Is it customary to have a baby shower for baby #2 ... - Page 10

Teddie · ‎03-10-2010

Twenty-some years ago some ladies of our church put on a shower for several moms who had new babies, none of them their firstborns. After it was all done, someone called me, realizing they had forgotten me, since I had a newborn son, my second. They wanted to give me a shower, also. I didn't want them to feel bad...I felt I didn't need a shower and that it was okay. Everyone who had wanted to give us a gift had already done so, family and friends both, so that was more than enough. Same for when we had our first. No shower but more than enough gifts. For me, a shower would have made me feel very awkward when gifts had already been given.

Nataliesgramma · ‎03-28-2015

I wouldn't mind a small party...but some just get out of hand. The last one that I was invited to wanted a childs book instead of a card..... a pack of diapers for a chance to win a coach purse and then a gift off the registry. That is a chunk of money to put out

WSfan · ‎03-09-2010

I'm late to this thread, but here is my opinion on the situation, and what goes on in my area.....baby shower for the first baby. All that I have been to within recent years have been catered parties in rented rooms at restaurants. I have no problem with that. Then when second, third, babies come along, a gift for the baby is fine; NO organized parties. If per chance that there is a significant amount of years between the baby now expected and the last child ( 7 years or more), I see nothing wrong with the immediately family/close friends getting together at a home and having a SMALL shower for the expectant mother, because most likely, baby items and clothing have been given away a long time ago. When you start registering for gifts for a second/third baby shower, it does look like a gift grab. Items can be reused from baby to baby, and buy your own car seat. I realize they can be expensive, but so are children!

HeiressIn-FL · ‎04-25-2010

Great question,OP. Yes, it's absolutely customary.

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Pliqueajour · ‎06-24-2016

@cactusjack, I think this nice advice from Parents.com:

"Can a shower be given to celebrate a second baby -- or one even further down in the birth order?

Every pregnancy deserves to be toasted and cheered. But, since the true purpose of a baby shower is to help new parents acquire the gear and supplies they'll need, it's probably not necessary to give a traditional baby shower for parents who have a basement full of baby clothes and equipment. Instead, consider throwing a shower designed to make their lives easier when they've got a newborn and another child or two to juggle: a "stock the freezer" shower, for example, or a "Mom and Dad" shower, with gifts like their favorite movies on video or DVD or promises for baby-sitting services."

Deanie · ‎03-09-2010

Stock your freezer?????? Go figure. How about a VaCay for those very busy people???? Or maybe contributions to a 4 star restaurant??? . I am surprised we dont have Go Fund Me accounts set up. Sorry I am being cynical. Evrything appears to be a gift grab anymore.

loveschocolate · ‎05-11-2012

@Nataliesgramma wrote:
I wouldn't mind a small party...but some just get out of hand. The last one that I was invited to wanted a childs book instead of a card..... a pack of diapers for a chance to win a coach purse and then a gift off the registry. That is a chunk of money to put out

@Nataliesgramma, I agree. My one niece had her baby shower right after Thanksgiving. She had requested a book instead of a card and so on and so on. Another niece had her shower in April and it was much nicer. No "instructions" on every little detail like the first shower. What really gets my goat is the lack of a "thank you" card.