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[CrazyDaisy]

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

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@RoughDraft wrote:

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

I love living in an HOA community.  Each spring, a group of “ neighbors” walk through the entire neighborhood which is huge and make notes about homes with things needing fixing to meet HOA standards.  I KNOW that both my neighbors on each side of me fixed up their homes because the HOA sent them letters.  They both had really let their homes and yards go to HE**.  I never said anything to them as they are such nice people, but it did bother me to keep my home nice....and their homes were in such a neglected  fashion.  Because of the HOA, They both painted....made repairs and even have a gardener come to tend to their yards each month. How nice! I think sometimes people just do not SEE the mess or the things needing repair until it is shown to them.  

The one neighbor still hides junk behind his house...furniture, old refrigeratir...two old junk cars......trash.... but I do not see it  as I put up a 6 foot fence and it is not street visible. He should get rid of it, but, probably just does not even think about all the ****** back there.  He is old....I figure when he dies it will hopefully get cleaned up.....

My property was picked as a star property.... I was sent a letter from the HOA  the last  two years.  It is sent to those that keep up their properties.  It made me feel good. 

Not necessary, but it is nice that they do it🙂 I think it makes people want to CARE. 

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I guess the moral this story is don't get old.  

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@RoughDraft    Old people own homes.  I am old and own a home......... and if you can not do the yard work yourself  or find someone to help you for free... .... or you can not afford  to pay someone to keep up your yard... or  if you can not afford to keep up the upkeep of owning a home which is EXPENSIVE.... then it is time to sell and move into a place where all of that is done for you.

  Just being OLD is not a pass to let your home become a mess.   There are stages in life where you have to do things to accomodate   your life....  facing reality. Problem is that old people seem to not want to face REALITY...   

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WOW.....put all old people in homes unless they have the funds to meticulously maintain the home they have spent their lifetime living.  Sound kind of snooty looking down on people who do not meet your standards.

[nun ya]

oh and were I live, they aren't considered a permanent structure, they can be taken apart and moved. 

[Porcelain]

Uh oh. Some of the posters here are probably considered some other homeowners' Inconsiderate Neighbors. "That lady keeps looking over in my yard and has opinions on what color my door should be and my lawn furniture. She should live her own life instead of trying to supervise mine."

I think HOAs attract exactly the types of people who would be happy in them. I like good standards. But would draw the line at a clipboard brigade. There would be so many bad opportunities for favoritism and politics. "OMG be nice to Barb this year. She's on the clipboards."

My neighborhood doesn't have an HOA. It doesn't need one. People keep up their properties quite well.

There is also an incredibly formidable lady who lives next door to me. Love her. She keeps everyone in line. She will go over to your house and ring your doorbell if you are doing something she doesn't approve of. I had guests staying over one time and she did not appreciate the way they parked. She had a point. She came over and told us so and we moved their car.

[SeaMaiden]

@CrazyDaisy    You said:

WOW.....put all old people in homes unless they have the funds to meticulously maintain the home they have spent their lifetime living.  Sound kind of snooty looking down on people who do not meet your standards.

  So the option to this is to let older people who can not care for themselves or their homes anymore to continue to live in squalor and neglect because it is kind.  I suppose you are against taking away their drivers license as well when they are not fit to drive. 

That sounds like a wonderful fix.

[Sweetbay magnolia]

I know, I'm really aesthetically driven.  A rambler next door was razed and a house about 5x it's size has been built next to me, complete with second story peaks and gables and windows.  (The lot is perpendicular to the back half of my back yard, so they face it from their back.)

The 8' stockade fence does little to prevent the gaze downward.  I have a lovely yard which the new resident will fully enjoy.  My comfort remains they have no sliders on the upper level, so presumably no deck.

I confess to some fantasies about misbehaving over here so they don't even want to look!

[CrazyDaisy]

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

@CrazyDaisy    You said:

WOW.....put all old people in homes unless they have the funds to meticulously maintain the home they have spent their lifetime living.  Sound kind of snooty looking down on people who do not meet your standards.

  So the option to this is to let older people who can not care for themselves or their homes anymore to continue to live in squalor and neglect because it is kind.  I suppose you are against taking away their drivers license as well when they are not fit to drive. 

That sounds like a wonderful fix.

