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[CritterKeeper]

@Queen of shop Thank you for not treating me like I'm a monster. Goodness, I had no idea this would be such a bashing contest. 

I love (adore) my hubby. He and I make a great team and we have a great family. I honestly don't think he would ever leave me over a tattoo. And it's not like I'm walking around trying to find ways to get him to leave. 

I just needed to hear some other points of view and boy did I My goodness......

One can give their opinion without dragging the other person through a mud hole.

[apl_pi14]

My ex and I had also agreed that we didn't like tattoos and agreed not to get any. Things change and we decided together to each get one.

I don't think it's the idea of you getting a tattoo that bothers him; it sounds as if you letting him know after the fact. 

[Sage04]

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@CritterKeeper wrote:

@Sage04  Wow! That's a little below the belt! I'm not a terrible person like you are pointing me out to be- geesh! 

Sometimes people just want different things. I get that people don't like certain things but my goodness, that was a bit harsh.

@CritterKeeper  oh no, I never thought that about you. Never. That thought never crossed my mind.

All I'm saying is that you don't know what could happen if you got a third tattoo.

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[CritterKeeper]

I always told him before I went. I NEVER did it secretly. And I was going to tell him about this one. 

[Puppy Lips]

Oh boy, that is a hot topic in my family.  My DH absolutely hates tatoos as well.  I don't like them either, but if I did, I would not get one, just to keep the peace and avoid the arguments.  My husband's sister got one, and then another, and then another.   In fact, I don't know one person who stopped at one tatoo.

My beautiful 20 something neice got my Dad's (her grandpa's) signature tatooed on her upper arm.  It looks terrible and my Dad would have HATED that.  She also has a big anchor on her torso.

To the OP - you honor your foster dogs just by being there and taking care of them.  Over time, tatoos just look worse and worse.  Buy a piece of jewelry to wear instead.  Just my opinion, of course.  Good luck.

[manny2]

@CritterKeeper I think it is kind and loving for you to consider your husbands feelings. We all grow and change over time. When two people don't grow together a problem arises. He doesn't have to approve of tattoos, but he does have to recognize that his wife is not the same person she was at 21. He should support your decision 

You are not being selfish at all. A good marriage is defined as two pillars that are far enough apart to hold up the structure. 

[CritterKeeper]

@Puppy Lips Thank you

[spumoni99]

I'm kind of in the same situation, my husband is very conservative, in our younger days only certain people got tattoo's at least thats how he saw it.  I now want one either a paw print or a ankle bracelet type tattoo.  I dont think he would care too much but he wouldnt love it.

Both our daughters have gotten tattoos and he didnt say much but I do understand what your saying.  I would maybe discuss it with him and like others have said I wouldnt risk a marriage over it but maybe just talk it over to show him you care for his opinion.

[ValuSkr]

If he has a strong opinion about tattoos, and you love him, you will not antagonize him by getting one.

[CritterKeeper]

Honestly, I don't think he should have to support my decision but honor my decisions. I can't make him understand or even like it but I just wish he (and others) would respect my decision. Just because we have differences doesn't make either of us wrong.

Just because I am a spouse and mother  I am also an individual person. We may not always agree on things but we need to respect each other. This goes far beyond just spouses.

Thank you to all for you points of view. I truly, with every ounce of my body, believe my marriage is strong and this certainly would break it up, but it would just make him upset with me for a while.

With that being said and with some other options to honor my love for my rescues I think I will have to rethink my plans.

And for some of you, please understand, just because someone has tattoos or piercings that don't make them a monster or terrible person. I am a professional, a mother, and a wife that sometimes just wants to show a creative side. 

We all should have that option. If you choose to- great. If you choose not to- that's great too.