

There are some red flags here as to Leroy's well being; and I also question if it is allowed to bring your dog with you.

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Re: Job Issue - need to vent... what would you do?

Too bad the home health agency didn't give you guidelines on how to handle something like this before you started.

They should know that you might need to set boundaries.