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Think there is a huge difference between the "mess" in your post that I was replying to and the squalor and neglect you now mention.  But this cut and paste of yours sure makes a colorful put down.

[SeaMaiden]

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

@CrazyDaisy    You said:

WOW.....put all old people in homes unless they have the funds to meticulously maintain the home they have spent their lifetime living.  Sound kind of snooty looking down on people who do not meet your standards.

  So the option to this is to let older people who can not care for themselves or their homes anymore to continue to live in squalor and neglect because it is kind.  I suppose you are against taking away their drivers license as well when they are not fit to drive. 

That sounds like a wonderful fix.

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Think there is a huge difference for the "mess" in your post that I was relying to and the squalor and neglect you now mention.  But this cut and paste of yours sure makes a colorful put down.

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@CrazyDaisy     you said it. What mess were you implying to? 

We were talking about yards and the condition of the home in relation to the neighborhood and those taking care of their homes for the good of the neighborhood. 

[QueenDanceALot]

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@Georgiagrama wrote:

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

I wonder if the OP's neighbor did something truly egregious like paint their mailbox red.

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@QueenDanceALot  If you are really all that curious, just read the thread. 

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@Georgiagrama 

I did read the thread, right up until the time I posted.  You hadn't clarified by that time.

I can undestand not wanting to see that large metal structure beyond your fence.  I doubt I'd much care for that either. 

But prior to the structure being built you say that there were cars, tractors, trailers, 4 wheelers, motorcycles, AND all manner of farm equipment in their yard.  Was that not a giant eyesore already?  You can't hide all that on a quarter acre.

[Porcelain]

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

@CrazyDaisy    You said:

WOW.....put all old people in homes unless they have the funds to meticulously maintain the home they have spent their lifetime living.  Sound kind of snooty looking down on people who do not meet your standards.

  So the option to this is to let older people who can not care for themselves or their homes anymore to continue to live in squalor and neglect because it is kind.  I suppose you are against taking away their drivers license as well when they are not fit to drive. 

That sounds like a wonderful fix.

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Think there is a huge difference for the "mess" in your post that I was relying to and the squalor and neglect you now mention.  But this cut and paste of yours sure makes a colorful put down.

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@CrazyDaisy Geez louise. So you're supposedly pro seniors living in filth and you want them to go out and crash their cars? That's a bit of a stretch to assume. I didn't get that from your post at all. 

[haddon9]

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@Georgiagrama wrote:

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@pigletsmom wrote:

Now that we know what it is it sounds like something that would stop bothering you after a while, you'd just get used to it. But if it is that troubling I'd just put a pretty tall trellis over there and get some ivy or morning glory and voila. I mean if you were actualy just looking to buy this place and you loved it would it stop you from purchasing? It probably wont stop anyone else either.

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@pigletsmom   Actually, it would.  We have a very nice pool area and keep our yard immaculate.  The metal, very industrial farm type building is actually as tall as my neighbors home. It looms largely over our very costly 8 Ft. Privacy fence.   I'm thinking that they did not consult the building codes in our area, and they certainly did not check with the HOA.   It's possible that one or the other will step in. 

And yes, I will eventually "get used to it" I'm sure, but, we worked hard for years to improve and pay for our home. Unless you live in a low rent district to begin with, you do hope for a nice return on your investment.  Our neighborhood, at one time, did not allow metal buildings at all, then, they started allowing the small shed types, provided you had a privacy fence.  Then they started getting bigger, 10 x 20 size, now we have one large enough for a cotton gin that I get to look at while I enjoy breakfast seated next to my large bay window .. Perception is everything I guess.  Hopefully, if we ever have to sell our home, we can find a buyer who appreciates industrial buildings.    

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@Georgiagrama   You sound too nice.  I realize that you want to get along with your neighbor ...you had mentioned that you were friendly with them and after all they are right next door.  However it appears that they don't seem to care about maintaining friendly terms with you!  I would anonymously let the HOA (I didn't realize that you live in an HOA community) know about it.  Tell them you wish to remain anonymous because you don't want to have a feud going on with your neighbor.

While it affects you the most I'm sure others can see it and are not happy about it.  Plus it will affect what you can get for your home...are you willing to take substantially less money when it's time to sell?