Invite someone to Christmas dinner - Page 2

alicedee · ‎07-25-2010

I was planning on doing Christmas by myself, but plans changed. I am going to Christmas Eve Mass with one of my sisters, and will hang out with her family for a bit. Yesterday my widowed Brother-In-Law called and invited me to join him and my niece and nephew for Christmas dinner. They are trying hard to carry on without my sister, and it will be good to join them.
It will involve a bit of driving but the weather is good with clear roads, so I am happy to venture out.

So in my circumstances, I am the one who is invited to join others in their celebrations. It's a blessing, whether we are the giver or the receiver.

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cherry · ‎03-09-2010

It is a blessing to be able to share what ever you are able to with others. I am off in a bit to our food pantry, to make sure we are able to help as many as possible have a Merry Christmas

I am a bit stiff from the gym ,but all your posts have given me a boost ,to get up and at em

Merry Christmas everyone...Thank you for letting your lights shine

catwhisperer · ‎07-11-2010

I, too, will be alone on Christmas, but that's okay. I am not comfortable spending Christmas with someone elses family, as others have mentioned. Another issue is that I have certain dietary limitations, so prefer to prepare and consume my own food.

I promise to remind myself every day that I am strong, courageous, and resilient.

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

Over the years, at various times when I have been alone, I have hosted a dinner for all the strays I could find. We have a wonderful time.

Look around and have a potluck. You won't be sorry.

JJsMom · ‎03-10-2010

I think it's important to have built a relationship before inviting them, so you have a pretty good idea they would be receptive to the idea or at least not offended by it. The person we are inviting has been over several times and met our families, so it wouldn't be awkward. Try reaching out not only on the holidays but throughout the year. There are a lot of lonely people out there.

If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. ~ Desmond Tutu

bonappetit · ‎07-21-2017

I agree with others wouldn't want to be invited to a family affair as a total stranger. Talk about ackward. It's hard enough with your own family.

pigletsmom · ‎11-21-2011

I like that you refer to this person as an honored guest. It really changes the tone away from just someone that is an outsider. I think if you're going to invite someone this is the kind of mindset you need to do it.

croemer · ‎03-10-2010

@Sooner wrote:
Me personally, I'd rather be brought something (with a call the day before to settle on a time so I won't be in my pj's) remembered with a call or something like that.

I would be very uncomfortable with someone's family at Christmas. They have their traditions and share the time and I'd feel really out of place.

BUT I'd love to be invited over for a simple meal sometime, checked on, called and brought a sandwich if I don't want to come, invited for sandwiches the next day, or something like that, just not to THE family meal.

Last year I invited a couple over for dinner Christmas day because her daughter and family always go to her DD's MIL's home in another state which I feel is unfair... but not my business...I just feel so bad she and her husband are always alone for Christmas. Our family celebrates Christmas Eve ...so I wanted her to have a bit of fun since she is sad at this time of year. It was a nice evening and she seemed to appreciate dinner and just hanging out...hopefully, it helped with the loneliness of the day.

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croemer · ‎03-10-2010

@alicedee wrote:
I was planning on doing Christmas by myself, but plans changed. I am going to Christmas Eve Mass with one of my sisters, and will hang out with her family for a bit. Yesterday my widowed Brother-In-Law called and invited me to join him and my niece and nephew for Christmas dinner. They are trying hard to carry on without my sister, and it will be good to join them.
It will involve a bit of driving but the weather is good with clear roads, so I am happy to venture out.

So in my circumstances, I am the one who is invited to join others in their celebrations. It's a blessing, whether we are the giver or the receiver.

🎄

So sorry for the loss of your sister @alicedee

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ninjawife · ‎11-15-2011

My husband and I have been hosting Christmas dinner since my oldest daughter was 2 (she's 22 now) and we have always invited people to our dinner who did not have another place to go.