Community Chat

[LindaSal]

Well... some happy stories and sad stories.   I feel for all of us that have lost our moms and while  I enjoyed mother's day very much when my kids were young, I too ask them not to buy me  gifts anymore, just a call or a visit is all I need.  In past years as our kids got older my sister and I would go out for an early brunch on mother's day, just the two of us.

It was quite nice and we did it for many years.   Now we'll just chat on the phone for awhile.  My most special thing now is DH will make me crepes on mother's day morning  with a mimosa, so it's all good

Happy Mother' day to all who will celebrate in one way or another.

[KCDiva]

I don't care about it either. I told my daughter not to send me anything. This is the first year they don't live near me so to mail something is ridiculous. I don't need anything either. Just a phone call will be nice. Yes when she was little and my granddaughter was little the day was special but it's not a big deal anymore. My granddaughter is grown but she is the one who makes any day about me a big deal. I love her for that. My mother is in a nursing home now and so no celebration there. She doesn't know it's Mother's Day. I do hope that the mothers who enjoy the day have a great day though. ♥

[tototwo]

Yes.  On Mothers' Day weekend every year all the garden centers and nurseries have big sales!   I save up my garden budget and wait for weeks to buy annuals, perennials, and hanging baskets galore on Mothers' Day.  It's a big weekend for me! 

[JJsMom]

As I got older, I realized Mother's Day can be very upsetting and triggering for many people for so many reasons. They may have had a horrible and abusive mother, their mother may have passed away, they may be infertile and long to be a mom, etc. I just hope everyone is sensitive to others' various reactions to these holidays and respect them. It's not a happy day for everyone.

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@NicksmomESQ wrote:

 @CrazyKittyLvr2   Sorry I disagree with you. I love Mother's Day. My DH & son always make a fuss over me. This year we are celebrating with my DIL & her parents. My son made reservations at our favorite restaurant on the water.

  My son & now DIL & I are very close. We spend a lot of time together. I love every minute of it. Mother's Day is also a day for my son.He made me a mother, so every Mother's Day I get him a little gift too. This year I got one for my DIL as well.

  I feel very grateful & blessed.
  

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I love Mother's Day, too.  And I say that as the daughter of a wonderful mother.  I know how fortunate I am, and I pray for those who, sadly, have had such a different experience.

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@FancyPhillyshopper wrote:

I think Mother's Day is a great holiday because it reminds all of us to stop for a day and honor and remember our beloved and precious mothers.

Yes, I agree that spending time together is more wonderful than receiving a physical gift, but I believe many children enjoy thinking about their parents and picking out something special, which I can see from some of the comments here.  

So telling people not to celebrate or bring you a gift could make the day a little less special to them, because they might WANT to do something, even if it is small. It is the thought that counts.

The day is not just for the mothers to get gifts and feel recognized--it is also a day for the children to create memories.

Yes, we may feel sad because we have lost beloved family members, but there are many young people who look to the older generation as role models, and learn from us how we celebrate.

And for those that do not have a mother or dislike their mothers, then recognize or honor somebody else, such as an aunt or dear friend, or make a donation to a charity.

I think it is important to keep the traditions of all of these special holidays in our nation and our cultures, no matter how we personally feel, so that the legacies continue.

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What a wise and generous post, @FancyPhillyshopper . Mother's Day can be as much a gift to children (and fathers) as it is to mothers.

[ladyann45]

I enjoy Mother's Day for the simple reason that I was able to become one, not everyone can be a Mother for a lot of reasons. My Mother passed away 15 years ago and I was told always remember all the wonderful times we had together. Now I get to celebrate this day with my children, grandchildren,sisters and their children. All of them get together who live in the city with us to celebrate and cook. For all of you that don't I can understand how you feel, but remember we are all here by God's Grace so enjoy Sunday in your best life experience.

[beckyb1012]

We put my Mom in a hospice facility the day after Mother's Day 2013 and she passed away two days later.   Now with two grandchildren since then I celebrate Mother's Day a different way.  I now give a special gift to a different Mom, my DDIL.  She called me yesterday to say thank you for her card and gift and I tell her how blessed I am to be a Mom/Grandmom.  I love the holiday but it as evolved over the years for me.

[CherryHugs]

I miss my Mom so much and think of her every day. She was the best and was so caring, kind, loving and loveable. I was heartbroken for months after she died. I still cry some days from missing her. Mothers day is bittersweet. 

[dsw503]

I love being spoiled by all my fur babies (past and present) on M-Day! I totally enjoyed giving my mom and grandma cards and a gift. Many happy memories of going to the grocery with my dad and buying whatever special things we wanted to make for the M-Day dinner. I really liked making them feel special and now I appreciate what DH and the fur babies do for me. For me, it's all about having a special day to celebrate love and family.