Invite someone to Christmas dinner - Page 4

qvcaddition · ‎03-10-2010

@buffieg wrote:
I'll be spending Christmas alone. My daughter and her family live out of state and will be staying home. Believe me, I'm not looking for anyone to feel sorry for me. I'll go to Mass and celebrate in my own way. My reason for posting is to remind everyone how lucky they are to belong to a family. I'm hearing so many people complain about all they have to do, company coming, blah blah blah. We don't always realize what we have until it's gone. Enjoy your holidays and your families. You never know when you'll be the one alone on Christmas. Merry Christmas to all!

I also am very active and will be alone Christmas and Christmas eve. Not fotally, have my sweet dog.

qvcaddition · ‎03-10-2010

@gramgrandkids1

@gramgrandkids1 wrote:
Christmas time can be a very sad time for many people especially if they are alone. I have never been in that position but knew a few people that would be spending the day alone and wanted to reach out to at least one person. This is the first year I did this and I am so excited as we will have an "honored" guest to spend Christmas with my family. I asked an elderly neighbor to join us for dinner. She lives alone and was happy to accept my invitation. She drives and is very active, sharp as tack and I am looking forward to having her share memories and stories with us. We can learn a lot from older people if we give them a chance to share their wisdom with us. I plan to invite someone each holiday to share a meal and fellowship with my family. If you know someone from your church or workplace, etc. that will be alone ask them to share sometime with you during the holidays. It doesn't have to be for dinner, maybe just a visit for cookies and tea/coffee. I thought asking my neighbor to come for dinner would be good for her but I think I am the lucky one!

Want you are doing and your attitude about it is wonderful and heartwarming. As I stated in a post here, I will be alone. I sometime turn down invites at holdays, because I fee! It,S a mercy invife. Nice, but someone wants to do good.

Your attitude is not that way. You are really interested. I have been to my family,S for every holiday, sat in the corner, or went to talk with grandkids and Great grandkids and they walk away while i,m speaking with them. I had my own son, the father of one who was rude say, THINGS ARE DIFFERENT TODAY MOM NOT LIKE IN YOUR DAY. I never thought manners went out of style. Yes, the elderly can share wonderful stories and times and you are a wonderful mind person to feel the way you do about if.

So while my entire family will literally be around the corner at my daughter,s house, I choose to stay home so I don,t walk home crying because of hurt feelings. I do treasure all the years of giving to the grandkids. They are all in their late 30,s now and my oldest great grand child is 16. Youngest is one year. Holiday,s are not the same anymore.

gramgrandkids1 · ‎10-31-2019

@qvcaddition It may be too late this year to start a new tradition but 2020 can be the year you make some changes that will make you happy. I realize people treat you the way you allow them to. If your family treat you in a manner you feel is inappropriate be with people that will enjoy and value your company. Start having someone over for coffee or tea. Be with people that have the same interest as you. Libraries usually have free movie nights, book clubs...there are a lot of activities that people attend alone. There are a lot of places to volunteer and meet people that may be alone. Perhaps you would meet and make friends that would be spending holidays alone too. Have a potluck dinner. They can be fun because it becomes a mystery meal! You never know what to expect and that's part of the fun. Please do not think I am trying to run your life or tell you how to live. You seem like a lovely person that has always been there for others and you deserve to be with people that appreciate and enjoy your company.

Shawnie · ‎03-10-2010

@Sooner wrote:
Me personally, I'd rather be brought something (with a call the day before to settle on a time so I won't be in my pj's) remembered with a call or something like that.

I would be very uncomfortable with someone's family at Christmas. They have their traditions and share the time and I'd feel really out of place.

BUT I'd love to be invited over for a simple meal sometime, checked on, called and brought a sandwich if I don't want to come, invited for sandwiches the next day, or something like that, just not to THE family meal.

That's the way i feel too.

qvcaddition · ‎03-10-2010

@gramgrandkids1

@gramgrandkids1 wrote:
@qvcaddition It may be too late this year to start a new tradition but 2020 can be the year you make some changes that will make you happy. I realize people treat you the way you allow them to. If your family treat you in a manner you feel is inappropriate be with people that will enjoy and value your company. Start having someone over for coffee or tea. Be with people that have the same interest as you. Libraries usually have free movie nights, book clubs...there are a lot of activities that people attend alone. There are a lot of places to volunteer and meet people that may be alone. Perhaps you would meet and make friends that would be spending holidays alone too. Have a potluck dinner. They can be fun because it becomes a mystery meal! You never know what to expect and that's part of the fun. Please do not think I am trying to run your life or tell you how to live. You seem like a lovely person that has always been there for others and you deserve to be with people that appreciate and enjoy your company.

I have a 72 yr old friend and we had Thanksgiving at my house. She is ill this week and has no family. I do a lot of volunteering. I give tours and help the elderly that don,t exercise do simple ones at senior or asst. Living homes. I will be visiting my 94 yr old friend NY eve, she doesn,t drive. As you might know from post, I am 83 and quite active. I belong to a book club at the library. I just would like to be respected by family, and am not, so refusing to take emotional abuse I stay away. I have two sons that are good to me, but I don,t want them to miss out on the festivities at my daughter's house. I have always been there for the Grandkids with time, gifts, and money. Again, I feel they should be respectful. I lead a full active life and am not lonely, just sad at this time of year. Friends are great, but you want family. I could be there if I wanted to be made fun of about my hair or the way I eat or a bunch of jokes about the elderly that they think are cute. Not one says Grandma How are you? I respect myself and want the same from them. I have never been disrespectful to them and always took an interest in their activities. So bless you, the advice is good, but something I already do. It,s just a family thing.

I know you are being helpful with the advice you gave and not telling me how to run my life. Your advice is good if I was not a busy person already. In fact I have been told to slow down and sit.