I can't believe it is so late

RibbonsRosesRainbows · ‎05-12-2014

2:14am...........and I am wide awake.........I looked at the beautiful rose candle from walmart that is flameless that someone mentioned. I would like to have one.....since I had to cut my trip short..........well, I am fine today but got a text from my son saying for me not to bother or text them and they have blocked me from facebook.....removing all the pictures of me and my grandbaby.......I have not contacted the since I have been how or the last time I saw them May 11........they really don't like me but it is ok....therapy next week and my son's step mom said they are treating me horrible for all I have done and they are holding my grandbaby hostage........it has nothing to do with this site......my son has no idea I come on the board.........and he can't gave a reason so I asked for my key back, the $121 for coming home early due to his asking me to leave and that I would be removing him from the will........I am going to have to find someone to take care of my things when I die...........I am fine with it.....now I don't have to hope the telephone rings or there are messages on my cell phone or on facebook........so there it is....some of you posted it would end and you were correct,...........I love my son but I can't say that I will have my door open to him if they don't make it.........I am done unless he wants to treat me with respect..........and they should refund the extra plane money.........I don't hate them but I do think you can beat love to death...........we always need a mother.......he will miss me one day..........but today I am ok knowing I am alone I just have to find someone to put in my will......that is a big responsibility for someone and then I think well I won't be here so what difference would it make if he did not bury me........I won't be here to know. Hugs to you all.

ennui1 · ‎06-23-2013

RRR, you need to find people who appreciate you.

As for your will, there are plenty of charitable organizations. Or, you can set up a trust for your grandchild, so that the baby gets everything, and it skips a generation. Talk to an attorney.

Get some sleep. ${#emotions_dlg.blush}$

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

Ribbons Rainbows and Roses - I am so sorry your son has done this to you. Know in your heart that you did everything you could as his mother and take no blame or guilt for his behavior. Since you returned home your posts have been very positive, and as long as you take a positive attitude your life will be so much better. Your therapist is going to be a big help in keeping you on the right track. If we lived in the same town I would be there for you as a friend, it would be great to sit down and talk instead of having to communicate through the boards.

What is even sadder than the things he has said to you , is to cut you off from Jasmine, the granddaughter you love so much and want in your life. You don't deserve that. Your son has no loyalty and obviously he is allowing his wife to run his life. Perhaps when he matures and becomes a man he will find the strength to stand up for you, his mother, in the meantime you will stand strong and live your life to the fullest.

As for your will, as ennui1 suggested, you can leave whatever you have to your granddaughter in a trust. Your therapist should be able to point you in the right direction for that. Take care of yourself, you come first and I wish you peace and happiness.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

RRR, I don't know how often you speak to your son's step-mother but be careful what you say about him. It will get back to him.

If she brings him up, ask about your granddaughter and change the subject.

Big Sister · ‎05-15-2010

R and R, it sounds like you have come a long way to self-realization and will no longer allow anyone to treat you with disrespect.

If you have any close friends, you will need them more than ever. Now that I am a widow and my only sister has passed away, I am grateful for my really good friends. One friend took me to the Er on Sat. morning. She was there when I needed her. Those are the kinds of people we should surround ourselves with.

I think when you son has matured he may realize what he has done to you. I hope some day you and he and the baby can have a relationship. In the meantime, I am impressed with how well you are taking this. Hang in there. You are stronger than you think.

If they don't reimburse you for some of your costs, just chuck it up and let it go.

And, you can always vent here or just talk to us.

spud188 · ‎09-23-2010

What time zone are you in? Just trying to figure out if we are awake around the same time.I am on PST.

You can pre-arrange/pay for your own funeral and yes leave what you have in a trust for Jasime when she comes of age. If you wanted to you could even make videos of yourself talking to her for when she is older.

Melania · ‎06-12-2013

You have said that your son does know you post here and your name, many times. So he can see what you are saying.

Which is it?

Hoovermom · ‎03-19-2010

R & R - I have read your sad posts in the past and my heart would always break for you. Since you have returned home I can see a much more positive attitude with you for which I am glad. Take each day as it comes and remember all the love and support you have given your DS, DIL and baby Jasmine. I believe it will come back to you, not today but sometime in the future. Blessings and hugs to you today.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

Keep busy with something else. Let THEM call you. Be thankful for the time you had with Jasmine.

serenity4ever · ‎11-04-2013

R and R, in another thread on this page you posted that you did in fact contact him. He must have been following up on it and is very upset with you. You also posted in the past a thread where you showed some of your posts to your son. It may be helpful to you to remember that and realize that your threads here were probably seen by both your son and DIL. The history is all there on their computer that you borrowed during your stay. Your disdain for your DIL won't be winning any points for you with your son because she is the mother of his child.

Asking for money from your son, well, that is going to add more flame to the fire. Your son is not responsible for your fare to visit him. That's what moms do when they want to see their children...they spend some money and don't throw it up in their children's face when they spend it. I only mention this because you might want to re-think your own behavior and be more introspective instead of always blaming your DIL and son.