Community Chat

[DottieBlue]

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@Lucky Charm wrote:

Since he was clear that his work was monotonous and her's was quite challenging, it makes perfect sense that she doesn't feel the need to bounce balls against the wall during her down time.

I think he's unhappy most with his profession and there lies the problem with his marriage/wife.  

I bet she's a really good person.  An assumption on my part, I admit.

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I totally agree.

He admitted her work was much more demanding of her energy and intellect than his job was.  She needed down time and had every right to decide what was best for her to help her unwind. 

Too bad he didn't use some of his energy to do "pro bono work" like she so generously did.  Perhaps he would have found it more fulfilling than spending his time on boring "routine contracts."  Her job seemed to be much more fulfilling for her than his job was for him.  That makes a huge difference in how a person wants/needs to spend their personal time.

I give him credit for seeking professional counseling and realizing that they really were not compatible.  It sounds like he finally understands his wife's needs, and that he wants/needs  someone who is more like him. I'm glad that he is not going to try to "change" her, and what is best is to just go their separate ways.  Best wishes to both of them.

[BoopOMatic]

Do people not realize that a lot of these type things are scripted to get social media views?

I think "greyfeathers" on FB is fake also...

[Greeneyedlady21]

My advice is-to him seek mental health help

To her-run for your life

[scatcat]

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@BoopOMatic wrote:

Do people not realize that a lot of these type things are scripted to get social media views?

I think "greyfeathers" on FB is fake also...

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That was my first thought when I read it. Then when he wrote back, seems more fake 

[sunshine45]

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@BoopOMatic wrote:

Do people not realize that a lot of these type things are scripted to get social media views?

I think "greyfeathers" on FB is fake also...

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@BoopOMatic 

i have never heard of carolyn hax nor have i heard of greyfeathers.....i am on social media daily, but i must be missing all of the "good stuff." LOL

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

I'd have 2 letters for the jack hole and the second one is U.

[Daisy Sunflower]

I also think it's a made up story.

[golding76]

I am not saying that someone who wanted to appear in print did not concoct this story, but Carolyn Hax is a reputable advice columnist for The Washington Post and an author.  

Carolyn Hanley Hax is an American writer and columnist for The Washington Post and author of the advice column Carolyn Hax. The column debuted in 1997 and is published daily and syndicated by The Washington Post Syndicate to more than 200 newspapers.

Her Wiki page:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carolyn_Hax

[Mindy D]

He's the one with the problem. He's the one that could benefit from counseling. He is the one that feels a need to control his spouse so she meets his expectations.

[mspatmac]

Sounds to me like they were young and both focused on their careers.  Her's took off, it was both satisfying and challenging.  She even did  pro bono work, to her credit.  

He, on the other hand did boring contract work.  IMO he began to resent her success and it was manageable while they were busy but came to a head during quarantining.

Two people with nothing but their profession in common. She will excel and he will be miserable.