Community Chat

[MaggieToo]

A person is not obligated to reply to a question. He/she can answer if they want and relate as much information as they think the person asking the question needs to know.

[Johnnyeager]

I can tell you from a securities law perspective that if a company does not disclose something, it can be considered by the SEC as serious as a willful misstatement. (I know it's not the same thing).

[LilacTree]

Depends on if it's an omission that hurts someone, or could help someone.

If it's a personal omission about one's own life, I believe in having every right not to disclose it.

[brii]

I do not consider not revealing something private to someone else a lie.

[straykatz]

In certain cases...YES it is the same as a lie....I know a person who ommitted a portion of his working history on a job resume and 2 months into his new job he lost it because of it once the compnay was done completing his backgorund check....it was a dishonest ommission and made his work ethics questionable...in fact when he initially talked to my DH about leaving this info off his resume my DH said it will come back to haunt his friend and it did.

[Lipstickdiva]

On 1/27/2015 nunya said:

I'm not one of those people who run and tell friends nasty things that people say about them, knowing it is hurtful. I never understand that.

That to me is not lying. I wouldn't do that either.

[nun ya]

On 1/28/2015 LipstickDiva said:

On 1/27/2015 nunya said:

I'm not one of those people who run and tell friends nasty things that people say about them, knowing it is hurtful. I never understand that.

That to me is not lying. I wouldn't do that either.

I have family who don't like each other, they will ask me if the other said anything bad.

I say nope. So, it kinda is a lie, but I'm not repeating it.

[Mominohio]

On 1/27/2015 Ilikeshade said:

Lying by omission is lying, imo. It's deception whether it's the spoken word or the deliberate withholding of the facts.

This is how I feel as well, when it is an important relationship in your life, and the subject being discussed is of importance to that relationship.

When I feel omission is not lying is when you are confronted or asked something by someone, that is really none of their concern or business. How much you choose to tell or leave out in that circumstance is, to me, totally your choice and not wrong because the relationship or the subject is really not the other person's business, and I don't feel obligated to tell all to someone in that circumstance. For instance, if you are an adult, making your own way in the world, and a parent asks you a question like "how much money do you have saved up?" If you feel that a question like that is really none of your parents business, because you are an adult, provide for yourself and ask them for nothing, I have no problem either saying it isn't their business, or to avoid conflict with what might be a difficult person, being less than truthful or omitting things from your answer. It is ok by me, in any circumstance where the person asking is overstepping their bounds, to omit whatever you wish.

Where it is not right, is if you share joint accounts with say a spouse, and agree that all monies are shared, to omit pertinent information about those accounts, your spending, etc. In this case, the person involved has every right to be told the truth, the whole truth, without lies and omissions, because it is their business.

[Tinkrbl44]

If you're talking only about a spouse or S/O, maybe, maybe not.

If you're talking about other people, no ........ I feel that just because someone is nervey enough to ask a pointed question does NOT obligate you to have to tell them EVERYTHING.

(Some people are just too nosy for their own good!)

I'm sure some people will disagree, but I think my personal information is on a "need to know" basis.

[Shorty2U]

It can be, depends. There is no clear yes or no answer.