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[catlover]

where do we start with this one?

Delusional put it pretty right.

All that help, all that money spent for nothing.

And no, the scale is not broken

[Laura14]

I literally just discovered this show and watched it for the first time this week.

I am in awe that these people find caretakers willing to do what they do.  And then to start getting an attitude with them and others trying to help you?  My head exploded.  My family wouldn't take my lip or bring me a cracker if I was a bratty to any degree or even looked at them unkindly.

I think some of these enablers need to learn that lesson fast and stop literally killing their friends.  All I could think was what is in the will to foster any of this nonsense?  It can't be much.

[4kitties]

Seems like they are showing many of the failures this season.  Joyce was in denial of what she was eating.  I think that the lady that was her " helper" was enabling her.  It amazes me the control these people have over their families and friends.  They are always telling people what to do and what they want.  And no one seems to be able to tell them "NO".  

If I had a friend or family member that was morbidly obese I would never bring them unhealthy food or drink. 

[Suziepeach]

So gung ho at the beginning and then discovered, "oh wait I have to work to get this weight off?"  And to think, she's only 4'11".  She really ****** me off with that attitude- oh 1200 calories is too much for me, I need to have less..  I thought Dr. Now was going to come unglued..  Her enablers were the ones to blame with her gaining so much weight back.. sorry but she's another one that took advantage of an opportunity to get her life back.. I still think (I am so mean) that some enjoy being taken care of.

I read at heavy.com she quit the program. 

https://heavy.com/entertainment/2020/02/joyce-del-viscovo-my-600-lb-life/

[Buffalogal47]

@Suziepeach :

I think you're partly right about morbidly obese people wanting to be taken care of. I also think one of the causes of this condition is that something very traumatic happened to them, like sexual abuse, and building this wall of fat keeps people away from them. I knew someone like this. She died at age 36 and weighed well over 700 lbs. Her weight actually crushed her internal organs. Morbid obesity  is a horrible way to live and a horrible way to die. 

[cindyNC]

I just started watching some of these also.  They are very depressing.  The only one I have liked so far is the 1000 pound Sisters.........a separate program. They go thru the struggle but also laugh and have fun. 

[Suziepeach]

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@Buffalogal47 wrote:

@Suziepeach :

I think you're partly right about morbidly obese people wanting to be taken care of. I also think one of the causes of this condition is that something very traumatic happened to them, like sexual abuse, and building this wall of fat keeps people away from them. I knew someone like this. She died at age 36 and weighed well over 700 lbs. Her weight actually crushed her internal organs. Morbid obesity  is a horrible way to live and a horrible way to die. 

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@Buffalogal47 how horrible for that someone you mentioned- absolutely horrible way to die..  that's a darn shame someone couldn't have intervened and helped her.  I guess with some, and I'm not a Doctor, they can't let go of the past- really feel bad for them too.

[BlueFinch]

With a success rate of only five out of a hundred, Joyce's behaviors were not atypical. Dr. Now impresses with his ability to be firm, while not losing it with these patients, but he knows it will only make most more rebellious. They don't want to hear NO.  

It's like the alcoholic who comes in with a GI bleed, vomiting frank blood, all the way into the ER.  They successfully go through treatment and detox.  What do they do on their way home?  They stop at the liquor store.  Fear of death does not override their desire to self medicate.  

Addictions destroy all that matters to the rest of us.  Relationships, family, work and mostly health.  But, having worked detox, I grew to see it as a self loathing, slow death by choice, more than denial of its severity.   

[Carmie]

I have noticed that most of these morbid obese women have been sexually abused and all men and women  have suffered some type of traumatic events during childhood.

They eat to comfort themselves and ease the pain.  They are dealing with more than just food cravings.  The successful ones have either healed their emotions into lasting scars or at least come to terms with them.

I feel sorry for these poor souls.  Their whole life has been full of some type of suffering and very difficult to overcome.

[drizzellla]

I did not see the show but I did read the article in Heavy. I was sad to see a picture of her and read that she is 44 years old. 

I can not imagine what she is putting her body through. It amazes me what the body is able to handle. Since your heart is about the size of you fist. It is a feat of wonder that it is able to pump blood through her body. I watch the show and think our bodies are amazing.