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[Anonymous032819]

I just found out from a mutual friend that a co-worker of mine got the job.

She has been there for about 4 years, and is a part-time employee.

I'm trying to be happy for her, but I gotta be honest, it does hurt, and I am disappointed.

As I keep telling myself, this was a learning experience, and there will be other opportunities.

[Sooner]

Sorry you didn't get it, but good for you!  That is the attitude of a successful perosn.  Sometimes it's just favoritism or politics or diversity needs, but whatever, sit down and think about what you might do differently next time!

GO forth and succeed my dear!  You WILL!!!!

[Anonymous032819]

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@Sooner wrote:

Sorry you didn't get it, but good for you!  That is the attitude of a successful perosn.  Sometimes it's just favoritism or politics or diversity needs, but whatever, sit down and think about what you might do differently next time!

GO forth and succeed my dear!  You WILL!!!!

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@Sooner 

You're right about "office politics".

I had a feeling the the manager had her eye on who she wanted, and I felt like I was just going through the motions.

The manager knows that I am not a 100% "company person", meaning, I'm not afraid to speak my mind, or to question things.

I don't brown-nose.

Whereas, the girl who did get it, she is a "yes" person, and can be molded to what they want.

[dulwich]

@Anonymous032819   So sorry to hear this but was not meant to be there is something better out there coming for you.  Keep positive and keep eyes, ears open for next opportunity which will come around - as you say a learning experience onward to new doors opening,  

[Sooner]

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

Sorry you didn't get it, but good for you!  That is the attitude of a successful perosn.  Sometimes it's just favoritism or politics or diversity needs, but whatever, sit down and think about what you might do differently next time!

GO forth and succeed my dear!  You WILL!!!!

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@Sooner 

You're right about "office politics".

I had a feeling the the manager had her eye on who she wanted, and I felt like I was just going through the motions.

The manager knows that I am not a 100% "company person", meaning, I'm not afraid to speak my mind, or to question things.

I don't brown-nose.

Whereas, the girl who did get it, she is a "yes" person, and can be molded to what they want.

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@Anonymous032819 Do you want a promotion enough to be more cooperative with management?  It is a hard question you need to ask yourself.  But you really need to ask it. 

I worked for more than 40 years.  And it's also impossible to advance if you aren't part of the team.  SO think about what you want, what changes you would be willing to make.  And what do you want--the extra money, the authority, a better office, etc.  What is attractive to you about the job?

I am being very honest with you. . . and feel greatly for you in this situation in hope that I can help you evaluate the reality of what you want and what you want it to be.  If that makes any sense.

[Anonymous032819]

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@Sooner wrote:

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

Sorry you didn't get it, but good for you!  That is the attitude of a successful perosn.  Sometimes it's just favoritism or politics or diversity needs, but whatever, sit down and think about what you might do differently next time!

GO forth and succeed my dear!  You WILL!!!!

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@Sooner 

You're right about "office politics".

I had a feeling the the manager had her eye on who she wanted, and I felt like I was just going through the motions.

The manager knows that I am not a 100% "company person", meaning, I'm not afraid to speak my mind, or to question things.

I don't brown-nose.

Whereas, the girl who did get it, she is a "yes" person, and can be molded to what they want.

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@Anonymous032819 Do you want a promotion enough to be more cooperative with management?  It is a hard question you need to ask yourself.  But you really need to ask it. 

I worked for more than 40 years.  And it's also impossible to advance if you aren't part of the team.  SO think about what you want, what changes you would be willing to make.  And what do you want--the extra money, the authority, a better office, etc.  What is attractive to you about the job?

I am being very honest with you. . . and feel greatly for you in this situation in hope that I can help you evaluate the reality of what you want and what you want it to be.  If that makes any sense.

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@Sooner 

I do appreciate your being honest.

I applied because the money was attractive to me, and I know that if I want to advance, I have to be less of a questioner, and conduct myself as if everything that the company does is golden and wonderful.

[CatsyCline]

If there's an internal open position, every place i have worked was required to post it. So  they always interviewed every applicant.

You are right they already had someone in mind. Sorry it didn't work out in your favor.

In most workplaces it's important to " toe the company line" , play the game, if you want to move up the ladder.

[Desertdi]

You will have a much better opportunity coming your way!

[Sooner]

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

Sorry you didn't get it, but good for you!  That is the attitude of a successful perosn.  Sometimes it's just favoritism or politics or diversity needs, but whatever, sit down and think about what you might do differently next time!

GO forth and succeed my dear!  You WILL!!!!

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@Sooner 

You're right about "office politics".

I had a feeling the the manager had her eye on who she wanted, and I felt like I was just going through the motions.

The manager knows that I am not a 100% "company person", meaning, I'm not afraid to speak my mind, or to question things.

I don't brown-nose.

Whereas, the girl who did get it, she is a "yes" person, and can be molded to what they want.

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@Anonymous032819 Do you want a promotion enough to be more cooperative with management?  It is a hard question you need to ask yourself.  But you really need to ask it. 

I worked for more than 40 years.  And it's also impossible to advance if you aren't part of the team.  SO think about what you want, what changes you would be willing to make.  And what do you want--the extra money, the authority, a better office, etc.  What is attractive to you about the job?

I am being very honest with you. . . and feel greatly for you in this situation in hope that I can help you evaluate the reality of what you want and what you want it to be.  If that makes any sense.

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@Sooner 

I do appreciate your being honest.

I applied because the money was attractive to me, and I know that if I want to advance, I have to be less of a questioner, and conduct myself as if everything that the company does is golden and wonderful.

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@Anonymous032819 Having seen and been through it a lot of times, it's never easy.  My husband had a lot of people work for him.  Some he mentored and some he tried and he even had a few say they didn't want to deal with people and went back to a non-management position because of the strain of giving evaluations and disciplining people.

So that's why I am asking you the questions.  Not that I doubt you or you motives, but just sort of a suggetion that now is a great time to decide what you want.

Sometimes it is very worth it, sometimes it isn't.  But sit down and look at both sides of the coin of management and non-management.  It's a very different world and experience. Also, as a manager you have a change to be a positive influence and make a difference to individuals even if you might not change the world (or the management team.)

[Anonymous032819]

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@CatsyCline wrote:

If there's an internal open position, every place i have worked was required to post it. So  they always interviewed every applicant.

You are right they already had someone in mind. Sorry it didn't work out in your favor.

In most workplaces it's important toe the company line, play the game, if you want to move up the ladder.

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@CatsyCline 

You're right. You're absolutely right.