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[CouponQueen]

I have limited people on my Facebook..family for the most part and a few friends..2 very close friends from high school but we have kept in contact over the years.

What I found very odd was the one very close friend..on her friend list is every person we ever went to school with that is on facebook. I can't imagine why. Some of these people she never said two words to..a couple of the guys were really down right mean to her and called her names. I am all about forgiveness in a sense but why invite them into your private life? The one that was down right vulgar to her. I blocked from viewing anything of mine..and even showing up!

[Preds]

My ex reconnected with a lot of the friends he had in high school when my DD got him on facebook. He and they have had a great time getting together after all these years. I met them when they all came to Florida the week of my daughters wedding. Great, fun people and he and DD have sure enjoyed hanging with them. I'm not on facebook and can't think of anyone I'd like to "find".

[MikafromTopeka]

On 4/14/2014 CouponQueen said:

I have limited people on my Facebook..family for the most part and a few friends..2 very close friends from high school but we have kept in contact over the years.

What I found very odd was the one very close friend..on her friend list is every person we ever went to school with that is on facebook. I can't imagine why. Some of these people she never said two words to..a couple of the guys were really down right mean to her and called her names. I am all about forgiveness in a sense but why invite them into your private life? The one that was down right vulgar to her. I blocked from viewing anything of mine..and even showing up!

You know what? ""That horrible guy"" from my class ended up getting an airplane and he now takes and shares the most beautiful photos from the air around home and since I'm so far away I really appreciate it. Life is surprising.

[Suziepeach]

On 4/14/2014 Predsfan said:

My ex reconnected with a lot of the friends he had in high school when my DD got him on facebook. He and they have had a great time getting together after all these years. I met them when they all came to Florida the week of my daughters wedding. Great, fun people and he and DD have sure enjoyed hanging with them. I'm not on facebook and can't think of anyone I'd like to "find".

Hi Preds, how are you doing? I've been back & forth with FB and finally gave up & am having my account permanently deleted. I sent a few messages- no response of course & the people were still posting & sent a couple friend requests but again to no avail and people were posting. It's like on a BB, when no one wants to friend you, they make it perfectly clear. I told my husband it had hurt my feelings- that no one would talk to me. Gosh disappointments with people you know sure can bring a person down. That's the last place I'd post anything personal, like here- it's bad enough people make fun & tear apart or hold things against them. Like they say, you can't go back & I found out the hard way FB isn't for everyone.

[gazelle77]

On 4/14/2014 Luv2Decorate said:

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On 4/13/2014 Skylands said:

fyi.............some people aren't interested in contacting old friends/people from the past. Life moves on. Good luck

ITA....the words "friends" and "lost lost" or "40 years ago" should never be in the same sentence. IMO.

That's not true at all. Some emotional connections never cease no matter how long you've been out of touch. That doesn't mean they all do though. I'd never say never. That way of thinking totally cheapens the human experience. True friends are valuable and will always care whether you're in their life day to day or not. I guess some people feel that if they don't see someone for a long while that the relationship might just as well not have even existed. Why relate with others at all then?

I was trying to convey....if you were "good friends" back then, why did you ever lose contact to begin with? A true friend would never have a separation of time.

Oh geeze... that's baloney. Years ago there was this one friend in particular who I spent the majority of time with from kindergarten through 6th grade and her family moved away to Pennsylvania. We lost contact. That doesn't mean we weren't good friends, it means that life goes on. A few years ago, a group of us from HS recently reconnected, I hadn't seen some of them in over 20 years. They moved to different parts of the USA and life happens. Married, children, work, etc... When we got together, it was as if no time had passed since we were together.

I understand the question... and you know, I really do not know why it is so hard to remain in contact. My friend moved to Las Vegas and got married and had children. We wrote letters( no internet back then!) for several years.... In that time I got married and moved away also..... and then slowly the letters got farther and fewer between. We each went our own direction. At the time of the friendship we were both single, working as waitresses, partying and doing the things single people do when 20 something years old. We had a lot of fun! Not a lot of responsibilities, just living in the moment. I am sure that in the 40 years we were apart, we both grew up and maybe we would have nothing now in common except our memories of "those days".

[Preds]

Hey Suzie....doing great on this end. I thought I had signed up on facebook, but my DD told me that I hadn't done something right and that's why the messages i was sending her didn't make it. I can read hers, but can't respond. Some day she is going to "fix" me. LOL She is the only one I plan on "talking" to.

[chrystaltree]

....sounds like me. I don't get the whole Facebook thing but I tried. I have a Facebook page, I haven't looked at it since I set it up...LOL I mentioned that to my daughter once and she was horrified. Mom! What if someone is reaching out to you! She actually thought I should care if someone I was in 8th grade with wants to be my "friend"....LOL My husband has connected with people who knew eons ago and when he talks about what "this one" or "that one" said or is doing....I pretend that I care. I pretend that I find it all interesting but in truth; I don't see what he sees in connecting to people he hasn't seen since he was 15.

[Preds]

chrystal ..... I understand! LOL

[Suziepeach]

On 4/14/2014 Predsfan said:

Hey Suzie....doing great on this end. I thought I had signed up on facebook, but my DD told me that I hadn't done something right and that's why the messages i was sending her didn't make it. I can read hers, but can't respond. Some day she is going to "fix" me. LOL She is the only one I plan on "talking" to.

Hey Preds, thanks for the great response. That will be nice when you can "talk" to your DD on FB. I got it just didn't get it, if that makes any sense.

[highschoolgirl]

My best friend growing up & I lost contact when her folks moved her to the south in 1965. We made contact through classmates. She is back in California, working for Disney & we keep in touch through email & FB.