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[Colonel Meow]

Congratulations, OP! I wouldn't worry about it too much. Nowadays, starting a family at 34 is not the norm, and your kids have a leg-up in both a financial sense and in life experience. I'm 33, and can tell you that the majority of my friends/school mates started their families in their mid to late 20s.

[3blackdogs]

Awww....congratulations! Enjoy every minute...my youngest son is a single dad of a 6 yr old girl. He's a good dad and has sole custody of her. It's an amazing time-you will fall in love!

[NC Bandwagon]

Hello, starpolisher and congratulations!

[feline groovy]

Congrats!

[Group 5 minus 1]

Years ago when the boys were little I read Dr. Spock and he said our children are our only visible proof of our immortality. When I first held my first grandchild in my arms I realized she was visible proof of my earthly mortality.

[NeNe1010]

Congrats! I felt the same way at first. I was never one of those people who ooohed and awwwed over babies. I loved my babies of course. Also, I had 3 sisters and then 2 daughters and was really nervous when I found out my daughter was having a boy! I had never been around little boys. No worries. You will love that baby and it will all come back to you and I found out yeah, boys are different but still so much fun. Grandkids are much less work than your own kids were and they will wrap you around their little finger just like your own kids did so Celebrate!

[Demitra1]

Hi, Starpolisher. We are similar in that we are having our first grandchild. Mine is due within the next two weeks, and I am getting nervous. I have an only daughter, who is now 37! She is getting a late start....married just short of a year. Her best friend from high school has a son that is a freshman in college!!!! DD is sooo blessed to first, getting pregnant easily, and secondly for having a great pregnancy. Now I pray for a easy and safe delivery. It is a boy......told her I know nothing about little boys. Lol. If all goes well, I expect another pregnancy rather soon. Good luck to you. We mommas have to control the nerves and just be in a joyful state. Demitra

[OnlyShopsOnline]

I think news of a new grand baby just stirs up all kinds of emotions. I went through the same thing with our grandson, three years ago. He was our first. Everything will be fine, and you'll settle down.

Now, we are expecting a granddaughter in just a few weeks. I was definitely more relaxed this time around.

My only fear has been that I won't be able to love her, as much as I love her older brother. But, friends have told me that my heart will expand and I will love them both. I'm quite sure I will.

I just can't wait to scoop that little girl up in my arms.

[RedTop]

At 34, both obviously know they want children in their lives. I have a daughter in her mid 30's and one in her late 30's; and before they graduated high school, they were both saying they did not want children. Neither has ever wavered in their thinking, and I firmly believe my daughters have made the right decision for them personally.

[Starpolisher]

Thanks all of you for your heartfelt responses! I love babies and have been looking forward to being a Grandmother. All kinds of thoughts keep running through my mine. Mostly about weather they will be able to handle all the expenses I hear are involved with raising a baby nowadays. They both have good jobs but I know day care cost a fortune. Years ago when my sons were born I stayed home. DH and I had been married for several years and we had always planned on my not working. It wasn't cost efficient at the time and we didn't have any debt. DS and wife have mortgage, car and other expenses already and have only been married since July. Like most couples nowadays they married later and want to start a family before getting any older. I know things will work themselves out. I guess I feel uneasy because so many changes are happening in my life right now. DH retired in February and I will retire in June. I'm happy I will have the time to be able to spend with my grandchild but I can't help but worry that I won't be able to help financially as much if needed.