I wasn't going to post anything today because I really have to run, but I started reading a few things and came across this post on another thread. I don't know about any of you, but this post hit me hard. Maybe I can relate. There is a lot of truth in cheeryo's post that I hope some of you will take to heart. Some of you, in your true spirit, may choose to respond to this in your typically cruel way. I will give you the benefit of the doubt and chalk it up to the fact that you may be hurting too.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone.
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"This is going to be my last post. I figured this topic, as well as the timing --that being that most people are busy with preparations and away from these boards-- was very appropriate for me to leave you with my very personal story. Sometimes opportunities just present themselves and I guess this is mine.
I came to this forum in the hope of finding some friends. You see, I don’t have any friends – at least, not in the sense of what a true friend means to me. The only people I have in my life are my husband, my mom, and my cat. My mom (who I wrote about in another thread) isn’t going to be around forever. My husband is significantly older than I am. I wake up every day fearing the time I will be alone. It’s not for lack of trying. I just got so disappointed over my adult years of running into people who were so self-absorbed, catty, nasty, inconsiderate, that I decided I didn’t have to settle for friends like that. As far as my extended family -- aunts, uncles, cousins – they’re all extremely successful, in the rat race, very competitive. Basically, things that seem to be important to most other people are not important to me, so there has been no common ground. I’m not the kind of person to put on airs or to pretend to be someone I’m not just for the sake of having “a friend.”
I think I’m a good person. I have very simple pleasures and wants in life. I don’t ask for much. I think I can be witty and fun to be around (but maybe that’s all in my own head, lol). I’m very generous and always try to go out of my way for the next person, but it’s never, ever reciprocated.
Like I said, I figured if I couldn’t find friends in my “real” world, maybe I could here. My initiation here was ugly. A few posters (one in particular) was so nasty, I found myself crying. I told my husband how nasty some posters were and, not understanding how deeply it had affected me, he joked, “Boy, you can’t even make any friends in cyberspace!” Now please don’t come down hard on him. I’ve never really expressed my deepest feelings to him on this subject.
I hope on this Thanksgiving day that you will remember to always be kind to people, to try to give them the benefit of the doubt at least. Happy Thanksgiving everyone and . . . . .
thanks for your time.
CheeryO"
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