I am Conflicted Over this New Practice... - Page 4

kdgn · ‎03-09-2010

In the distant past (or maybe the not-so-distant past) some of these bloggers would have found the strength to become motivational speakers. It's a cataloging of their journey, the good-bad-ugly, and I don't see it as attention seeking at all.

I vaguely remember something from a college class about writing about your feelings, emotional upheavals in a journal. No one sees it but you and it's supposed to be therapeutic. Bloggers have basically made their journals available to anyone who wants to read them.

The Pioneer Woman started out as a blog for her scattered family. Look what happened to that one......

I see nothing wrong with using the blog to raise funds for various research causes either. As long as they are legal and legitimate.......

minkbunny · ‎03-09-2010

terrier,

You mentioned the words narcissistic and self serving in an earlier post.

Do you feel that way when others write about their homes, gardens, cooking, whatever their interests are - perhaps even sharing photos - with others?

Or just sharing what a person cares about?

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

People need to be heard. They need to share their burdens. If they raise money at the same time, so be it. I have no problem with it. If you do, don't read and by all means don't give.

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Keepin' it real.

bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

On 6/23/2014 terrier3 said:
On 6/23/2014 Emma bunting said:
I don't understand why you are conflicted..........unless it's something you, yourself are considering doing, which you've already said you don't have time for.

Blogging is these people's choice. I'm sure they do it for a variety of reasons, none of which should cause any conflict for you. If you feel "uneasy knowing too much" as you said.....don't read the blog. Pretty simple.

I admire the beauty of the writing...especially Blue4ben (the mom of the boy who died from cancer), but I also think it is narcissistic and self-serving. Sometimes you just have to carry on. Ben's twin doesn't want to visit the grave - why force him go and take pictures of the dirt and place them on the blog?

I admire Jill Kelly's honesty in admitting life with her husband was no bed of roses...but I don't think that her 2 girls would appreciate hearing about their dad's issues...not to mention putting them in a book for the world to see. I also don't see how "finding Jesus" is the answer to all their problems.

I'm not planning on reading anymore of the Jim Kelly stuff...even though it's re-printed on the front page of the paper!

That's a very judgemental statement. Because you do not understand you are judging what works for them and many others. My DH would be another post-Vietnam suicide statistic if it were not for "finding Jesus".

Free2be · ‎03-10-2010

On 6/23/2014 esmerelda said: People need to be heard. They need to share their burdens. If they raise money at the same time, so be it. I have no problem with it. If you do, don't read and by all means don't give.

This is why people post here, including Terrier. It's part of the human condition.

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 6/23/2014 minkbunny said:
terrier,

You mentioned the words narcissistic and self serving in an earlier post.

Do you feel that way when others write about their homes, gardens, cooking, whatever their interests are - perhaps even sharing photos - with others?

Or just sharing what a person cares about?

No...that's all surface stuff. The entire Q Community is set up to share to a certain degree.

I am conflicted about blogging about terminal illnesses, adultery, stuff that used to remain private. Creating websites open to the public, under your real name (not a nic) and posting every day.

Emma bunting · ‎04-21-2014

On 6/23/2014 terrier3 said:
On 6/23/2014 Emma bunting said:
I don't understand why you are conflicted..........unless it's something you, yourself are considering doing, which you've already said you don't have time for.

Blogging is these people's choice. I'm sure they do it for a variety of reasons, none of which should cause any conflict for you. If you feel "uneasy knowing too much" as you said.....don't read the blog. Pretty simple.

I admire the beauty of the writing...especially Blue4ben (the mom of the boy who died from cancer), but I also think it is narcissistic and self-serving. Sometimes you just have to carry on. Ben's twin doesn't want to visit the grave - why force him go and take pictures of the dirt and place them on the blog?

I admire Jill Kelly's honesty in admitting life with her husband was no bed of roses...but I don't think that her 2 girls would appreciate hearing about their dad's issues...not to mention putting them in a book for the world to see. I also don't see how "finding Jesus" is the answer to all their problems.

I'm not planning on reading anymore of the Jim Kelly stuff...even though it's re-printed on the front page of the paper!

You are calling a woman who lost her young son narcissistic and self serving.....and "sometimes you just have to carry on".....??? Really? Have you ever lost a child?

That has got to be one of the coldest, most callous statements I've ever read on this board.

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 6/23/2014 bikerbabe said:
On 6/23/2014 terrier3 said:
On 6/23/2014 Emma bunting said:
I don't understand why you are conflicted..........unless it's something you, yourself are considering doing, which you've already said you don't have time for.

Blogging is these people's choice. I'm sure they do it for a variety of reasons, none of which should cause any conflict for you. If you feel "uneasy knowing too much" as you said.....don't read the blog. Pretty simple.

I admire the beauty of the writing...especially Blue4ben (the mom of the boy who died from cancer), but I also think it is narcissistic and self-serving. Sometimes you just have to carry on. Ben's twin doesn't want to visit the grave - why force him go and take pictures of the dirt and place them on the blog?

I admire Jill Kelly's honesty in admitting life with her husband was no bed of roses...but I don't think that her 2 girls would appreciate hearing about their dad's issues...not to mention putting them in a book for the world to see. I also don't see how "finding Jesus" is the answer to all their problems.

I'm not planning on reading anymore of the Jim Kelly stuff...even though it's re-printed on the front page of the paper!

That's a very judgemental statement. Because you do not understand you are judging what works for them and many others. My DH would be another post-Vietnam suicide statistic if it were not for "finding Jesus".

I said I don't see how it is the answer to all their problems...specific man...specific family...specific situation.

bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

How is today's blogging any different than writing a book?

How does society deal with issues if people are supposed to be ashamed and keep it in the closet? How does society deal with mental illness, pedophilia, rape, drug addiction, alcoholism.... if people are told to keep it in the closet?

I'm not staying there are not boundaries but I refuse to return to a time when I should be ashamed of my life and not talk about it!

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 6/23/2014 Emma bunting said:
On 6/23/2014 terrier3 said:
On 6/23/2014 Emma bunting said:
I don't understand why you are conflicted..........unless it's something you, yourself are considering doing, which you've already said you don't have time for.

Blogging is these people's choice. I'm sure they do it for a variety of reasons, none of which should cause any conflict for you. If you feel "uneasy knowing too much" as you said.....don't read the blog. Pretty simple.

I admire the beauty of the writing...especially Blue4ben (the mom of the boy who died from cancer), but I also think it is narcissistic and self-serving. Sometimes you just have to carry on. Ben's twin doesn't want to visit the grave - why force him go and take pictures of the dirt and place them on the blog?

I admire Jill Kelly's honesty in admitting life with her husband was no bed of roses...but I don't think that her 2 girls would appreciate hearing about their dad's issues...not to mention putting them in a book for the world to see. I also don't see how "finding Jesus" is the answer to all their problems.

I'm not planning on reading anymore of the Jim Kelly stuff...even though it's re-printed on the front page of the paper!

You are calling a woman who lost her young son narcissistic and self serving.....and "sometimes you just have to carry on".....??? Really? Have you ever lost a child?

That has got to be one of the coldest, most callous statements I've ever read on this board.

I said I was conflicted...her writing moved me to tears...but on the other hand, she posted that her remaining twin didn't want to go to the grave and she made him go, took pics and posted them.

Conflicted means that I see both positive and negative about blogging this personally about such a serious matter.

No one who knows me would call me a cold person...she herself in her blog talks about how much she is dwelling on her deceased son and how it affects his remaining twin, her daughter and the baby she is now expecting. She questions herself on this issue.

You don't have to have lost a child to sympathize...I said I cried too and I don't even know them!