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[LilacTree]

Every day, there are issues on TV, "ten years from now," or in one's personal life, "when (granddaughter) gets to college . . ." I am reminded of it every day now in so many ways. It's always been that way, talking about the near future, but it never meant much when one still had decades to go and we automatically assumed we would be there.

Oh, I realize anyone can die at any time . . . but for the most part, when it becomes a single digit thing for sure, almost anything that's said can bring it to mind. I find I can accept it, but never knew how much I would be reminded of it every single day just in ordinary conversation. I don't look for it, it's just always there.

Do others "up there" where I am find this to be so? If so, how do you reconcile it? I'm really interested in your thoughts.

[VioletEyes]

After I reached fifty I decided to just live my life day by day and stop worrying about or thinking about years from now. I have had a good life and if it was to end today, I lived it to the fullest and have few regrets.

I always laugh when the show hosts sell jewelry and talk about it lasting a lifetime. By the time I reached fifty most of my jewelry that I had bought in real gold was terribly outdated as I suspect the stuff sold today will be in twenty years from now. The here and now is what counts and making each and every day a special one is now my goal whereas years ago I was always planning something or another, never really appreciating the here and now.

I try now not to dwell on the past, worry about the future and live for today and try and smell the roses.

[qvcaddition]

Thank you for that. Needed that this morning at 78'

[minkbunny]

At 65, I feel relatively young. Planning on another 40 years or so.

But, should my plans not pan out, I am prepared for my next life.

[LilacTree]

I didn't notice any of this when I was fifty, softraindrops. This just started recently when daughter #3 and I began to talk about her girls (my youngest granddaughters) at 11 and 14, already starting to plan what they are going to be, what educations and professions they are interested in . . . and I'm sitting here at 76, realizing that's ten years away and the likelihood of my witnessing that is dubious, at best.

And as you said, I do try to live day to day. I guess it really started when I lost my beloved sister three years ago to the ravages of smoking. She was one year younger than me. And it hits me every day that she's gone.

I do try. I'm happy to hear from folks who are truly able to do this.

[LilacTree]

On 9/9/2014 qvcaddition said: Thank you for that. Needed that this morning at 78'

I'm sorry, qvcaddition. Too heavy I guess for this BB. I apologize.

[RainyDayGal]

I think about this kind of stuff sometimes. It really started bothering me when I could say, "Remember about 20 years ago....." Twenty years! OMG that made me feel so old right there.

[VioletEyes]

On 9/9/2014 Ford1224 said:

I didn't notice any of this when I was fifty, softraindrops. This just started recently when daughter #3 and I began to talk about her girls (my youngest granddaughters) at 11 and 14, already starting to plan what they are going to be, what educations and professions they are interested in . . . and I'm sitting here at 76, realizing that's ten years away and the likelihood of my witnessing that is dubious, at best.

And as you said, I do try to live day to day. I guess it really started when I lost my beloved sister three years ago to the ravages of smoking. She was one year younger than me. And it hits me every day that she's gone.

I do try. I'm happy to hear from folks who are truly able to do this.

Don't let me mislead you, Ford. I have had many tragedies in my lifetime and realized a very long time ago that this is the life I was given and I try and make the best of it. I, too, have lost people in my life where not a day goes by that I don't think of them. I think the longer we live the more loss most of us have. The only thing that gets me through it is to try and concentrate on today. Someone once told me, a very close friend, just before she died from cancer that she wished she had enjoyed the here and now more without the constant need to think about the future. Maybe that is what impacted my decision to let go of a lot of hurting and live in the here and now.

Thanks for the topic. May I extend my condolences on the loss of your beloved sister.

[LilacTree]

On 9/9/2014 RedConvertibleGirl said:

I think about this kind of stuff sometimes. It really started bothering me when I could say, "Remember about 20 years ago....." Twenty years! OMG that made me feel so old right there.

I graduated high school in 1956. Someone on this BB recently remarked that who could know what a 1950s TV mom looked like, as that was over 60 years ago. Well I was starting my teens in the early fifties, and I sure do remember. And it made me feel so very, very old.

I'll get over it. Maybe it's a combination of recent events plus things in my own life. It will pass.

[this is my nic]

Since we never know when we'll leave this world, I don't focus on what may happen in the future. However, when movies from the 1980's are called classics, I think, really? Weren't the '80's just a few years ago? LOL!!