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[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

On 5/29/2014 ROMARY said:

Hello, RRR! Try to have a nice morning every day. When we start out good in the morning, it's always much easier to continue through the entire day. Take care, and always look forward to tomorrow mornings........

Thank you ROMARY........I am going to try and get up earlier each day........I don't sleep much at night and so I finally get to bed around 3ish and then finally get up around noon and I don't like that......I want more of a schedule.....but I am in a cycle. When I was at my sons I carried the baby and took care of her and she was heavy and I was up and down and going and I got tired at night and it was easier to sleep good.......also I was in a home with others........being alone I guess mentally bothers me and I did not think it did......maybe more peace in sleep since I know others are in the home.....so I have to do something....my sleeping pill puts me out in about an hour or two and then I sleep for one hour good and then I am awake...........again......ugh........I need a higher dose but he is not going to do that since the other medicine for pain I am on are in the same family so I am going to see if I can try Trazadone again at a much higher dose. A person can take up to 300mg per night......I don't know but bad sleep and pain every day that is almost unbearable....somedays are too much and I would rather go on to Heaven but that is not a choice I can make that is up to my Heavenly Father.......when my time is to go home. No sleep is horrible and they know millions suffer with it.......ugh...anyway.......moment by moment.

[ShowMe]

On 5/28/2014 NoelSeven said:

On 5/28/2014 ShowMe said:

There seems to be a lot of psychologists on here......

I know for sure there are a couple on VPS, fully accredited, but there's no need to be snarky. Sometimes all one needs is some good old common sense. Women have gotten together to help each other since the beginning of time.

Other animals do it, too.

Noel......there may be some accredited here on VP, but they don't know her whole story. She has said she is going to a therapist, and that is the only person that should be giving her advice at this time. I believe I have lived quite a few years, and have plenty of good old common sense. I have my own thoughts on all of this, but just won't post it...... But, there is a lot of repeat, repeat, repeat that goes on with this thread......

By the way, I wasn't being snarky.

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

On 5/29/2014 KathyPet said: I wish you could move out of the town that you live in and go somewhere else where you would be able to find a more satisfying life for yourself. I understand you wanting to stay there when your son was there but he is gone now and you have no reason to tie yourself to that town.

Hello KathyPet, I don't want to stay here.........I would be so happy in a big city........I loved Houston........I really did.......so much I could have done and the arts and diversity in people.........I love all races and love meeting people.........I live in like a rural town and I am not a rural person......I am a city girl.........so if I could get out of here and afford to live in a big city........but rent and a way to get around? I have an old car with 109,400 miles..........but if I could live near a Walmart and then a church bus would pick me up....you know I might could make it without a car......but most people need cars....and not having a car is a loss of independence..........I just want a big city and always have been have stayed in a small area to help my grandparents and my mom and now they are gone and it is just me without work........I have to think of things to make me tired everyday......???

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

On 5/29/2014 ShowMe said:

On 5/28/2014 NoelSeven said:

On 5/28/2014 ShowMe said:

There seems to be a lot of psychologists on here......

I know for sure there are a couple on VPS, fully accredited, but there's no need to be snarky. Sometimes all one needs is some good old common sense. Women have gotten together to help each other since the beginning of time.

Other animals do it, too.

Noel......there may be some accredited here on VP, but they don't know her whole story. She has said she is going to a therapist, and that is the only person that should be giving her advice at this time. I believe I have lived quite a few years, and have plenty of good old common sense. I have my own thoughts on all of this, but just won't post it...... But, there is a lot of repeat, repeat, repeat that goes on with this thread......

By the way, I wasn't being snarky.

You know there is nothing wrong with women talking........you are not writing prescriptions.....my friends tell me to read Boundaries and books by Dr. Henry Cloud and don't see a therapist.........that I can use self help books and talk with friends but I am doing it all........I am going to a therapist and I have my list.....about my son, how I want to like where I live, ways to get tired...........and to take up for me and not be pushed around and well I can't think of the other things but I have it written down. I will take suggestions also from you ladies since you know me pretty well.

[voyager1980]

On 5/29/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:

On 5/29/2014 ROMARY said:

Hello, RRR! Try to have a nice morning every day. When we start out good in the morning, it's always much easier to continue through the entire day. Take care, and always look forward to tomorrow mornings........

Thank you ROMARY........I am going to try and get up earlier each day........I don't sleep much at night and so I finally get to bed around 3ish and then finally get up around noon and I don't like that......I want more of a schedule.....but I am in a cycle. When I was at my sons I carried the baby and took care of her and she was heavy and I was up and down and going and I got tired at night and it was easier to sleep good.......also I was in a home with others. .......being alone I guess mentally bothers me and I did not think it did......maybe more peace in sleep since I know others are in the home.....so I have to do something....my sleeping pill puts me out in about an hour or two and then I sleep for one hour good and then I am awake...........again......ugh........I need a higher dose but he is not going to do that since the other medicine for pain I am on are in the same family so I am going to see if I can try Trazadone again at a much higher dose. A person can take up to 300mg per night......I don't know but bad sleep and pain every day that is almost unbearable....somedays are too much and I would rather go on to Heaven but that is not a choice I can make that is up to my Heavenly Father.......when my time is to go home. No sleep is horrible and they know millions suffer with it.......ugh...anyway.......moment by moment.

R&R you wrote you slept better because you were getting exercise.Even being alone at your home exercise would help you sleep better (:

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

I need to get on this treadmill.........carrying the baby though and up and down and going places those four days.......was home the rest of the time except when we got out for the bug spray and to the airport......yes I have to get on that treadmill.......or frame it.....

[Yuban3]

I hope that when you go to your therapist, that you will be 100% honest with him/her, and admit to your part of the relationship with your son. Everything is not 100% his fault. Therapy is hard work. Your therapist is going to make you hold up a virtual mirror to yourself, and make you take a good, long hard look at yourself, and your actions.

A therapist isn't there to hold your hand, and to say, "There, there. Poor baby".

If you think that's what the therapist is going to do, you will be in for quite a surprise. And when the therapist does make you look at your own actions in your relationship with your son, I just hope that you don't bale, simply because the therapist isn't offering you tea and sympathy. I hope that you stick with it, no matter how difficult it gets. It's a therapist job to challenge you, not to pat your hand and say, "Awww, poor baby".

[muttmom]

RibbonsRosesRainbows,

It is good that you will finally be able to see your therapist. Hopefully he or she will help you live a more fulfilling life.

In so many of your posts you mention your pain and your lack of sleep. This has been a theme since I began posting 18 months ago. If your present doctors have not helped you, you need to find a doctor that can. You mention you sleep until noon. Unless you are willing to force yourself to get up at least 4 hours earlier, you are never going to break this cycle. Staying up late and sleeping half the day, you are missing out on a lot of life. In addition you need a pain management team.

For your own sake, as well as his, you would be wise not to post about your son and his family.

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

I can see this from all sides..

R and R with a TBI just blurting but also being on the receiving end...

It was VERY hard to remind myself it was an injury causing outbursts ...I am still human and sometimes reacted in a way I wish I could take back...

THERAPY THERAPY THERAPY and I don't mean the arm chair psychiatrists here...

On the flip side sometimes dysfunction is just that with no real solution... Unless ALL want help...

[Cakers1]

On 5/30/2014 JustMeMelissa said:

THERAPY THERAPY THERAPY and I don't mean the arm chair psychiatrists here...

Wishing R3 the best.