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[Desert Lily]

After moving across the country and living on the west coast (where my parents lived) for almost 2 decades, a couple years ago I received a letter from my ex-husband. He was remorseful about his part and wanted to be friends again. Then he called, and then he texted. We communicated several times a week after that and realized that we were still soulmates. We reached a point where we envisioned getting back together as soon as one of us retired. He asked me if I was "ready to settle down and marry him." The passing years had made us kinder, wiser, and close again. I remained a little cautious though. My mother died at the beginning of summer (my father died 5 years earlier) and I took the whole week of Thanksgiving off as it was a difficult first holiday without her. During the week, I decided that I had lived alone long enough and was willing to make more definite plans for the future. I spoke to my former love on Thanksgiving and on the weekend. Then, I received a call on Tuesday from family members that he died suddenly. I lost another loved one.

I'm devastated. I've been crying so hard that I look like I have 2 black eyes that are almost swollen shut. I spent today pulling out our old photos and drenching boxes of kleenex with tears.

I remember another post about someone asking if it's possible to rekindle the flame of a former love. My answer is yes. And, don't wait because life is so fragile and so short and love is what matters. If I could push the New Year's clock ahead to 2017, I'd do it now.

[3suwm5]

@Desert Lily  I am so very sorry to hear about your recent loss.  A sudden loss like that is so very devastating.

I lost my Mom very suddenly, I was in shock for a long time.  We had to clear out her apartment inside of a few days, I was just going through the motions.  Didn't even know what to do with anything.  Couldn't sleep, eat, think.  Had to call her sister, that was a hard call.  Had to call my DH, as I had chased to the hospital as soon as I got the phone call.  She was pronounced dead when she arrived there.

Everything was difficult for quite awhile.

Please try to move through this slowly.  It is painful, sad and very difficult.  Take one day at a time and know that we are here to listen, as you take each step along this journey of healing.

Prayers for you and his family.

[Sweet_Serenity]

Dear Lily, I'am sorry for your unexpected news. Beautiful story rekindled love. You were blessed to be able come together. My Ex, Passed 2years ago right before Christmas. Not long after his Dr explained time short. We had different circumstances than yours. Many won't believe when I say he comes to visit me, More than once. Feel there's peace between us. Which brings me to this. Love never dies, Believe two of you will be together again. Pray for you, To be kind to yourself in this delicate time. Please stay in touch.💗

[BohemianGal]

@Desert Lily....

I am so very sorry.  I understand that these losses are  hard to bare.  To lose your Dad, Mom, and now your soulmate. 

I know that your hope was to be reunited with your ex-husband and move forward together in this life, and you are mouring the loss of that dream.  However, you were "reunited" in a sense, as you were able to come together and "heal" your relationship before he passed. And, this, my dear Desert Lily, is a blessing. Hold on to that thought in the days ahead...and know that he is "with you" in spirit, ,as are your parents.

Praying for the healing of your heart....

Love, BohemianGal

[Pooky1]

omg. so sorry to hear that.that sounds so incredible sad. you will be in our thoughts and prayers. good luck.

[gidgetgh]

@Desert Lily- I'm so very sorry for both of your losses.  How incredibly sad.

[goldensrbest]

@Desert Lily, I am sorry, please don't blame your self, for not moving faster in this relationship, maybe this happened for a reason, we just don't understand all that GOD has instore for us,he is in control.

[circles]

I am so very sorry....

[meallen616]

[bri20]

I'm so sorry.   That makes me very sad.