How would you feel? - Page 9

Travone · ‎10-14-2016

It's not @Pqfan 's fault if anyone thought her life was in danger. She said nothing that would indicate that.

You're right, she didn't say her life was in danger. But she is too blame for the situation she is in. She says she can't leave and she "hides" her feelings. She can change her situation. She is a drama queen. Got into this situation all on her own. She will never listen to anyones advice. She'll end up moving with him and never telling him how she feels because it is easier than taking control of her life and supporting herself. I've seen too many women like this.....too much drama.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
@Travone wrote:
@Travone wrote:
@Pqfan wrote:

@cherry wrote:
Are you afraid?
No.
I just feel like their bond is bothering me.
I just haven't told him that.
I am not even sure he would give it up.
So I have to go.

So to recap.....you are not in danger. You are just unhappy because your boyfriend is in contact with an ex girlfriend. But, he doesnt know you are unhappy because you hide your feelings. I think that sums it up from what I've read.

Stop the drama. Tell him how you feel. If you don't speak up he will never know this is bothering you. If he doesn't change after you speak up....leave. Never be in a positon where you HAVE to stay with someone who makes you unhappy.

If you don't speak up you can not blame him for your unhappiness, you have to blame yourself.

Sorry if I came off harsh, but you had people calling hotlines and looking into temporary shelter for you. People thought your life was in danger.
@Travone wrote:
@Travone wrote:
@Pqfan wrote:

@cherry wrote:
Are you afraid?
No.
I just feel like their bond is bothering me.
I just haven't told him that.
I am not even sure he would give it up.
So I have to go.

So to recap.....you are not in danger. You are just unhappy because your boyfriend is in contact with an ex girlfriend. But, he doesnt know you are unhappy because you hide your feelings. I think that sums it up from what I've read.

Stop the drama. Tell him how you feel. If you don't speak up he will never know this is bothering you. If he doesn't change after you speak up....leave. Never be in a positon where you HAVE to stay with someone who makes you unhappy.

If you don't speak up you can not blame him for your unhappiness, you have to blame yourself.

Sorry if I came off harsh, but you had people calling hotlines and looking into temporary shelter for you. People thought your life was in danger.
It's not @Pqfan 's fault if anyone thought her life was in danger. She said nothing that would indicate that.

I agree, I don't know how or why she was getting "go to shelter" advice ...LOL I dont why posters assumed she was in some type of danger; she did not say a single thing that would give anyone that impression. Nothing at all. I think posters brought there own feels toward men into the discussion. OP's only problem was the boyfriend who she feels is too attached to a former girlfriend.

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

@Pqfan wrote:
Travones Post actually gave me a much needed laugh.
Posting in here is like a game of Telephone sometimes!

Excuse me?

All of us are trying to help!

Definitely too much drama on the OP’s part.

I’m tapping out.

Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

Except for this issue I was pretty happy but yes it is my own fault for not speaking to him about this.

Mindy D · ‎05-23-2010

@Pqfan wrote:
My boyfriend is friends with his ex.
Not thrilled about that but whatever.

He lost something in the house and I went to look for it.
I found a bag with fake pearls.
I said jokingly.
I see you bought your other girlfriend some jewelery.
He said I don't have another girlfriend.
But ___ likes pearls.
Pick whatever you want out of the bag.
I said I don't want any.

A couple of weeks ago I found broke ones in a bag that he said he is fixing for her.
I don't think he is cheating but I feel like "carp"
Like even though they aren't together I feel like their friendship is better than my relationship.

He gave me a "carppy" looking bracelet from the same company but the pearls were nice.
ALL opinions welcome.

You’re his romantic partner now. If he is not interested in his ex romantically anymore, then she is a friend. You might be jealous unnecessarily. You will just have to watch out for signs that the ex is more than a friend.

Grouchomarx · ‎01-23-2019

@Pqfan wrote:
Except for this issue I was pretty happy but yes it is my own fault for not speaking to him about this.

Nobody has a perfect relationship, we've all been guilty of hiding feelings about something or other. At least I sure have. And I consider my relationship very strong. The dynamics between two people can be very complicated. I seriously think you should bring it up with him though. It's quite possible there can ba a good outcome to this situation. I'm trying to be optimistic and not picture the Lifetime movie version of possible events.

Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

@Travone wrote:
It's not @Pqfan 's fault if anyone thought her life was in danger. She said nothing that would indicate that.

You're right, she didn't say her life was in danger. But she is too blame for the situation she is in. She says she can't leave and she "hides" her feelings. She can change her situation. She is a drama queen. Got into this situation all on her own. She will never listen to anyones advice. She'll end up moving with him and never telling him how she feels because it is easier than taking control of her life and supporting herself. I've seen too many women like this.....too much drama.

How am I a drama queen when I din't even tell him about this in the first place. The only part of this I agree with is that I need to take control of the situation. I actually do take advice from these ladies. I have talked to them about myself since 2006!

Preds · ‎12-17-2012

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Do what's best for you because you are all that matters. Look into your heart and keep that heart happy. Take steps to make it happen.

Wishing you the best and we are here to help when you feel you need it.

Fate whispers to her, "You cannot withstand the storm." She whispers back, "I am the storm."

Daysdee · ‎03-09-2010

What happens to your job if you move with him? I don't think I would make the move to live by the ex. Check with your city--sometimes they have a department that finds home/room for someone that needs it. For example, sometimes a senior person would like to have someone to live with them so they are not alone, etc. Good luck to you. (Save all the money you can to be independent.)

Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

@sidsmom wrote:
@Pqfan wrote:
Travones Post actually gave me a much needed laugh.
Posting in here is like a game of Telephone sometimes!
Excuse me?
All of us are trying to help!

Definitely too much drama on the OP’s part.
I’m tapping out.

Thanks for posting anyway. I meant by the telephone comment that Travone obviously didn't read my 1 st post. Tapping out is okay with me. I am tapping out myself.