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[gardensla]

I'm really sorry this is happening to you as it's added stress you don't need when you're ill. Whether it's the effect of prescription drugs or passive-aggressive behavior, you have the power to put a stop to it. He may get mad or do that pouty-rejected thing boys do, but if you're serious, get serious.

As to those who are dumping on this poster for coming here, I've read really gross posts just this week about maladies from poop to pee; I see nothing wrong with this poster's request for support.

[fortune]

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@MillionDollarGranny wrote:

Hi y'all.

Don't get me wrong, it's nice and flattering to have your husband still be attracted to you. Showing affection and love is nice but I need to vent about the particular kind of affectionate my husband displays and you let me know what you think please.

I'll be in the middle of taking a hot dish out of the oven and he will sneak up behind me and slap my bottom which startles the daylights out of me. Sometimes he will walk by and lift my skirt up and say "nice @ZZ".  Then just this morning I was lounging in the recliner with my eyes shut and he walked passed and yanked my foot all the way up to his mouth to kiss it. He knows I am not that flexible to lift my leg up like that. Sometimes he gives me a big old bear hug which feels like he is about to crack my ribs. These are just some examples of his brand of affection. This goes on all day long. We will be watching TV on the sofa and he will act like he is wanting to give me a back rub but next thing you know, he is undoing my bra. Suffice it to say it has become overbearing for me. I have fibro and all this manhandling is becoming painful. I have told him countless times to go easy on me but he doesn't listen.  One time he had the audacity to tell me that I should be grateful that he still finds me s-xy. Thoughts please.

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You know, it sounds like passive aggression to me.  How's your relationship overall?  This doesn't sound like affection.  After you talk to him about this (and you must do this), you might consider marriage counseling if he doesn't stop it!

[violann]

The popcorn deer? No, wait! I think maybe the lab.....  

[fortune]

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@MillionDollarGranny wrote:

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@Plaid Pants2 wrote:

Take away his Viagra.

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The doctor prescribed Cialis for his prostate. Maybe that's exacerbating the issue.

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I don't think Cialis is for prostate treatment.  Check it out. 

[Silver Lining]

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@MillionDollarGranny wrote:

Hi y'all.

Don't get me wrong, it's nice and flattering to have your husband still be attracted to you. Showing affection and love is nice but I need to vent about the particular kind of affectionate my husband displays and you let me know what you think please.

I'll be in the middle of taking a hot dish out of the oven and he will sneak up behind me and slap my bottom which startles the daylights out of me. Sometimes he will walk by and lift my skirt up and say "nice @ZZ".  Then just this morning I was lounging in the recliner with my eyes shut and he walked passed and yanked my foot all the way up to his mouth to kiss it. He knows I am not that flexible to lift my leg up like that. Sometimes he gives me a big old bear hug which feels like he is about to crack my ribs. These are just some examples of his brand of affection. This goes on all day long. We will be watching TV on the sofa and he will act like he is wanting to give me a back rub but next thing you know, he is undoing my bra. Suffice it to say it has become overbearing for me. I have fibro and all this manhandling is becoming painful. I have told him countless times to go easy on me but he doesn't listen.  One time he had the audacity to tell me that I should be grateful that he still finds me s-xy. Thoughts please.

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If this post is for real (which I think not, as do many others here) I have some questions. How old are you? How old is he? How long have you been married? Has he always acted like this or is it new? What's up with the Cialis? Snicker. 

[occasionalrain]

I can't see that it matters if it's real or not. Someone, the poster or just someone who reads the threads, is surely experiencing this behavior and may be helped by the responses.

[Suziepeach]

Number one, why would a perfect stranger come on a public BB to express their personal issues?  Why not contact a professional?  I find it rather strange and what ever I post is my own opinion, not a professional opinion.  Last place I'd post anything personal are these BB's, especially something as the OP started... Oh Heck NO! 

[Ms X]

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@orangegarnet wrote:

Number one, why would a perfect stranger come on a public BB to express their personal issues?  Why not contact a professional?  I find it rather strange and what ever I post is my own opinion, not a professional opinion.  Last place I'd post anything personal are these BB's, especially something as the OP started... Oh Heck NO! 

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As anyone who's spent much time here knows, there are those who come here to bait and troll us with outlandish questions.  I apologize to the OP if this is not the case, but it's not like it's never happened.  At any rate, some have offered sincere answers so it's not a total loss if it's a genuine post and not trolling.

[Silver Lining]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

I can't see that it matters if it's real or not. Someone, the poster or just someone who reads the threads, is surely experiencing this behavior and may be helped by the responses.

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I understand what you're saying. That's why I asked the OP some questions that are pertinent to the situation.

[LilacTree]

I just had another thought.  This behavior could be the beginning symptoms of Alzheimers/dementia.

In any case, I think he needs medical intervention.