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[SouthernBee]

@GoneButNotForgotten : Getting older and dealing with health issues not fun. Plus  very difficult  to deal with a lot of changes at once and especially during the holidays. It is ok to vent but please for your mental health try to stay calm and focus on the positive things in your life. Do something to help you relax and escape everything for a couple of hours.

[SouthernBee]

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@CalminHeart wrote:

It's nice that you can vent here. I really hope things work out for you.

Count your blessings. It could be worse.

Worse? My 60 yr old brother has a month or two to live. My SIL's brain cancer is back for the 3rd time and is now inoperable.  

@CalminHeart : Gosh and that is a lot to deal with. I will keep you, your brother and SIL in my thoughts and prayers.🤗

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[Cakers3]

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@CalminHeart wrote:

It's nice that you can vent here. I really hope things work out for you.

Count your blessings. It could be worse.

Worse? My 60 yr old brother has a month or two to live. My SIL's brain cancer is back for the 3rd time and is now inoperable.  

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@CalminHeart   The OP deals with her own health issues, and she posted that those issues are deteriorating.  Sometimes all it takes is the shoelace to break to make health issues seem insurmountable.

Your issues with your relatives are yours, not hers.

There should never be a comparison of "worse".  Her issues do not diminish because of yours.

Everyone, myself, deals with health issues.  I do not consider what I and my loved ones experience as "worse" nor do I expect the health issues of others to be not as important.

What goes on in the lives of each posters is theirs with all the pain and sorrow.

I am sorry for your issues but they do not make what my family goes through less.

Let's try to be supportive of all without comparison.

[JoyFilled Warrior]

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@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:

Thank you all for your kind comments; they really do make me feel better.

It turns out we're going to have very cold temps (under 20 degrees) tonight; the streets are like sheets of ice and the facility where I'll be getting an unpleasant test is on a steep hill) so I'll probably have to reschedule. In a way I'm dissapointed because I want to get it over with but I won't complain all that much.

To those of you who aren't used to cold weather like this: remember to un-attach any hoses to your house. Also, let a faucet slowly drip all night (you don't have to turn it on full blast--a slow drip will be adequate) to keep your pipes from freezing (and bursting).

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@GoneButNotForgotten 

Oh wow.  You're amazing me!

     Here you are in the midst of all these "less than optimum" circumstances, and you think of us, reminding us about dealing with this Cold, inclement weather!

     And I NEEDED this advice of yours!

Seems at my age now, I unexpectedly forget half my brain, & forgot to unhook hoses, let alone drip the faucets.

THANK YOU  *hugs* 

Praying for your nice Holi-Days.  You deserve this!

[ValuSkr]

That's okay; Christmas is just a day.  Take the time for yourself to relax and digest all the things that are concerning you and bugging you.  Don't worry about "celebrating Christmas;" you can do so quietly, in your own time and fashion.

[SeaMaiden]

@GoneButNotForgotten    This too will pass....Sorry things are so difficult for you right now. life can suck sometimes and somedays.... treat yourself to something special... anything that makes you happy.... for the moment... ((Hugs sent your way))

[CalminHeart]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

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@CalminHeart wrote:

It's nice that you can vent here. I really hope things work out for you.

Count your blessings. It could be worse.

Worse? My 60 yr old brother has a month or two to live. My SIL's brain cancer is back for the 3rd time and is now inoperable.  

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@CalminHeart   The OP deals with her own health issues, and she posted that those issues are deteriorating.  Sometimes all it takes is the shoelace to break to make health issues seem insurmountable.

Your issues with your relatives are yours, not hers.

There should never be a comparison of "worse".  Her issues do not diminish because of yours.

Everyone, myself, deals with health issues.  I do not consider what I and my loved ones experience as "worse" nor do I expect the health issues of others to be not as important.

What goes on in the lives of each posters is theirs with all the pain and sorrow.

I am sorry for your issues but they do not make what my family goes through less.

Let's try to be supportive of all without comparison.

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Perhaps my grief at losing my brother or being direct in wording my response was misunderstood.  

I have my own health issues but focus on the positive as much as possible and that's what I was trying to suggest to OP.  My own health issues could be worse and I'm thankful they aren't. I wasn't denigrating the OP. 

I'm taking your response as putting the loss of my brother as less. I have no idea if you mean to, nor do I really care, because will forget about it by the time I post this response.

[matty liz]

This is an especially comlicated year for us too.  Many things involved.  One hard thing for me is seeing others I could encourage but now at 81 aren't I'm not able to step us to the plate.  We can listen to each other, not compare, not make judgements and many times as we listen we hear how others got reliefe and it could work for us.  Don't bring up age or different times, we are in the now and if we start in our own backyard, others reach out to others.  I find that with A FEW here and then some just will always argue.

[GoneButNotForgotten]

SouthernBee, I'm so sorry you're going through this. My sister is still in hospital and we're not sure when she'll be able to come home...probably tomorrow or the day after, when she's feeling better. I get that you're worried (on top of everything else you're dealing with) and you have my sympathy.